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If they keep me there for the full shift I'm supposed to work, when they NEVER have before, I'm going to be angry. Goodness knows we're going to be overstaffed tonight, what with it being a Friday but with bad weather. No one leaves home on days like today, making five hostesses way too many. <_<;

@ Eve: Eeeesh, that's the exact thing I'm afraid of. emo I'm scared that sure, everything's fine right now, but what if sometime in the near future something goes really wrong and then it's not just a normal breakup, but breaking off an engagement. I dunno, I'm the hopeless romantic type and I'd rather just get married/engaged/whatever once. I know that the chances of that are becoming more and more unlikely now-a-days, but at least I'd like to hope. I mean, he and I have had some issues and always worked through them, but, I think six months is a little too soon.

@ Jaho: Somehow, I don't think he'd like me saying that no matter what I say or do afterwards. Hugs included. ;_;

I'm really just hoping that he's bluffing. He's done that before. This time seems a little different though. D: Eh, anyway, I talked to some people at work with mixed reactions -- one person gave me the "omg, are you serious? That's way too soon/you're an idiot" speech also followed with a side of "you can do better" (pffft, whatever). But a couple people told me that if it's love, and I feel it's right, go for it.

I think I'm just gonna have a talk to him tonight. The pessimistic person said it'd be a little different if it were, say, like a promise ring or something -- if there's a ring/proposal at all in my immediate future. I'm probably gonna talk to him and just tell him plain and simple that I'd rather wait a while longer before getting engaged even; that I'd rather us try to get a place and see if we can even live together. He stays over a lot but that's different than if we lived together. Meh. And then I'll tell him if he was actually going to propose/has a ring already/whatever, then if he wanted to make it a promise ring instead, I'd be fine with that.

D: I don't want to have this talk with him because I'm scared it might hurt his feelings, but, I think that if I just plain turned down his proposal that would hurt him a lot more. I know he'd understand, but, it could put a downer on the relationship, and I really don't want to devastate him.

Meh. Again, I'm not even 100% sure he has a proposal thing in mind -- however, I think it'd be best to cover my bases. I love him to pieces, but I don't think we're ready for something so serious.

Kil, I'd say bring it up to him. Because I don't think having him propose to you and then having to have the discussion would work as well. Plus, I think he'd understand your hesitation, especially with the place together issue. I honestly can't say that I'd marry somebody without living with them first either. I mean, I hate having room-mate's enough as is. But that may have a lot more to due with the fact that I have absolutely no place to go and be alone or any me space.

Also, if things go boink before you get married, there's a whole lot less paperwork and wasted money.

Also, just tell him he has to wait at least a year. Some guy on the Internet who said that it's what Dr. Phil would say said so.

hey, if you do want to marry this guy and get engaged and everything, but you think you haven't been together long enough yet, it's ok to say yes, but insist on a long engagement. 2 years, maybe, or whatever would make you feel comfortable. that buys you lots of time to acclimatize to one another (and to plan the wedding if that's something you want to do), and yes breaking off an engagement is a bigger deal than just breaking up with a boyfriend, but it's a SMALLER deal than getting a divorce. being engaged is its own special category and everything but it isn't THAT special.

i have a friend who broke off an engagement. the guy hit her. 'nuff said.
she actually just got engaged again a week ago today, to a fantastic guy who is perfect for her. the fact that she was engaged previously isn't going to harm this engagement or make it less valid or anything like that.

p.s. i don't get promise rings. what is the promise? a promise to get engaged sometime in the future? seeing as an engagement is essentially a promise to get married, a promise ring is a promise to make another promise at some future, unspecified, date. is that not kind of dumb? if you want to get married but not yet, uh... get engaged, and stay engaged until you want to get married. being engaged means you want to marry one another. if that's the case, why give it another layer? is this an invention of jewelery companies to get you to buy more rings?

Would you just like somebody to yell at you and tell you what to say?

Because, well, I know this witch doctor and-

i wonder if my brother will even consider the reason for his shirts being all beat up as being the dryer. he does not, apparently, believe in dryers, negative effects thereof.

No Pasta, paranoia bad!