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 Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 4:58 pm
I'll pray for him also Slytherin, and you and your husband as well. I know how it is to go through something like this because my grandfather just sent me this really formal letter letting me know that he loves me and something about a blessing he wants to give me. My family says they think he's getting Alsiemers because the last we heard he wasn't even able to baptize my sister so he couldn't give me the blessing. Plus I leave for Marine Boot camp soon and just after that I'll be away from home for four years as I serve active duty. THe guy I was dating is in the National Guard and things have been rocky with him since I joined the Marines.
Oh, and I'm Lily From Hufflepuff. Minerva reminded me about the Great hall and I figured I should stop by a little more.
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 7:08 pm
Hi, Lily! Being away from each other for so long is going to be a challenge for your relationship. If you get through it then it'll prove your relationship is strong and meant to last. If it doesn't...Well, it's better that you find out sooner rather than later. Congrats for joining! I like it when women do "men's" duties.
Guess what, everyone? I'm the Almighty Fanatic now! eek Merlin, I am sooo nervous I'm going to embarrass my House by not getting any correct. sweatdrop sweatdrop
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Minerva the Bookwyrm Crew
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 7:44 pm
Update from home: Good news and bad. My aunt had a little baby girl two days ago, I cant wait to see her when my husband and I go home for Christmas. Bad news is my grandfather had a relapse again and isn't doing good. I'm hoping that us going home for Christmas will help a lot because my sis is going home two days after my husband and I leave and my grandfather always asks about us; or so I'm told.
And my husband are still trying for that little one. But hoping and praying that we will be pregnant by Christmas or at least by the time he leaves in Jan, so keep that in your prayers as well if you would. It would be much appreciated since we've been trying for 7 months now.
Lily - I agree with Minerva. Reason one is because she is right, even if you love something if it doesn't seem to work let it go and if its meant to be it will fly back to you. Reason number two is because I went through this. My husband is Navy and shortly after he left for boot camp I left for Navy boot camp as well. It seemed like it wasn't going to work out because he was going to end up stationed somewhere totally different than myself, but as God would have it I was medically separated and we are still together and now happily married. If God wants something to be it will be. I am a very big believer in God and the saying - "Everything happens for a reason". So I do hope everything works out for you and I will pray that it does, but if it doesn't keep your head high and keep Him in your prayers and maybe it will happen.
Minerva - Congrats! That's awesome news, and don't worry about embarrassing your house, you couldn't now that you are the Fanatic! You've already given them pride in knowing you've gotten this far!
Wow I typed a lot so I'll shut up now, and look forward to hearing from you guys some more!
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 8:32 pm
Lily-My Great-Aunt has had Alsiemers for a couple years and she is getting ready to pass. I hope everything's okay.
Min- *rolls eyes* I will speak on the behalf of Gryffindor and say you will not embarrass us. You'll be fine!
Sly- Congrats on your new addition. I wish you luck. It's hard to watch someone relapsing and such. I hope things turn out well.
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Posted: Fri Nov 14, 2008 9:36 pm
Minerva- Thanks for the confidence. I need to work on that myself. I'm really nervous for boot camp and I'm trying to get my ship date moved up because I origionally set it for June but I decided I don't really want to go into debt paying for this next semester and then spend June, July, and August sweating to death in South Carolina when I can do it in the winter or spring were it won't be too cold and it won't be too warm. Only problem is that I'll have to stay with my mother until I ship and she lives with my grandmother which leave my sleeping options as one of the couches in one of the living rooms, sharing a bed with my mom, or one of the chairs in the sewing room. Trust me, if I have to stay there from December til April I won't be able to ship because I'll be in Prison for Murder. I'll probabally go visit my Grandfather, my father, and my best friend.
Slytherin- Congrats and I'm sorry. I believe everything happens for a reason as well and that's why I'm not really worried about the guy. He broke up with me because I joined the Marines, and then we got back together. Then he broke up with me because he thought that dating me was related to the bad dreams he was having. He asked me to be his girlfriend again Wednesday and I told him that I couldn't. I know things will work out either way. I'm only 18 so I am also keeping in mind that I've got a life time ahead of me. Something he's having a hard time with. Hence the reason he dumped me for joining the Marines.
Suzy- I guess of all the grandkids I'm the closest to my grandfather and we have no proof he's got alzhiemers. He might have the power to give me the blessing. We don't know what goes on in his social life. As for writing me a letter in perfect business letter format... well that's my grandfather. Always formal. I swear I've only seen that guy out of a suit to do yard work and the one time he took me to the beach in California. Granted that's probably because he is a social worker, but still. I'm used to his being formal. He's also really religious. His idea of a family night is us coming over to his house for Sunday dinner and then watching a video on how each of the U.S. Presidents have helped out the LDS Prophets.
And now I've said even more than Slytherin. So I'll shut up now.
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Posted: Sat Nov 15, 2008 9:44 pm
Lily: The rest of the stuff you guys are talking about is too depressing for me to touch at the moment (I'm in a really good mood right now!) beyond my saying that I'll pray for you all and that I'm sure everything will be fine. I don't want to sound uncaring or anything, but I have been so.... not really depressed, just blah.... lately that I want to hold onto the WEEEEE I'm experiencing. However, I can vouch for a long-distance relationship. I'm not sure who here knows (I'm losing track of our members hee hee) but Scottie and I have our 2 year anniversary coming up in January, and he lives about a two hour drive away, but neither of us has the facilities to make the drive ourselves, so we have to wait on someone else to go ahead and bring him up. Still, we have a great relationship. We trust each other and love each other more than anything. No matter what happens, we work it out, and it makes us love each other more. If you two really love each other, it'll all work out. Amor Vincit Omnia!
