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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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 Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 8:59 pm
shandrel Chieftain Twilight heh, yeh, think about how common "Twilight" is? anywho, so i'm getting myself all confused in figuring out how to tie a Dhoti, and what a Chokka Shirt is. xp also, totally worked up on the whole "Dowry" issue... someone brought it up in conversation about my Engagement, and to be honest i was hoping to just skip that part.... but now i'm wondering whether that's for the best or not? you see, for 1, we're both poor. lower-class. neither of us expected lavish gold and whatnot to be involved, but as soon as it's mentioned... there are some good points. such as how well it will compliment my darling's beautiful skin tone... >w> 2ndly, while it was brought up tha it is Indian Tradition, this isn't nessesarilly an Indian Wedding; it's just a Hare Krishna Wedding. plus, even in India there is alot of fuss going on about Dowries and the Marriage Act (a Legislation some parts of which i approve of and some parts of which i disapprove of, personally); though, admittedly, here in America we wouldn't be affecting that at all regardless. 3rdly, however, i still don't want to encourage that kind of practice, and it goes strictly against my Economic and Social Goals. confused so, even if i do accept a Dowry, and/or have my Bride decked out in brilliant metal plumages, i'd want to keep it small. something pretty, of considerable worthe, but not to ostentatious, nor rediculously expensive. thoughts, opinions, ideas? gonk I think you missed my point completely... Of course my offer was not a dowry, as i am not tied with her family. Nor is it a religious issue being beaten down on your head, o.0 What my point was, if you do the Sari, then perhaps, some of the jewelry, which is made to compliment the clothes, would be appropriate. It is a look i am very envious of, and as such, well, i can't afford mountains, but the smaller, more delicate peices i could o.0 of course that would be a wedding gift, and i would highly suggest that either you sell it and put the money away for your children's college, or keep it as the base value of gold is rising every day, and someday, paper money and credit won't be worth a thing. In short it would be an investment for your future. also on a note about dowry's, there are many traditions involving a dowry, And they are not in my view, a " bride price" in short, what eh bride has to pay to get into the family, tehre are many other traditions as well, in some places the MAN pays ti dowry and moves in with his wife and her family, so really it's a bit silly, but fun, even American's have a dowry system, they are called " hope chests" where a young woman makes and puts inside things to build a thriving and happy household on. In short a dowry is more often then not, designed to help the new couple set up their own life, not as a price. *sighs* don't get me wrong, i am all for saving up gold. i know that it will come in very handy. but even american marriage-gift traditions upset me sometimes. the issue is, i don't like the general idea of material wealth being considered such an important part of the Ceremony. sad i just want to have my Wife, and before any talk of flashy jewelry was brought up she was more than satisfied with just that as well. now there is this back-and-forthe can't-make-up-her-mind thing going on where it seems like everytime say something she has an emotional response that determined whether she wants it or not! o_O; the whole thing just complicated itself now. xp
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Posted: Mon Oct 18, 2010 10:28 pm
Well, all I can say is that when my wedding arrangements got complicated, we went to Las Vegas. mrgreen
Now, we're planning a vow-renewal/re-wedding that is going to be MUCH simpler than any traditional wedding, and since it's 5-years into our marriage, no one expects anything huge. We're actually going to just make it a casual potluck-style event and just enjoy the support of our friends and family--which is really what we missed out on with the Vegas wedding.
Just saying that Vegas is an option. But then considering the desert climate, you'd probably dry up like jello on asphalt. razz
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ScarletFrost Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 12:51 pm
Still musing over the title of my animation... sweatdrop
(And why I suddenly have a scratch on my cheek...)
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Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 1:01 pm
I got a job! YEAH! mrgreen I start workin' fer Walgreens on Friday.
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Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 3:03 pm
Chieftain Twilight shandrel Chieftain Twilight heh, yeh, think about how common "Twilight" is? anywho, so i'm getting myself all confused in figuring out how to tie a Dhoti, and what a Chokka Shirt is. xp also, totally worked up on the whole "Dowry" issue... someone brought it up in conversation about my Engagement, and to be honest i was hoping to just skip that part.... but now i'm wondering whether that's for the best or not? you see, for 1, we're both poor. lower-class. neither of us expected lavish gold and whatnot to be involved, but as soon as it's mentioned... there are some good points. such as how well it will compliment my darling's beautiful skin tone... >w> 2ndly, while it was brought up tha it is Indian Tradition, this isn't nessesarilly an Indian Wedding; it's just a Hare Krishna Wedding. plus, even in India there is alot of fuss going on about Dowries and the Marriage Act (a Legislation some parts of which i approve of and some parts of which i disapprove of, personally); though, admittedly, here in America we wouldn't be affecting that at all regardless. 3rdly, however, i still don't want to encourage that kind of practice, and it goes strictly against my Economic and Social Goals. confused so, even if i do accept a Dowry, and/or have my Bride decked out in brilliant metal plumages, i'd want to keep it small. something pretty, of considerable worthe, but not to ostentatious, nor rediculously expensive. thoughts, opinions, ideas? gonk I think you missed my point completely... Of course my offer was not a dowry, as i am not tied with her family. Nor is it a religious issue being beaten down on your head, o.0 What my point was, if you do the Sari, then perhaps, some of the jewelry, which is made to compliment the clothes, would be appropriate. It is a look i am very envious of, and as such, well, i can't afford mountains, but the smaller, more delicate peices i could o.0 of course that would be a wedding gift, and i would highly suggest that either you sell it and put the money away for your children's college, or keep it as the base value of gold is rising every day, and someday, paper money and credit won't be worth a thing. In short it would be an investment for your future. also on a note about dowry's, there are many traditions involving a dowry, And they are not in my view, a " bride price" in short, what eh bride has to pay to get into the family, tehre are many other traditions as well, in some places the MAN pays ti dowry and moves in with his wife and her family, so really it's a bit silly, but fun, even American's have a dowry system, they are called " hope chests" where a young woman makes and puts inside things to build a thriving and happy household on. In short a dowry is more often then not, designed to help the new couple set up their own life, not as a price. *sighs* don't get me wrong, i am all for saving up gold. i know that it will come in very handy. but even american marriage-gift traditions upset me sometimes. the issue is, i don't like the general idea of material wealth being considered such an important part of the Ceremony. sad i just want to have my Wife, and before any talk of flashy jewelry was brought up she was more than satisfied with just that as well. now there is this back-and-forthe can't-make-up-her-mind thing going on where it seems like everytime say something she has an emotional response that determined whether she wants it or not! o_O; the whole thing just complicated itself now. xp So then are you not accepting marriage gifts at all? it wasn't so important to me, it was a offer i thought you and your bride, would appreciate, as a gesture of prosperity in the future, you know well why i would do such a thing, Symbolism, more than actual wealth, perhaps i should show you what i have in mind and perhaps you can relax...
