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Aw, I'm glad I could help. smile

And, man, that's pretty much the only downfall to a passionate guy! Haha!

I lost my virginity after getting "caught up in the moment". Lucky for me it just so happened I was ready and felt it was the right time (even though I didn't give it much thought beforehand...).

So, yeah, that's why I warn others to be careful about that... 'cause I've heard too many stories from girls who weren't as lucky as I.

He destroyed my life...



Sadly I didn't have a chioce when I lost my virginity. =/
Thing is, it is the only thing you can give away once and you can't get it back.
I Agree with Grin Evilly; don't rush it, and spend time together in person.
He could be completly different from how you know him on the phone or internet...
If you were to ask him if he was ready, of course he would say yes, most guys do.

Now I will destroy him.

I don't think virginity is such a big deal. I mean sex is sex and love is love, sex isn't love but love can be sex mrgreen It's not something you should fuss about. Sex is for pleasure 4laugh If you want to have sex then go for it. If you don't feel like it, say no.
I don't understand the doublestandard that a guy can screw around and no one says anything about it, and then when a girl has little bit fun it's 'Oh so horrible and indecent!!'

Narceaus post was really good! She pretty much nailed it all. The thing I always tell people who ask about being ready for sex, is that they need to me mentally mature enough to handle the responsibility that sex brings into your life. Sometimes it takes a lot to admit you aren't mature enough for sex, and thats when baaaad things happen! But I have the impression from this thread that you seem like a pretty smart cookie.

I personally believe that as long as you dont purposely rush into it(like I did, explain later), and youve thought about it a lot before hand, when the right time comes it will just happen. You shouldnt ever force it and should never let it force you. And remember, theres a difference between feeling uncomfortable because you suddenly wonder if it's right, and a difference between feeling uncomfortable because it's a new physical situation.

My frist time was so completely wrong. I was going through a strange rebellious phase and was dating this redneck I didn't even really like just because he got me out of the house. I had sex with him just because I could, not exactly because I wanted to. I was mature enough for the responsibilities and did all the right things as far as keeping myself safe and healthy, but on an emotional level... just yuck. I'm not the kind of girl to sit around waiting for "true love" to have sex, but I do wish that I had waited for someone I actually had an emotional connection with for my first time, because at least the awkwardness of the whole thing would at least be attached with a sentimental memory of the person I was with. Now I just dont think about it. Hm.

I like what Simi X wrote, too! I appreciate it when sex is a part of love... but after you're experienced enough it sure is nice just to do it for funsies! Lol! I hate the double standard, as well, but I say WHATEVER. If I see blood I want I go for it. I say, if sex was meant only for biological purposes, it wouldn't feel good!