Love conquers all, that is. Hee hee.
I don't know what it is, but the forums seem to abound with all of these horrible things happening to everyone. I don't understand it. I hope that everyone has some luck coming in. I feel like everyone's being depressed at the same time.
*trys to be the ray of sunshine and make it better*
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Posted: Sun Nov 16, 2008 9:59 am
Lily- I am closest to my grandfather too. I was his first grandchild. I sincerely hope he doesn't. Hehe My grandfather is formal at all. He wear PJ pants and no shirt around the house hehe.
Mia- We do need sunshine don't we? Well if we are going to have some, let me put on my sunglasses! cool Hehe. (Corny joke, I know!)
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Posted: Sun Nov 16, 2008 12:07 pm
Thanks Mia, I'm not sure I want him though. The more I think about it he's just a good friend and we've been having lots of fun. Besides, like I said, I'm 18 and have a lifetime ahead of me. That's another thing he thinks gets in the way. I've got too much spirit. He's 21 and is convinced he needs to settle down soon but here I am decided nope I have to live life to the fullest. My father is angry because I joined the Marines. He says I've got too much spirit also and I need to wait for the train to come to a complete halt before I jump off it. *shrugs* He's probably right since I don't know how to sit still for more than 2 seconds and I don't think on a regular basis. But I don't think I need to slow down. I love life, and I'm having lots of fun. Oh, and Suzy, do you have an extra pair of sun glasses? I'm pretty hyper as well so we'll be rays of sunshine together.
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Posted: Tue Nov 18, 2008 3:07 pm
Well they re-emitted my grandfather to the hospital with a spiking fever low oxygen level and he wont eat. They did chest x-ray's and found that he now has pnemonia. I've been praying to god to help him get better, but I've been thinking. That praying is all for my own selfish reasons, and I want god to do whats best for my grandpa; even if that means taking him home. Its hard for me to say that but its true. My grandfather has lived a wonderful life and I dont want him to suffer anymore. I want him to stay here with us so he can see his great-grandchildren but I dont want him to stay if that means he will suffer.
I'm so sad and hurt right now. I dont know what to do but pray for him. Please keep him in your prayers.
~Slytherin69
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Posted: Tue Nov 18, 2008 4:57 pm
Slytherin, I understand what you are going through. It is amazingly hard and is probably harder to experience when you are older then I was when I went through it. Quite few years ago, I was about 5 and my uncle was on life support. He was suffering a lot so they ended up taking him off. He ended up passing and I cried for days. One thing comforted me through it though. In the end, if your grandfather does pass, at least he will suffer no more. He will still always be watching you.
My grandmother died about ten years before I was born. My mom was 16 and it was hard on her family then. When I was two or three, I used to tell my mom that Nana picked me out specially for my mom. Even if your children never get to meet him, they will still be watched by him. It may be a bit weird, I talk to her sometimes when I feel her around me. I've never met her but I feel connected to her. If your grandfather isn't around, don't let your kids (when you have them) forget him. That's my best advice. I hope things turn out in the best way possible. Good luck. I will keep praying for you and your grandfather!
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Posted: Wed Nov 19, 2008 7:43 am
Thanks Suze, and I totally know what your saying about talking to your grandmother. I never knew my grandmother and I always feel her present around me and when things are bad or when I'm alone thats when I feel her strongest. I do talk to her as well, and I dont care how weird it is. My dad says its because I do have a connection with her in some way, I am named after her and have alot of characteristics fo her.
Thank you all again for continuing to keep my grandfather in your prayers
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Posted: Wed Nov 19, 2008 4:05 pm
I am named after my grandmother too. Sue was her middle name. That's why I prefer Suze (my middle name) over my first name.
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Posted: Wed Nov 19, 2008 10:59 pm
Lily, I'm glad that you decided what you wanted to do about the relationship and didn't let it drag on. Good judgement call! 3nodding
Suze, I'm oldest grandchild too! razz It's fun...usually.
Slytherin, my grandmother is going through breast cancer right now, so I can relate to how you're feeling too. heart
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Posted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 4:09 am
It is fun. Well that is until your parents, aunts, uncles and grandparents decide to leave you with 12 kids. Hehe. It's fun though because then I get to play with the youngest. She just turned a year old! wink !
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Posted: Thu Nov 20, 2008 12:32 pm
Yeah I'm the oldest grandchild also. There are 14 of us, and I know what you mean by being left alone with them. There are two girls that are 6 and they are really cute. They are cousins but they're best friends. I'm the one that gives piggy back rides and it's totally cute because Abbey will be on my back and since the girls are too heavy for me to carry together she'll tell me it's McKayla's turn and I put her down and McKayla gets on. McKayla is always so patient for her turn. I can usually carry 8 year old Jackson as well as one of the girls since he's so light. But once I had been taking care of baby chicks for 8 hours the day before and that had made me have to bend over all the time so my back was in a lot of pain from how stiff it was. I told the girls that I couldn't carry them much and they totally understood and were happy because i still carried them at least a little. Though I didn't even try adding Jackson to the load that day.
I was named after my grandmother. Her middle name is Jean, and that's my middle name. All my friends call me Jean because it's what I prefere, but my exboyfriends mother calls me Crystal. It's kind of funny because he calls me Jean and she calls me Crystal.
We are now watching for my grandfather to go through Alziemers decease so my family is kind of stressed. Though I'm the closest grandchild to either of my grandparents since I'm the oldest and I'm not going to be around much because I just found that I leave for Boot Camp January 12th and right after that I have to go to a school to train for my job and immediately after that I'm shipped off to do my job so I won't see much of my family for the next four years. You can bet I'll be writing my grandfather a lot in boot camp and talking to him a lot more just to know he's still there.
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