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Agreed.

And I haven't had a significant other (boyfriend is the wrong word)
for about two years, so it'll be a while before I discuss it with anyone.

I had sex within a year of having my first 'sexual' encounter.

I lost my virginity at 16.

I do NOT believe that teenagers need sex, however. I think that the only people who should engage in sex are people who are mature enough to respect and handle it AND the possible consequences of their actions. Not a lot of teenagers are ready for the responsibility.

Why is it wrong? Sex is a natural process. 13-17 year olds are capable of producing children, therefore their bodies are telling them to do exactly that. Of course people mature at different rates but the fact is that some teenagers are ready for sex and don't regret it.

In modern society, pregnancy (and sex to a lesser extent) is pretty taboo before about 18-20, but I don't believe that makes it wrong. Everyone defines morality, happiness, and success in different ways.

P.S. obviously no one needs pleasure to survive~

.:Where there is love, distance doesn't matter...

.:Premarital sex is a quite a touchy subject. In the case on teens, I feel that it is their choice but they should be prepared. If they think their mature enough to make the decision, they should make sure they're mature enough to deal with consequences...not just the pregnancy issue but the emotional ones as well. You will remember, not only your first, but every time forever...don't regret one. Stop and think to yourself, "Is this the person I want to remember for the rest of my life?" Sex was meant to be special and, I believe, only to be shared with your soul mate. In the case of adults, again it's their choice but they should be aware of those who look up to them and are apt to follow their example. If you're alive, know that there is always someone younger than you, and they may be watching...you don't want the actions of those under you on your head. If one does make the choice, they should be wise about it and take the necessary precautions.

People should never confuse love and lust. This, I believe, is one of the main things wrong in the beliefs of today's society. The media says that it feels good, it must be 'love'...and in return the parents and schools stress how 'bad' it is, and this of course drives many teens to go into things in anger and spite toward their elders and they feel they are controlling them; when really, many parents don't realize what they're doing and don't know how else to deal with it.

I cannot actually speak for myself on this subject too well, other than my opinions and my friends' personal stories, because I am still a virgin myself and had not even had a first kiss...even though I'm out of high school and in college now, I still consider myself quite young and personally, still a little more towards the side of unready, even though I do love my boyfriend dearly. Of course there's not much pressure in that area because he lives 1,5oo miles away. But when he does move here, as he is planning on...it depends on the amount of time we both have had to think about and prepare for it. We both believe it is special for your first to be with the one you truly love. I don't know yet if he's meant to be my future spouse...but I do know that I truly love him and he loves me. Only time will tell the rest.

But this post is getting rather long so I shall quit my ramblings now. Back to the topic...it's not an issue of whether premarital sex is right or wrong...it's an issue of one's own heart. That is my view on it all. x3

Why does NOBODY remember that teen pregnancy effects EVERYONE? Not JUST the teen mother and father, but their parents.

You're all saying, "Ohh, they have to be ready. They have to be mature enough for the concequences.." What about if they don't have an income? Guess who has to pay for all that s**t? The parents.

Teen sex is a selfish act. They don't seem to care about the concequences. They put this huge burden on their parents, and that, to me, is just patheticly terrible. They've already provided for you for 13-16 years, and for what? So you can go behind their back, have sex, get pregnant, and force them to take care of another child, that's not even "there" kid?


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Giganto post FTW?!

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Depending on the working age, some teenagers can provide for their baby, but you're right, most can't. Some parents are actually happy to care for a baby, and those who won't care for it have other options. They can convince the teenager to have an abortion or kick them out (or put the teenager up for adoption, but I don't think many parents think of that..). You might say that the pregnant girl is going to omg have a horrible life and regret it forever... well, maybe she really will be happier in her new life. My sister left home at 16 and says it was the best decision she ever made. (She wasn't pregnant but she did leave so she could have the freedom to have sex) Some people are happy not being rich/educated or traditionally "successful" but being able to do what they want with who they want.


You are right about many teenagers getting the desire for sex before their pelvis/body are ready to carry a baby, but in most cases they will have a miscarriage. Sometimes they will get pretty sick, but I think most teenagers know pregnancy can go wrong and that's a risk involved. (Abortion is an option that, while dangerous, is much safer than pregnancy)

The child might be made fun of because of their parent's age but I think that's a bad thing about the bullies not the child. Plus, culture changes. Maybe in the years to come it'll be okay.

Obviously sex is worth the risk of STDs since the human population isn't even close to dying out. If anyone doesn't think so, they're welcome to abstain.

If I haven't been clear to everyone- Obviously sex is dangerous & very serious, but I think everyone has the right to choose if they think it is worth it, even if they are a teenager. If you want to have sex and not have a baby, you can have an abortion. If you want to have sex and not get STDs, you can get yourself and your partner(s) tested (but basically it's a risk involved).

Sex doesn't have to be about love (though for you it might be), sex doesn't have to be about babies(though for you it might be). Sometimes sex really is just about pleasure and teenagers like pleasure too.

Personally, I am a virgin and I like the idea of waiting until I'm in control of my life and have found someone I love. I just recognize that this isn't the only way to think.