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 Posted: Thu Feb 09, 2006 11:54 pm
Ok, yes, but for good reason.
I have A LOT of friends. My main group has quite a few homophobes, and 2 people who don't know, but would be fine with it, and 3 people that already know. I have another group that about 80% would hate me for it, and shun me away, while the the another 15% would be semi-fine with it, and the remaining 5% would think it is completely hot and try to force me to make out with some guy in front of them. And the rest of the people, they don't need to know.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2006 4:23 pm
If people ask me I tell them. It sort of hits me though. I don't really like labelling myself, and it feels like a label.
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Posted: Wed Feb 15, 2006 5:03 pm
Responding to the first post, I'm still shy about coming out. I told one person and I dunno if she believed me or not. The whole "losing your friends" thing is a silly idea, IMHO. If you tell them you're bi and they don't like you for it, then they weren't very good friends in the first place. If you're accepted for who you really are, that's 10 times better than hiding your true self from others. Still, I'm too scared because of that feeling. I would hate to lose my friends over such a thing, and that's what keeps me on the inside.
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Posted: Thu Aug 03, 2006 10:57 pm
I'm not shy..but i am not gonna shout it to the world.
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Posted: Sun Apr 01, 2007 5:32 pm
I know my parents would support me if I told them, but I'm still afraid. I'm also afraid of what my friends would think if I told them. I'm afraid they would stop inviting me over, or inviting me to sleepovers, or hanging out with me because they're afraid I'll have a crush on them. So I haven't told anyone.
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Posted: Mon Apr 09, 2007 11:32 pm
Its really easy to tell strangers, for some reason... But I was afraid at first to tell my friends. Afterwards, its such a relief that you dont have to feel bad about talking about it like it's nothing, because it is. And no, friends don't have to accept you or even like it, if they are like that. I have a totally homophobic friend who didn't like it at all, but she didn't object or try to change me. Friends are like that, you can hate something about them but know that doesn't make them, that you are friends for a reason. If a friend decides your not cool enough to hang out with JUST because they found out you like some other gender, then who the hell are they to say you were ever friends, you know?
What helped for me is I went through a period where I made it as obvious as possible. I always do this before I come out to someone. I wear my pride materials around them, I make jokes about it, I obviously check girls out. So by the time I finally find the nerve to spit it out "You know I like girls, right?" The answer is usually around the lines of: "Oh, like we are so suprised, you flaming omnisexual." xd
My biggest fear is that they would get weird around me, or think I was attracted to them. And some friends were for a bit, but then they came to the conclusion that I was my normal dorky self, same as always, and got over it. Sometimes, finding out your friend is gay is like finding out your friend is... Jewish. "Oh. You don't celebrate Christmas? Umm, whatever!" And then you just go back to whatever you're doing. It doesn't change you, or them. It just makes you feel freer is all.
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Posted: Mon Jul 16, 2007 12:29 am
[I'm actually Pan, but close enough xP]
I've always been supportive and very protective of all sexualities. I know that if I told everyone now, I may get a few weird looks from certain people - and very long lectures [amongst other things] from parents and possibly a few older siblings - but I honestly don't care. When I first admitted to myself my true sexuality, it was a very serious and frightening thing to me - exciting when kept to myself [for the most part], but scary to imagine everyone's reactions, not to mention what controversy would be stirred up in my enormous Christian, bigoted, narrowminded family.
Now, though, I'm ready for anything that might happen when I come out - even all the s**t I'll get from my parents [and b***h of a step-sister], mainly. But I've always been so protective of everyone else before, not caring what anyone said, and standing my ground to the end - so why should I be any different for myself? I was going to wait until coming out day in October, but now I'm almost ready to come out before summer ends. It's actually an interesting, exciting thought - I'm kind of looking forward to how I'll be able to defend myself.
And I won't back down, no matter what anyone else says. 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Jul 28, 2007 12:32 am
i remember i told my friends, i was still questioning myself. they... at first didn't believe me.
they were still my friends.
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but they still didn't believe me.
it was kind of weird. sweatdrop and i still don't know why.
maybe denial?
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Posted: Fri Aug 03, 2007 6:18 pm
When I told my mom I actually, physically, got into our downstairs closet and waited for my sister to give me the signal that she was in the room (she was supposed to scream about a spider when our mom came in). When I heard the signal, I jumped out of the closet and said, "I'm bisexual, and I'm proud!" My mom doesn't believe me and my dad doesn't know, a few friends know, but that was just so fun for me to do. rofl
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Posted: Thu Jan 03, 2008 5:04 pm
I know that this hole thing is dead but you know i used to be open and then well i got very shy about and i told my parents in ... A note but i told them i think they forgot
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Posted: Sat Feb 09, 2008 11:11 pm
Personally I probably would not lie about something like that. If someone asked me directly (ARE YOU BISEXAUL!? j/k) but otherwise, eh, Not gonna bring it up right away. At least not until college.....only four bitter sweet months away.
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Posted: Thu Aug 21, 2008 11:56 am
Only one person knows I am bi. those that are close to me dont know. I dont know how to tell others that im bi. sex doesnt matter to me. what matters to me is the person. I admit there is some physical attraction but I dont pursue the attraction until I know the person.
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