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 Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 6:33 pm
Ok, so I love my boyfriend to death... he would NEVER cheat on me... for the fact I'm his first girlfriend... and he's completely trustworthy... but in past relations, I've developed insecurities... I'm terrified of being cheated on... I hate being pushed out of the lime light knowing about other girls.
My boyfriend has like 65 friends that are girls... and no matter how much I tell myself that it's ok... I can't push away my insecurities... I'm terrified of being pushed off and cheated on again... but like I said I know this won't happen...
Because I'm so confused, that when I know he's talking to these girls I pretend to be ok with it... but really I get mad about it... then I feel bad about it and start crying... I know this is nothing to worry over... but I can't push them away...
Any advice on pushing my fears away... I'm tired of crying.
I'm also tired of getting angry with myself about this... it's so stupid but I can't push it out of my mind.
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Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 6:37 pm
I'm really begining to hate myself because of this... it's eating away at me. I can't talk to him about it because I feel stupid... everytime we talk he assures me it's just me and him ... no other girl... I know he's telling me the truth, and I believe him, but my insecurities eat at me
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Posted: Wed Jul 12, 2006 7:57 pm
Most Girls feel like this.. I do but then I'm Like "Stupid Jenny... *smacks forehead*.. If he cheated on you he knows you woudl cut off his balls and also he loves you so much!"
So just let him know teh way you feel and tell him what things have happen in the past...
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 9:46 am
But we've talked about it before, I don't know, I love him to death... but there's always this paranoia that follows me, but I know better than what the paranoia tells me to think... I know I'm the only girlfriend girl in his life, but I'm not used to having such a popular boyfriend.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 10:44 am
Maybe if you get to know and become friends with some of his close friends that are girls you will feel better? I think it's only normal to be paranoid even if you do trust him. I think almost any girl would feel the same way with having a popular boyfriend.
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Posted: Thu Jul 13, 2006 6:25 pm
well see, another thing that makes this so silly is the fact that they're all online... every single one of them... they're all over the internet... I feel even more stupid, but I can't help but feel I don't know... second... like the only reason he chooses to be with me is because I'm closer to him geographically than these other girls... and given if they were closer, I wouldn't have even been asked out.
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 8:51 am
Oohhh...break his computor. twisted Ha, no don't do that. I think the only thing you can do is seriously talk to him and tell him about these insecurities and have him reassure you. Or you can try and think more positive about yourself. Tell yourself he's not just dating you because you're close. I think your self asteem might be playing a part in your insecurities.
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 3:09 pm
Fact: All those girls are his friends, and you are not. You are his girlfriend for a reason. He could have chosen on of those other 60-something girls, but didn't since you obviously stood out. I doubt it's only geography based (if it was he would be totally shallow and undeserving of you anyway).
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Posted: Fri Jul 14, 2006 6:08 pm
AraTeran Fact: All those girls are his friends, and you are not. You are his girlfriend for a reason. He could have chosen on of those other 60-something girls, but didn't since you obviously stood out. I doubt it's only geography based (if it was he would be totally shallow and undeserving of you anyway). well... that's the thing... he's had several online relationships... I don't know with whom... never pressed... I'm his first serious real life girlfriend... but insecurities are WAAAA stressed gonk I feel horrible... he read this thread... and again he said "I don't know what to say... just me and you..." that's it! I don't know
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Posted: Sat Jul 15, 2006 8:10 am
hmm he sounds like a good guy. 3nodding From what you say I doubt he'd cheat on you and I'm sure he'd tell you if he wanted to break up. You just need to learn to trust him.
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Posted: Sat Jul 15, 2006 9:48 am
I do trust him... I trust the boy with my life... but I want to push these insecurities away... he knows I'm insecure and I don't want to be
edit:: and yes, he's a wonderful guy
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Posted: Sun Jul 16, 2006 3:57 pm
ok, you have talked it over with him, good. that would have been my first suggestion. but alas, what to do... whenever an insecurity thought enters your head, don't dwell on it. reassure yourself that he loves you and isn't the cheating kind. label the thought as an insecurity and let it subside. do not entertain the thought. and if he is this popular, certainly he could of found another girl around town to go out with. But no, he is going out with you! so, don't worry about that. heart
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Posted: Mon Oct 30, 2006 7:38 pm
That's the same thing with me now. His ex still talks to him and it's killing me. I know he'd NEVER cheat on me. His family knows he wouldn't and he's even told me, but I'm still freaking out. He's the kind of guy who hates everyone. He makes fun of people and tries to stab them with his pen just for attention... but he really does hate a lot of people. It means a lot to me that I'm the only person he can talk to and not be mad at. When I see him 'not hate' some other girl it just kills me.
I even asked his ex to be friends and she said sure. I told her I was sorry, thinking that facing my fear would be the best way. Now today I was hoping things would be better, but she's still all over him... >.< maybe he just wants her to leave him alone... he never really seems interested in what she's saying and most of the time he's walking way ahead of her..
sorry.. typing about it makes me feel better for some reason
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Posted: Mon Nov 06, 2006 12:35 pm
~Ichigo_Pie~ well see, another thing that makes this so silly is the fact that they're all online... every single one of them... they're all over the internet... I feel even more stupid, but I can't help but feel I don't know... second... like the only reason he chooses to be with me is because I'm closer to him geographically than these other girls... and given if they were closer, I wouldn't have even been asked out. My brother has a SHITLOAD of online friends from all over Argentina. He gets a real shitload of comments on his Fotolog every time he posts a picture. If we consider both online and offline friends, and if I compare myself to him, I'm a loser that has no female friends. Do I give a s**t? No. Because his female friends are mostly online. They're like 6000 km away from town. On the other hand, I don't have as much female friends like him, but they're all offline. Which rawks, because he just can't date them. I can. And I tell you, it kicks so many asses to be able to pick out any girl and ask her to go to a little pub. So don't worry, and stay with him. Online relationships that end up in romance are usually the exception, not the rule.
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