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How long would it usually take a guy to c** from oral sex?

Because I know the day is getting closer that I will actually end up doing all this stuff, I've been reading up on all these stickies and finding other info. But not my question.

The reason I'm asking is because in some of the magazines I buy, occasionally they have sealed sections on giving head and they list all these various techniques to do in a session or over various ones. Does it go on that long that you have to change your technique regularly to keep him erect or does doing the same thing still work?

I love giving oral to my boyfriend, and recently I went further and licked him around the a**s, and he loved it. I read online this can be a very pleasurable zone for men, and I was thinking of pleasuring with my fingers and my tongue next time, but I'm not sure if that'll make it better or not, or if men even like this idea at all...

Suggestions?

My boyfriend doesn't usually come when I give him a b*****b or handjob. When I ask him, he says I'm not doing anything wrong and that it feels amazing, but he just goes limp in the middle of it. He'll still sound like he is enjoying it when he goes soft and doesn't seem to realize he has gone soft until I stop. Occasionally, when I wait about 15 minutes and just use my hands and not mouth, he will get off. I don't really understand this.

I always dreamed doing a**l with my girlfriend, but she says it hurts like hell and disgusting. I dont think she will ever change her mind.

@Canned Orgasm: That may happen or that you may not c**, I remember one time when my GF was giving me a handjob and b*****b and it went on for an hour and a bit, I didt c** for ages and i was wondering why but i guess it was stressed since i could not find any other reason. But it helps if you make moans when giving him blowjobs and handjobs, Sound has effect on guys as well as chicks. You also have to find his Speed as i call it, basicaly how fast he would like it to be done.

you can do the same with plastic wrap

What you're describing sounds a little like penile dysfunction. What gives it away is that he goes soft in the middle of it. Since you say he's still feel pleasure and doesn't realize he's gone limp then it sounds more of a physiological problem.

Obtaining erections which are either not rigid or full (lazy erection), or are lost more rapidly than would be expected (often before or during penetration), can be a sign of a failure of the mechanism which keeps blood held in the p***s, and may signify an underlying clinical condition, often cardiovascular in origin.


It should be noted that this is common.


Also, I'm not a doctor, so I can't diagnose him properly, but if he wants to know, a doctor can diagnose the problem.

It sounds like you will get better at it when you are ready to. Right now, you don't sound 100% comfortable with the idea. If you're not comfortable with what you are doing, chances are you won't be as good as you could be. If you don't want to have oral sex with him, tell him so. If you two have a good relationship, you really should be able to talk about these things with him and tell him "no" sometimes. When you're ready, then you'll be calm and relaxed. Then you'll be able to focus more on him rather than on how uncomfortable you are. In the meantime, keep in mind that things can feel great even if you don't orgasm from them.

It's normal to feel like you're going to poop from a**l stimulation, even if you do not really have to go. If you go to the bathroom before a**l play, there still may be come fecal matter in the a**s though. You can have your partner wear a latex glove or a condom on his finger(s).

"1. Be clean. Prior to engaging in any form of a**l play, it is a good idea for the receiving partner to clean their a**l region. Fecal matter is most concentrated in the rectum prior to a bowel movement. Therefore, going to the bathroom prior to a**l play reduces the amount of feces in the rectum. Nevertheless, there are always some traces of feces and bacteria left behind in the rectum. Some people may choose to clean their a**s by carefully inserting a wet, soapy finger up their a**s or use a hypoallergenic, fragrance-free “wet-wipe” to clean just inside the a**s. By lightly and carefully cleaning the general area in and about the a**s, receiving partner can reduce the risk of transmitting bacteria and diseases.

Furthermore, after any object has been inside the rectum it must be washed thoroughly to avoid the spread of bacteria. After a finger, p***s, or sex toy has been inside the rectum, never insert it into the v****a or mouth. If the bacteria from the rectum are introduced into any other orifice, they can cause serious infections.

2. Use protection! Due to the many bacterial and viral diseases that can be contracted from a**l activities, it is extremely important to use barrier forms of protection. If a p***s or a**l toy is entering the rectum, a condom should be worn over the p***s or toy. Wearing a condom while having a**l sex can protect a person from transmitting or contracting HIV/AIDS. Also, a condom shields the p***s or sex toy from coming in contact with the fecal bacteria in the rectum.

If a finger or fingers are entering the a**s, latex gloves can be worn, leaving the hands germ-free. If latex gloves are not used, then make sure the fingers are clean and the fingernails trimmed short to protect the receiving partner. Dental dams should be used as a barrier if the mouth and/or tongue is being used to stimulate the a**s. This act is called anilingus or “rimming,” and can lead to the spread of STDs and other infection if performed without barrier protection. Using a barrier method is vital to one’s safety and health if engaging any form of a**l play."
http://www.soc.ucsb.edu/sexinfo/?article=activity&refid=008