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Sometimes. I mean, you never know when someone is a gay/bi/les hater or whatever and how they will react.

Telling people I'm Bi is simple for me. It's telling them everything else that's hard.

Things change though. I mean years from now, when i'm post-op, I may go stealth at which point the only thing to really say is that I'm Bi, which may become harder then. I find alot of things are only difficult or easy relativly to whatever else you have.

Post-op is a term used for a transsexual who has had sex-change surgery to match their gender (for quick reference, sex is physical, whereas gender is mental).

Stealth, I believe, is when a transsexual fully takes on their new sex and doesn't make it known that he/she was a transsexual previously, but I could be wrong.

On another note, I'm not shy at all about telling people when they ask or when it's relevant online - I haven't told anyone I know offline, though, so I'd guess so.

o0o0o0o okay, thanks, i think i understand now blaugh

I guess the hardest thing was telling my parents. They are big bible thumpers and stuff. So it makes it harder to live with them. But I told my mom finally. She didn't want to accept it at first but I think she's a bit more comfortable about it now.

I told my dad about a week ago. He was surprised, but he just walked away so I don't think he wants to accept it. I feel better that I told them, but I know they are praying for god to "cure" me.

I am shy to tell people that I am, but thats why my friends do it for me. Plus they already know. So it makes it all the better... ^_^.. I don't really want to tell my famliy, but I do know my sister will be more ok with it, then my mom.. And I'm not telling my oldest sister, becuase she come on to me.. thats just wrong.. and its ewww... confused sad

Ugh, I share that same online/offline difference of environment that many others do. I'm quite comfortable using it as an icebreaker online (Really more of a test whether or not to talk to them again, if they react badly, that is), and find it quite often just as common a question as how many siblings they have and whatnot.

Offline...ick...my closest group of "friends" typically make it a lunchtime ritual to accuse any perfectly straight person of being gay (never normally serious) and create a kind of conversational darwinism of self-proclaimed straightness, and while they might accept it hesitantly as any one individual, mob authority would immediately take place with others...

Example of this conversational darwinism in action:

(In the middle of English class, one of the rooms with a window)

Jared: *Makes buzzing sounds* (To me, whispers loudly across the room) Justin! Turn your [personal massager] off!

*Lawnmower passes by...slowly...*

Me: eek U

Of course, I can always say I'm not "gay." I just have to keep it a secret that I'm "not straight." mrgreen

And, if it leaked out at school elsewhere, the upperclassmen would ask enough questions to make whatever I say hilariously funny, every monotheistic religious nut would have the last smidgen of truth to accuse me of witchcraft (Not the karmic, harmoniously-thinking kind that I actually believe in practicing, mind you 3nodding ), and the populars would just start making it a joke by claiming the same interests or hitting on me...though it would be nice to give them an eerie and hard to interpret, "Your place or mine?" to haunt them...

As for family, my brother would break down and never speak of it again, my mom would laugh and accept it (Though also never speak of it again), and my dad would pretend to be okay with it, but later try to use that fact against me in an arguement. -___-;

So, I guess it's just a second life until college (When I'll hopefully be around a more accepting, possibly available, crowd), not that I'm complaining... whee