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 Posted: Wed Jun 06, 2007 6:24 pm
I went over to my boyfriend's house today, and when he dropped me off at my house, my mom wasn't home. So we were messing around a little, and I was like, "I have a condom in my room." But he knew I was on my period, and he's not entirely comfortable with the idea of blood acting as a lube, so he said no. I was cool with it, because I know that no matter what, he's going to find some way to make me feel good. He's really creative, which makes it even more fun. ^ ^
Our first time was AMAZING, I thought, even though I didn't climax. But the most vivid memory that I have of that night, is telling my boyfriend that it's okay for me to not orgasm the first time. And telling him that most girls have sex 15-20 times before they orgasm from intercourse. That night, I decided to start masturbating, because I figured that, if I didn't know what I liked, neither would he. I orgasmed on our 8th time. *sighs fondly*
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Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2007 6:10 am
LorienLlewellyn Theobane It was very dark when we did it, almost pitch black and back then i did't know much and i was very nerves. But put it this way, would you have sex during your period. I know i dont want to have sex during her period and i made it quite clear each time she mention it that i dont want to know about it. But i should have knowen the time of month back then when i was learning the ropes stare Ah, I see. Yes, I have sex during my period, but I always let my partner know about it beforehand so that we can put down a towel. I have only had one partner who was squeamish about having sex during my period, and honestly, I did not like it, but I respected it and never tried to trick him into anything. I don't like dating squeamish people. I figure if the man is grossed out by anything that comes out of my v****a (unless it is green discharge or some other sign of infection), then he's probably not ready for sex to begin with, but that's just me. I am a very natural person, so I like my partners to be natural too. That includes being open about and not grossed out by bodily fluids that can't be helped. Like I said, that's just me and what I like in a partner. Other people have different levels of squeamishness, and that should be respected. 3nodding Im cool with it know, but back then when your that young you get worried and all that. And im not even sure its healthy or not but i dont know about that, Know with my current girlfriend i can tell when she is about to have it each month. If my girlfriend asked me know, i wonted really mind but i be more worried about her v****a and if she would damage herself
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Posted: Thu Jun 07, 2007 11:05 am
Theobane Im cool with it know, but back then when your that young you get worried and all that. And im not even sure its healthy or not but i dont know about that, Know with my current girlfriend i can tell when she is about to have it each month. If my girlfriend asked me know, i wonted really mind but i be more worried about her v****a and if she would damage herself Nope, it's perfectly healthy. In fact, the blood can act as an extra lubricant making the v****a even less susceptible to small rips and tears! 3nodding Pregnancy is still possible, even when a woman is bleeding though.
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Posted: Thu Aug 09, 2007 4:38 pm
radicalCELLIST I went over to my boyfriend's house today, and when he dropped me off at my house, my mom wasn't home. So we were messing around a little, and I was like, "I have a condom in my room." But he knew I was on my period, and he's not entirely comfortable with the idea of blood acting as a lube, so he said no. I was cool with it, because I know that no matter what, he's going to find some way to make me feel good. He's really creative, which makes it even more fun. ^ ^ Our first time was AMAZING, I thought, even though I didn't climax. But the most vivid memory that I have of that night, is telling my boyfriend that it's okay for me to not orgasm the first time. And telling him that most girls have sex 15-20 times before they orgasm from intercourse. That night, I decided to start masturbating, because I figured that, if I didn't know what I liked, neither would he. I orgasmed on our 8th time. *sighs fondly* My most vivid memory of my first time was my boyfriend continually asking me beforehand if I was sure and okay, and then just before he moved inside me asked me again and I was like I want you so bad. He wasn't pushy at all and that was awesome. It's made for a year of great sex. XP Like you, though, it took me a few times before I orgasmed through sex. The first time I did I was like whoa. Now it's normal. XP It makes me happy. ^_^
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Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 2:12 pm
just curious but the why do people use the term "when your cherry pops"?
and does it hurt like !@#$!?
or is it like a slight pinch?
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Posted: Sun Sep 02, 2007 2:19 pm
sakura_spaz just curious but the why do people use the term "when your cherry pops"? and does it hurt like !@#$!? or is it like a slight pinch? It didn't hurt me at all. I felt a bit sort of stretched, but honestly I can't remember it being sore. I have spoken to people who said for them it really hurt, but as long as you have a considerate partner and you're well-lubricated I can't think of a normal reason that it would hurt. It's strange, and takes a little getting used to, but it's not painful.
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Posted: Fri Sep 28, 2007 2:58 am
I disagree with the information that warns that first-time sex may be too painful. IF SEX HURTS, YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG!
(How to enjoy painfree sex everytime, especially the first time!)Many women experience unnecessary pain during sex. For the vast majority, sex does not have to be, and should not be painful. There are many, many things you can do to ensure pain-free sex, and if they do not work, you need to see a doctor. An explanation of the hymen - most hymens break through exercise during youth, and the breakage is rarely painful. An article on how sex should NEVER hurt, whether it's your first or your hundredth time. (a little bit of everything including my favorite "Sex should not hurt whether it is your first time or your hundreth time.") Vaginismus - expecting sex to hurt causes you to tense the vaginal muscles, which in turn does make sex painful. Relax. - Lubrication - if you are well lubricated, sex will not hurt. Use water-based lubricant with latex condoms. - Relaxation - are you comfortable with your partner? To have penetrative sex, you must be completely at ease. Is your partner gentle? - Foreplay - Penetrative sex does not exist without other sexual activity to preceed it. You need enough time to relax and become well lubricated. - Masturbation - if you are comfortable with your body, understand your own anatomy, and are able to communicate what you enjoy with your partner, sex will be all the more enjoyable. Try www.scarleteen.com and www.clitical.com. - Expectations - be positive. If you expect sex to be painful, you'll tense up so much that it will hurt. See above article on vaginismus. Sex still painful? See a doctor. heart Thanks LorienLlewellyn for the above links! heart
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Posted: Sun Oct 07, 2007 9:23 pm
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Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2007 1:36 am
Lepid0ptera If you want to enjoy the first time you have sex, (from the female side), just make sure you're not physically a virgin beforehand. That means exploring your v****a with your fingers, or better yet, a d***o : ) If you're too embarassed to explore yourself, why are you having sex? I do have to agree with this. I did all that before I had sex and although it was uncomfortable (think because had no lube), it wasn't excrutiatingly painful.
