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 Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 5:39 pm
Lomedin My Hollow Lomedin True love is just a matter of compromise. It does not exist unless you want it to exist... If you decide to love somebody forever, there you go... the rest is chemistry I don't think so. Ever had a crush on someone who didn't like you back? Maybe in like the 3rd grade or so? If they decided they loved you then they really didn't love you to begin with then did they? I can understand someone not loving someone and then learning more about them and THEN loving them. But I don't think that just because you decide to love someone that it happens. Sorry, I did not explain myself properly... Obviously, you have to feel something for the rest to develop. But love is more to do with your own decisions than people think. Of course, I'm not saying you cannot have a crush on someone and that's it, but I'd say that kinda passion and "quick" feelings are related to teenage years (not only, since your own personality plays a role, but still...). What I meant is that, once you are in love, you can decide it to be the love of your life, because it's more likely you won't be "in love" with that person for the rest of your life, but that "passion" will evolve/mutate/degenerate into a more familar and deep love as the one you could feel for relatives/close friends. Anyway, I agree with you in your reply. Yeah, i think two people need to have enough in common to get along but be different enough to keep things interesting. I wouldn't want to marry myself, how lame is that (or awesome depending on how you look at it)
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Posted: Wed Sep 12, 2007 5:51 pm
My Hollow Lomedin My Hollow Lomedin True love is just a matter of compromise. It does not exist unless you want it to exist... If you decide to love somebody forever, there you go... the rest is chemistry I don't think so. Ever had a crush on someone who didn't like you back? Maybe in like the 3rd grade or so? If they decided they loved you then they really didn't love you to begin with then did they? I can understand someone not loving someone and then learning more about them and THEN loving them. But I don't think that just because you decide to love someone that it happens. Sorry, I did not explain myself properly... Obviously, you have to feel something for the rest to develop. But love is more to do with your own decisions than people think. Of course, I'm not saying you cannot have a crush on someone and that's it, but I'd say that kinda passion and "quick" feelings are related to teenage years (not only, since your own personality plays a role, but still...). What I meant is that, once you are in love, you can decide it to be the love of your life, because it's more likely you won't be "in love" with that person for the rest of your life, but that "passion" will evolve/mutate/degenerate into a more familar and deep love as the one you could feel for relatives/close friends. Anyway, I agree with you in your reply. Yeah, i think two people need to have enough in common to get along but be different enough to keep things interesting. I wouldn't want to marry myself, how lame is that (or awesome depending on how you look at it) Yeah, you cannot love or date anyone that's just like you. I did for awhile, and it was cool at first but when I look back at that relationship, it was pretty bad. So now-a-days I strongly believe that there should be enough differences that aren't huge in a relationship.
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Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 8:13 am
I never met anybody like me neutral
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Posted: Thu Sep 13, 2007 6:09 pm
Lomedin I never met anybody like me neutral Me neither, I don't think we will have a problem dating ourselves.
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 4:53 pm
I agree in part with all of your responses, it's just hard to deal with a break up that doesn't really make any sense at all. I know they hardly do ever make sense, but especially ones like the one I had not to recently. I mean, we've been together for three years and we were so deeply in love, nothing could come between us. But she jumped to conclusions about what I was thinking without asking me, even though she knew I was available to talk about anything troubling her, she didn't, so she gained to wrong impression of what I wanted. She thought she had to change who she was around me and she felt like I was over-protective. The last thing I'd ever wanted from her was for her to change, because it's not love if you don't love them for who they really are. And I can be over-protective at times because when I love someone, I want to do everything I can to protect them. Besides, it was hard not to want to help her everywhere I could because long-distance relationships take away a lot of important relationship matters.
There I go, blabbing like I want sympathy or something.. (I don't expect it or want it, unless you actually do care.)
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 5:04 pm
Maybe it was just time for a break? Seems like she was looking for an out. Then again i could be 100% wrong.
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 5:09 pm
I really don't know. She says she doesn't even know why she wanted to break up, and I'm just trying to figure it out myself still. I mean, it really doesn't make any sense because it literally happened over night. She was under a lot of stress, and I think that because of all that stress hitting her at once, she pushed me away so she wouldn't hurt me with all her extra problems; again jumping to conclusions that she'd hurt me with her stress. I get most of my happiness from helping other people, regardless of how I may feel afterwards. :/ I just wish she would let me help.. sad
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 5:12 pm
That's why she's pushing you away, right there. You are suffocating her. I know you don't mean to, and I know you just want to help but you have to let her come to you. Just let her know you are there for her, because when it comes down to it, she doesn't want your help. She probablly wants to fix things on her own and then, she'll come to you. But if you are trying to fix everything, then it seems like you are overbearing and not letting her live her life.
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 5:15 pm
I've let her go and I'm letting her live her life and I'm just wasting away, but I'm letting her live her life and she knows that I'm right here waiting.
It's ust frustrating that girls in general never let you know what they're thinking until they can't take it anymore. If they spoke their minds sooner, life would be a lot less painful. But at the same time, life would be shitty without pain.
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 5:17 pm
You are wasting away because you want to waste away. Stop thinking about it, I know you love her, but maybe it's for the best to try and get a little psace.
Just because one girl never tells you how they are feeling doesnt mean they all don't.
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 5:19 pm
Well, by waiting away I don't mean that I'm not doing anything and keeping my entire life on hold. I am moving and I do keep going, but the wasting away part is my imagination picturing my life without her. I seriously don't even want to speak of it. When I love someone, I give them everything, I really do. And it's just hard to move on with everything when everything is still with someone else, someone that you still want to give everything to..
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 5:21 pm
I do not like being touched, therefore I cannot love.
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Digital Malevolence Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 6:44 pm
Like at all? Not a fan of girlfriends either?
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 6:58 pm
No, the most affectionate thing I can stand is a hug and holding hands and that shitty junk. kissing and anything beyond that repulses me......I'm doomed to be alone.
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Digital Malevolence Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Sep 17, 2007 7:42 pm
IAmAlwaysHereForYou Well, by waiting away I don't mean that I'm not doing anything and keeping my entire life on hold. I am moving and I do keep going, but the wasting away part is my imagination picturing my life without her. I seriously don't even want to speak of it. When I love someone, I give them everything, I really do. And it's just hard to move on with everything when everything is still with someone else, someone that you still want to give everything to.. damn man...you need to live YOUR life, not an imagined life with someone else. i know this sounds really bad, but i'm a blunt guy. sometimes bluntness helps, sometimes it doesn't. but speaking as a guy who is both blunt and has gone through a similar situation in the last 6 or 7 weeks... move on. if you think you can remain friends, by all means, try, friends are always good; but seriously, grow up, act like a man, and move on. love is not the disney, picture-book, everyone has a soulmate story that hollywood wants us to believe. to quote richard hell: "feelings WILL change, we're helpless, they MUST." people change whether you want them to or not, as a result their feelings for others sometimes change, you just need to deal with it in your life. because you CAN'T make someone change themselves back. you have to open yourself to other options, because if you just pine away for her, you're going to have a miserable ******** life. there are other girls out there, and if one breaks up with you, you are perfectly capable of finding another one.
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