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Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 3:41 pm
Man, there are some chicks at my school with the coolest things ever~
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:39 pm
Manguusu I got a job! YEAH! mrgreen I start workin' fer Walgreens on Friday. SWEET! biggrin though, looking like that, you better watch out for illegal Mexicans. o.O; and wear a hair net. ninja
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Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:40 pm
shandrel Chieftain Twilight shandrel Chieftain Twilight heh, yeh, think about how common "Twilight" is? anywho, so i'm getting myself all confused in figuring out how to tie a Dhoti, and what a Chokka Shirt is. xp also, totally worked up on the whole "Dowry" issue... someone brought it up in conversation about my Engagement, and to be honest i was hoping to just skip that part.... but now i'm wondering whether that's for the best or not? you see, for 1, we're both poor. lower-class. neither of us expected lavish gold and whatnot to be involved, but as soon as it's mentioned... there are some good points. such as how well it will compliment my darling's beautiful skin tone... >w> 2ndly, while it was brought up tha it is Indian Tradition, this isn't nessesarilly an Indian Wedding; it's just a Hare Krishna Wedding. plus, even in India there is alot of fuss going on about Dowries and the Marriage Act (a Legislation some parts of which i approve of and some parts of which i disapprove of, personally); though, admittedly, here in America we wouldn't be affecting that at all regardless. 3rdly, however, i still don't want to encourage that kind of practice, and it goes strictly against my Economic and Social Goals. confused so, even if i do accept a Dowry, and/or have my Bride decked out in brilliant metal plumages, i'd want to keep it small. something pretty, of considerable worthe, but not to ostentatious, nor rediculously expensive. thoughts, opinions, ideas? gonk I think you missed my point completely... Of course my offer was not a dowry, as i am not tied with her family. Nor is it a religious issue being beaten down on your head, o.0 What my point was, if you do the Sari, then perhaps, some of the jewelry, which is made to compliment the clothes, would be appropriate. It is a look i am very envious of, and as such, well, i can't afford mountains, but the smaller, more delicate peices i could o.0 of course that would be a wedding gift, and i would highly suggest that either you sell it and put the money away for your children's college, or keep it as the base value of gold is rising every day, and someday, paper money and credit won't be worth a thing. In short it would be an investment for your future. also on a note about dowry's, there are many traditions involving a dowry, And they are not in my view, a " bride price" in short, what eh bride has to pay to get into the family, tehre are many other traditions as well, in some places the MAN pays ti dowry and moves in with his wife and her family, so really it's a bit silly, but fun, even American's have a dowry system, they are called " hope chests" where a young woman makes and puts inside things to build a thriving and happy household on. In short a dowry is more often then not, designed to help the new couple set up their own life, not as a price. *sighs* don't get me wrong, i am all for saving up gold. i know that it will come in very handy. but even american marriage-gift traditions upset me sometimes. the issue is, i don't like the general idea of material wealth being considered such an important part of the Ceremony. sad i just want to have my Wife, and before any talk of flashy jewelry was brought up she was more than satisfied with just that as well. now there is this back-and-forthe can't-make-up-her-mind thing going on where it seems like everytime say something she has an emotional response that determined whether she wants it or not! o_O; the whole thing just complicated itself now. xp So then are you not accepting marriage gifts at all? it wasn't so important to me, it was a offer i thought you and your bride, would appreciate, as a gesture of prosperity in the future, you know well why i would do such a thing, Symbolism, more than actual wealth, perhaps i should show you what i have in mind and perhaps you can relax... luckily, we got to talk and clear this all up. sweatdrop
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:41 pm
and, this is one of the reasons i enjoy Politics so much! mrgreen this guy is running for New York Governor, as teh Candidate for teh Rent Is Too Damn High Party. take a look. Jimmy McMillan
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Posted: Tue Oct 19, 2010 8:58 pm
Damn you chief~ Using big words and such mumbo jumbo.
-random words put together in a sentence-
Razem frazem damn dog-kids on my... ROOF~
((AKA I am tired))
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 3:14 pm
Fwee? Uhh hello one and all ^_^
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 5:57 pm
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:36 pm
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 7:59 pm
Oly ********' shart!
It be alive! -epic face-
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Chieftain Twilight Captain
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Posted: Wed Oct 20, 2010 8:06 pm
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