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Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:57 am
KaseyBaby Lepid0ptera If you want to enjoy the first time you have sex, (from the female side), just make sure you're not physically a virgin beforehand. That means exploring your v****a with your fingers, or better yet, a d***o : ) If you're too embarassed to explore yourself, why are you having sex? I do have to agree with this. I did all that before I had sex and although it was uncomfortable (think because had no lube), it wasn't excrutiatingly painful. While I agree that vaginal exploration is good to determine what you like or do not like, it really is not necessary for sexual activity. I don't know what Lepid meant by being "physically a virgin." You are a virgin until you have sex, even if you have had fingers, tampons, and sex toys in your v****a. So you can't go into sex your first time not being a virgin. Contrary to popular myths, tampons, fingers, and sex toys do not permanently stretch out the v****a. That means you can put them up there all you want; you will not get any "looser". So having things in your v****a will not impact sex at all. So all of that stuff is completely irrelevant to pain during sex. The vast majority of pain during sex is due to lack of lubrication. So the best way to avoid pain or discomfort is to stay relaxed, get in the mood before having sex, and use a store bought lubricant if necessary.
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Posted: Mon Oct 08, 2007 8:59 am
sakura_spaz just curious but the why do people use the term "when your cherry pops"? and does it hurt like !@#$!? or is it like a slight pinch? That is a vulgar way of saying the hymen tore. There is usually little or no pain or blood when the hymen tears, so most girls don't even realize that it happened. Most girls tear their hymen long before they ever have sex from things like using tampons, masturbating, running, and jumping.
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Posted: Thu Oct 25, 2007 6:41 pm
Lepid0ptera If you want to enjoy the first time you have sex, (from the female side), just make sure you're not physically a virgin beforehand. That means exploring your v****a with your fingers, or better yet, a d***o : ) If you're too embarassed to explore yourself, why are you having sex? For guys? If you expect to ejaculate too quickly (which you most likely will), just make sure you masturbate eariler in the day, unless your female partner did not do step 1 and probably wants it over quickly, in which case ignore my advice. Oh, and go slow. Having sex is not a race. Make sure she's absolutely comfortable before you go for the gold. yeha ive heard that if ur like not ready adn u tense up then it hurts alot worse, then if u were like relaxed and somewhat "warmed up
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Posted: Sun Nov 04, 2007 9:40 am
mikomihino_25 I can take this info in to real consideration
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 12:24 pm
Nikolita Divash Someone asked, "What's the biggest misconception that teenagers have about sex?" I have an answer. Mine is short and not funny; I'm looking for the link to a longer but infinitely more hilarious blog that a friend-of-a-friend wrote a long time back. My short answer: There are teenagers who think that oral sex isn't "real" sex. Why? I don't know. Because it's not heterosexual intercourse, I suppose. Well, here's some news, folks. If you are putting someone else's PEEPEE into your MOUTH, or getting their ORGASMIC FLUIDS anywhere on your own SKIN, especially your face, chest, or anywhere typically covered by swimsuit bottoms, YOU JUST HAD SEX. You may or may not get pregnant by it, depending on what you do with those fluids. But you can damn sure get a sexually transmitted disease. You can damn sure get a reputation of being experienced and/or easy. You can damn sure get grounded or sent to military school if your parents find out. You or your partner can damn sure go to jail for it, if one of you is over the age of consent and one is not. You can damn sure lose your boyfriend or girlfriend, if you do that with someone besides them. Think about it. If it's not something you want your parents, grandparents, teachers, or those mean girls who diss you in the cafeteria to know about, IT IS PROBABLY SEX. If you wouldn't mind doing it with someone you love, but would hate to do with a close relative or with someone you can't stand, IT COULD BE SEX. If it ends in the word "sex" (like Oral Sex, Manual Sex) or "job" (Handjob, b*****b), IT IS SEX. And by the way, if you're giving someone oral or manual gratification and they're not doing it back for you, or think that doing it for you would make them less cool, or will tell everyone that you did it but won't tell anyone that they did it for you... they're basically saying that you are not their loving partner, but that you are their THING, their chattel (look it up), their cleanup-tissue, and nothing more. How skanky are THEY! You aren't stupid, or at least I deeply hope you're not. So don't act like you are, because you are better than that. ~
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Posted: Mon Nov 12, 2007 12:48 pm
Quote: Vickicat I've got a question about this. I've always thought of things like handjobs and blowjobs as sexual activities but thought of sex as the actual act of the p***s being in the v****a. If you do things like handjobs but have not had "actual sex", are you still considered a virgin? Lots of people have different opinions on this. Some say that only the actual penetration of the p***s into the v****a would make a someone not a virgin. Some think that oral might even lead one to not being a virgin. I think though, that only actual intercourse makes you not a virgin.
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