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 Posted: Fri Apr 01, 2005 4:30 pm
Hey im having a charity,Sad but I have way to much gold for one person to spend and plus I have everything I need or could want on gaia. So I will be starting a charity . I thought I would share this with you guys, here the link if you're intrested. Needing some gold???
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 12:41 am
*posts random crap to help this thread leapfrog the five billion borthday threads.* stare
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 5:41 am
I have a idea for a thread...
Since not all of us are from the same area of the world..Why don't we make a thread for showing off different items that we have bought? Some people may of never seen what a stroller in Iceland looks like for example.
Another thread suggestion..
How bout we make a thread that has links to different parenting sites and baby item sites...examples www.babycenter.com and say something like www.fisherprice.com
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 7:47 am
Jadean Jaggerstone I have a idea for a thread... Since not all of us are from the same area of the world..Why don't we make a thread for showing off different items that we have bought? Some people may of never seen what a stroller in Iceland looks like for example. Another thread suggestion.. How bout we make a thread that has links to different parenting sites and baby item sites...examples www.babycenter.com and say something like www.fisherprice.com
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 8:33 am
Just popping in to say I'm not dead xP
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 10:44 am
Neko girl Manda Just popping in to say I'm not dead xP And we were just about to get out the liquor! XD
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 12:26 pm
Any advice on how to make a 2 year old understand that hitting and throwing hard objects at his mother is just not okay?
I've been having this issue with my son and today just got worse. He threw a tennis ball at my face, and broke my glasses (my nose is swollen). This was out of the blue, he wasn't angry (at least I didn't think he was), we weren't even talking or anything, he was with my husband then came over and did it.
I've tried talking to him, and he just doesn't get it. We tried the time out in a chair bit. He did stay there for a while, but when we asked him to apologize for what he had done (we talked to him about it too, that I was hurting, etc), he refused to say I'm sorry.
More than the physical pain, my heart hurts everytime he does this. I love him so much and I do everything for him, I just don't get why he behaves like that with me. He's playful with everyone else he loves to horse around, but he's this aggressive just with me. I sometimes feel like he hates me, plain and simple.
Thanks for listening.
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 3:11 pm
Lluvia Maya Any advice on how to make a 2 year old understand that hitting and throwing hard objects at his mother is just not okay? I've been having this issue with my son and today just got worse. He threw a tennis ball at my face, and broke my glasses (my nose is swollen). This was out of the blue, he wasn't angry (at least I didn't think he was), we weren't even talking or anything, he was with my husband then came over and did it. I've tried talking to him, and he just doesn't get it. We tried the time out in a chair bit. He did stay there for a while, but when we asked him to apologize for what he had done (we talked to him about it too, that I was hurting, etc), he refused to say I'm sorry. More than the physical pain, my heart hurts everytime he does this. I love him so much and I do everything for him, I just don't get why he behaves like that with me. He's playful with everyone else he loves to horse around, but he's this aggressive just with me. I sometimes feel like he hates me, plain and simple. Thanks for listening. All i can suggest is limit his exposure to violence, (my son cant watch his all time favriote power rangers and tmnt) and just keep telling him its not nice to hurt mommy, and maybe cry a bit to show him how you feel. Rian never had a problem aside form fighting with kera like he was a power ranger, but kera is quite mean to me. Im doing the same thing i suggested to you for her.
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 3:18 pm
Lluvia Maya Any advice on how to make a 2 year old understand that hitting and throwing hard objects at his mother is just not okay?
when my older son was two, he went through a HUGE Hit Mommy In the Face Phase. and yes, ruined my $300 glasses, yep. I feel for you. we did time outs in his room. this is going to sound horrible but there were times when I had to stand outside the door and hold it shut while he screamed his head off on the other side. for the whole 2.5 minutes of his time out. it was awful, but it eventually worked. consistency and immediate application of the time out were the key to our success. and don't expect him to apologize at this stage..... does he really understand what "sorry" is yet? IMO it's more important to get it through his head that he cannot hit/throw things at you, then focus on the apologizing.
hope you feel better soon, and good luck.
