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 Posted: Fri May 05, 2006 12:04 am
I do not want to let out thier real names so I will use the nicknames I give them.
I am so confused and scared. I am with a wonderful man. He loves me, we did sort of rush into things, but we have so many common things it's freaky. He's sweet, kind, caring, has integrity, and loves me a lot (he says). His name is Cru.
Before I met Cru, I dated Sean. Sean introduced me to new things and was a great man. He said after a week of being together he didn't want to commit to me because he wanted to "explore" before committing and I left - because I wanted a man who could committ to me.
I believe I am a messed up gal. I am emotionally unstable, and have many mood swings. I honestly do not think I am a very worthy catch.
anyways, for some reason, when I talk about Cru, I say, Sean. When I talk with Sean, I want his attention.
What am I doing? Why do I feel so torn between the two men? Am I just scared of what Cru is offering? What should I do? I need advice...
I am getting off for tonight but I will be back tomorrow/today. Please, someone help me.
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Posted: Fri May 05, 2006 3:44 am
hi, *big hugs*
i can kinda relate, it sounds like your not over sean, and although you know cru is a great guy your still craving sean. yeah?
i don't know if i can help at all, you just might want to step back and take some time to get over both guys so you can think with a clear mind over who u think you can love
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Posted: Wed May 24, 2006 6:19 pm
ummmmmmmmmmm...........................
kiss each guy and see witch one gives you the "spark"
or date both till one of them does something you dont like
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Posted: Tue May 30, 2006 4:51 pm
Sean LEFT you. For whatever reason. If he is not willing to be with you when you need him, then he really isn't worth it.
Why is there a conflict? I think, from what I know, Cru's better for you.
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Posted: Wed May 31, 2006 3:49 pm
I would have to say sit down and think about which is better for you in your life right now.
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Posted: Fri Jun 02, 2006 4:53 pm
If a guy leaves you then that should deem him dead in your book. Apparently he didn't find you worthy enough. confused Jerk. The real issue here though is yourself. Why would you want to love a man who didn't love you back? You need to take some time by yourself and think, get yourself together. No relationship works when one or both people have really low self esteem because it's too draining for one person or both. If Cru really loves you and sticks around you're going to put him through a lot of unnecessary drama because you're down on yourself. I personally think you need a break from relationships, but even if you do take that break still stay close to Cru. Forget about Sean.
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Posted: Wed Sep 06, 2006 9:23 am
Kamen Rider Black Sean LEFT you. For whatever reason. If he is not willing to be with you when you need him, then he really isn't worth it. Why is there a conflict? I think, from what I know, Cru's better for you. I agree, and besides. Just close your eyes and think about the both of them, which ever makes your heart pound, and gives you a smile is the right choice.
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Posted: Wed Sep 06, 2006 6:56 pm
Stay with Cru cause Sean dumped you....it sounds like he wasnt ready for a relationship with you, but Cru is.
just stick with what you got going now, and if after a few months it doesnt feel natural to be with Cru anymore, than seek other options...
But good luck!
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Posted: Fri Sep 08, 2006 8:11 pm
i dont think you should make any rash decisions, that you need to wait intill it feels right, that you can commit with out regrets
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Posted: Tue Jan 16, 2007 5:44 pm
*comforts* I'm sorry you're going through that, it sounds tough. I'm not sure how I can help, other than offer my opinion. I don't think we can ever help who we fall for, so I don't think anything's wrong with you. Sometimes love just sucks like that.
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Posted: Tue Jan 16, 2007 8:04 pm
Honestly, I don't think you should be dating either person. I don't think you should be dating at all. It sounds to me like you are looking for some one to help you have an identity. If you are as mixed up and unhappy as you say you are then don't drag another person into it.
Get some help, get a counselor and do things that focus on you. Join a gym or start jogging on your own. If you have a dog, walk it in the evenings and mornings. You'll be amazed at how much you start feeling better once you have endorphins in your body and you have raised your natural seratonin levels.
I deal with bipolar disorder and every day is it's own battle. While I am taking Wellbutrin I know that my medication isn't enough. I have to actively do things to get me through bad days and help me feel good. You need to start looking for things that make you feel good in a positive way.
Go help people at an old folks home or a soup kitchen. Visit people with serious problems and life issues. You'll find that your boy trouble doesn't seem so dire when you are volunteering at the Battered Women's Shelter.
You want us to help you with a symptom of your problems. You need help helping yourself.
Also, a very sad truth, when a guy says that he wants to look around before he commits, that is a nice way of saying, "I wanna play the field and if I can't get anyone better to go out with him, I'll come back and string you along and have sex with you until I do."
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