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| Arranged by another person.. ie: blind date, set up by family/friend |
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| high school sweetie/friend |
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 Posted: Wed Mar 22, 2006 5:56 pm
I receintly set my son up with a girl on the internet... You may have read a little about it in the thread.. http://www.gaiaonline.com/guilds/viewtopic.php?t=1635053Their relationship is going very well so far... there is the problem of the distance that gets in the way. My son calls her every night for a few hours until they fall asleep on the phone. They spend time with each other online. They also had the one chance so far to meet each other when she came here to visit. I met my husband online 7 years ago. I had a friend that liked to check out the personals and I would laugh about them with her. We were out one night and had some bad luck with pushy men and I came home to the computer and for the fun of it I went to the site my friend likes and typed in the phrase "no games" and put in a general age range... What I got back is what I would refer to as "the funny pages"... I would look at ads and read what these people wrote and figure out what they were really like, I would also look for where they would contradict themselves with what was said in one part of the ad to what they would say in another part of the ad.. ie; funny pages... I found my husband's ad and he had a comment in there about liking to sit with someone special and listen to a thunderstorm. I had liked what he said and put a comment on the ad saying that I liked what he wrote and he made me smile after a bad night out. That's all it took to get a response back from him and he started sending me ocassional messages telling me to be safe when I headed out at night, have a nice day, etc. We started chatting nightly after a few days and I told him not to expect to get into a relationship with me because of how far away he lived and because I had no interest in getting married again... One thing led to another and we have been married for 7 years this April... What are your viewpoints of online relationships? How did you meet your partner?
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Posted: Thu Mar 23, 2006 11:38 am
i've met some of my very best friends online.
i did have a short relationship with one but it was all a bit too quick and intense for me, distance making things impossible, so i had to end that before it got messy, but he's still the best male friend any girl could ask for.
you CAN find out who the real person is through the net, if the person you're corresponding with is honest, chatting one on one can get very deep and a really strong bond can be formed( which will either strengthen, or collapse totally when you meet for the first time)
On the down side it gives the slimy toads out there every opportunity they need to lead you up the garden path, so i'd say it's luck of the draw
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Posted: Thu Mar 23, 2006 5:15 pm
You are definately right about the slimy toads...
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Posted: Sat Mar 25, 2006 7:05 pm
Nope, can't say as I've tried the online dating thing... RL dating was hard enough to make me quit going out at all. And I don't miss it ~ though there are days when a snuggle from someone my own size would be nice. rofl
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 5:01 am
that's very true!
i do miss soft, cuddling moments sometimes.
but i'd rather go without then get together with someone unsuitable just for some company, and the only people who show an interest in me are all unsuitable rolleyes
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Posted: Sun Mar 26, 2006 5:31 am
You guys are making me feel sad... cry
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Posted: Thu Mar 30, 2006 11:51 pm
Lil Brat Nope, can't say as I've tried the online dating thing... RL dating was hard enough to make me quit going out at all. And I don't miss it ~ though there are days when a snuggle from someone my own size would be nice. rofl I think you've got the right idea, though, Lil. Dating and marriage are both very difficult with very few payoffs. There's plenty of other ways to entertain yourself and plenty of other people in your life who can offer you a shoulder or some comfort when things get tough, eh? I'm sorry I ever got Hallie into this mess. She deserved better. (Economically, she married a social rung or two beneath her own, as well.) Just about every woman deserves better than what they get, dating or marriage-wise. Pfooey. I wanted this to be funny, but I think I'm gonna cry.
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Posted: Fri Mar 31, 2006 6:36 pm
I was introduced to "the boy" at on online forum by a friend, who happened to be his RL ex-girlfriend. It sounds a little confusing, I know. But, she thought he needed to practice communication skills on someone, or something like that... He was being all quiet and moody at the time. and Since I'm relativily harmless, and able to carry on several parts of a conversation all by myself rolleyes (or so I've been told).... She pawned him off on me. Well, after talking to him for a month or so I couldn't figure out why she had dumped him. And he couldn't figured out why I wasn't attached. We just kinda clicked. We didn't get to meet face to face for about a year, which was just odd. Then about a year after that I moved to his city, and about a month after that he moved in. And everything has been peachy since. biggrin
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Posted: Sat Apr 01, 2006 6:15 am
now that's nice, the net is really just another way of potentially meeting a mate, same as meeting someone in a bar, running into someone with your trolley in the supermarket, sitting by a stranger on the bus..that chance is always there, and when i hear that love has blossomed for someone it always gives me a smiley feeling inside 3nodding
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Posted: Sat Apr 01, 2006 10:18 am
It is nice.... and it was totally unexpected. After many years of making really, REALLY eek bad decisions, I had decided that living alone with a cats wasn't really such a bad a thing. I think talking to someone with anonymnity of the net, and also with no expectation of starting a relationship, allowed both of us to be a little more open and honest in communication. And so far so good. The one thing that I was a little concerned about was the age difference (I'm slightly older ... by about 14 years) but that has been a non-issue.
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Posted: Sat Apr 01, 2006 2:22 pm
I've always failed miserably at the dating/partner thing in real life (and had one particularly very bad experience stare ), so I'm happy with the living-with-cats option. I like making new friends online, and it's great hearing stories of others who have built successful real life relationships from online, but I'm certainly not looking for that to happen for me.
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Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 1:16 am
Aww Cosmic, that's one of the best internet stories I've heard heart . Hope things keep going well.
I've always been really put off by the whole internet thing, because my brother is one of those slimey toadsJellysundae was talking about. While he was married (and surprise, surprise, he's not now eek ) that's how he used to meet his "extra curriculars". When he got found out and kicked out he just went and lived alternative months between a couple of them. When he got found out with having two on the go he ended up with the one who hadn't found out.
Luckily I'm happily married to a guy I dated for four years in my early 20's, then split up with for 8 years (we both had a lot of growing up to do). Now we've been married for over 8 years, and this weekend is the 20th anniversary of our very first date.
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Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 1:51 am
confused
i've never looked at the toads from the perspective of their relatives before,i'd have wanted to give him a good pasting.
IMO testosterone has a lot to answer for evil
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Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 7:47 am
hehehe..i have met my last two boyfriends online and the last one flew out here to see me. wow..that was a week long lovefest i'll not soon forget. domokun
..oh..and might i add my last two boyfriends were 10 years younger then me or more..*coughs*..i love younger men twisted
ANYWAY..it's no different then going to a bar to meet someone..only the communication is better online..it HAS to be or you don't get anywhere. and for those who say..stalkers! liars! axe-murder type people are on the net looking for YOU!! *horrorfied screams*
those same people are in the bars..or in the grocery store..looking for you there too. so does it really make a difference where you meet your man?
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Posted: Sun Apr 02, 2006 8:04 am
I have to agree, before I met my husband I dated a guy for a little over 3 years. When I tried to break it off with him (he was a bit controling and scared me in a few ways), he got really strange. He would stand outside the windows of my house watching me and the kids (they are not his). I would find him sitting in his car watching when I would get out of stores or work. I even had a friend that I had over to the house, I was hanging out with him while he worked (late night security) and we had layed down on my bed, fully dressed on top of the covers, and fell asleep while waiting for his pager to go off again. I woke up in a daze to find my X-boyfriend standing at the foot of the bed stairing at us. I know I had all the doors locked, but it took a long time before I felt secure in my own home again.
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