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 4:52 pm
Lluvia Maya Any advice on how to make a 2 year old understand that hitting and throwing hard objects at his mother is just not okay? I've been having this issue with my son and today just got worse. He threw a tennis ball at my face, and broke my glasses (my nose is swollen). This was out of the blue, he wasn't angry (at least I didn't think he was), we weren't even talking or anything, he was with my husband then came over and did it. I've tried talking to him, and he just doesn't get it. We tried the time out in a chair bit. He did stay there for a while, but when we asked him to apologize for what he had done (we talked to him about it too, that I was hurting, etc), he refused to say I'm sorry. More than the physical pain, my heart hurts everytime he does this. I love him so much and I do everything for him, I just don't get why he behaves like that with me. He's playful with everyone else he loves to horse around, but he's this aggressive just with me. I sometimes feel like he hates me, plain and simple. Thanks for listening. He certainly does not hate you! My little sister used to act like that all the time, mostly with me as far as I can remember (I was really young when she was a toddler). She even went so far as to clonk me on the head with a metal bar once! Be thankful you only had a tennis ball! xd I'm sorry I can't be of more help, I have no children of my own or any experience with calming their aggressive sides.
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Posted: Sat Apr 02, 2005 6:36 pm
((Sorry, had to edit due to rule 5: 04/04/05-Manda))
UH I'm going to go against beating the crap out of your son on this one, sorry TexasMomma, that's horrible advice and I personally don't think it's funny joking about it either when it's not your own child. I'd take offense to anyone saying they'd "beat the crap" out of my son.
Firstly, I wouldn't say that they learn it from "violent" things. Sometimes they just pick up on that from other kids, sometimes it's just part of a phase. Logan watches wrestling and he does know how to do the choke, but he knows the difference between playing and just being mean. What he learns from his shows isnt' what he uses on me.
So, with that said. Timeouts haven't started to work really until JUST recently, for us, and he's 2 1/2. Maybe having him put his nose on the wall and putting his hands behind his back might let him understand a little more?
I echo wordsmith, great advice, consistency and immediate action. I think it's just that "testing the boundaries" thing. Logan went through that with me, he would headbutt me right in the temple. I would have to hold whatever body part he was hitting me with, give him the firm voice explaining to him that it was wrong and mean to hurt people. I know they say 1 minute per year of age for timeout, but he would get quiet time afterwards. No toys, no TV for a little while after the timeout.
Don't blame yourself over it, you are doing a great job, I don't know if you stay home with him, but if you are a SAHM, that might have a lot to do with it. They're with us for longer periods of time, they have to test and try us, when usually the other person (usually Daddy) is considered more "fun" and not necessarily always the disciplanarian.
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2005 4:37 pm
((Sorry, had to edit due to rule 5: 04/04/05-Manda))
Um... well, I have to say that I sort of agree and disagree. While I do belive that spaking is a form of discipline that should not be totally ruled out, it has its time and place and should not be overused. Primarily it should be a last resort. Overuse kind of spoils the effectiveness of it. I really only have my parents and family to go off of here, but I really think that they overused it. I kind of just got use to it and it ceased to be an effective form of discipline for me. In this case though, a couple of light licks might have been appropriate (since this was a case of harming themselves or others), but only with enough safeguards. It does need to be immediate, but then they have to have immediate assurance that you still love them and explaination of what the inappropriate behavior was. Without those guidelines, the child gets confused or stops believing that you love them. I've seen that much too often as well. Quite a few modern parents opt out of spaking because they feel like they might get carried away or a myriad of other various and valid reasons.
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2005 6:12 pm
Thanks for all the advice heart
He did calm down alot later on and I talked to him again. He seemed sorry and promised not to do it again. So far so good, he's behaving really good.
The only TV I let him watch are the morning cartoons. But yes, when the grown ups are watching movies, he's around as well, so I can understand where he might be getting ideas from, so I'll be more careful of that in the future.
I trust this is just a phase *crosses fingers*
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Posted: Sun Apr 03, 2005 7:15 pm
I'm back. My daughter went back to my ex today. We had a wonderful week together and my lawyer is trying to get me makeup time for the last 6 visitations I've been denied. Sucks though. Leaving like that I didn't get to come here for the Easter event nor donate. crying Ahh well. We didn't plan on being in Florida for a week though. We only got back last Monday. So I'm just letting you all know I'm still alive and floating around here somewhere.
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Posted: Mon Apr 04, 2005 8:46 am
I'm kinda at a loss right now. One of my playgroup moms just lost her son, he was turning 2 next week. I'm shocked and upset about it all, it happened so quick and he was happy and perfectly find on Thursday. So, I'm going to try to focus on helping her out, I'll be here even if I don't post much. heart
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