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 Posted: Sat Mar 16, 2013 9:14 pm
When is the right time? And is it ever too soon?
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Posted: Sat Mar 16, 2013 9:19 pm
I really don't think it's something someone can be completely sure of. Everyone's different, I lost mine when I was 16 I wasn't ready yet, I kind of rushed into things. I think that you should wait until you're completely comfortable with the person you're with.
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Posted: Sun Mar 17, 2013 4:22 am
There is no one set "right time". It is going to vary from person to person.
And yes, "too soon" exists for most people.
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Posted: Sun Mar 17, 2013 6:14 am
I dont think there is anything wrong with waiting. You want it to feel right, natural and unforced. You want to be comfortable otherwise it can end very badly.
Hell im 22 and still a virgin xP
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Intellectual Elocutionist
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Posted: Sun Mar 17, 2013 1:18 pm
To me, the only "too soon" is before you are ready. Losing one's virginity shouldn't be necessarily held up to a pedestal, but it is an important change in a relationship that can't really be taken back, so it deserves all the thought and respect that any big relational step would deserve.
Personally, I lost mine at the tender age of 16, and I don't think that was too soon, although it was young. It was with a person I really cared about (and while we're not still together, he's still one of my best friends). We thought about it and, well, we were horny hormonal teenagers, and we did it safely and thoughtfully.
But, my fiancé for example didn't lose his until after we were engaged, when he was 22. And that was the right time for him, when we were committed and thoughtful about our relationship at that point.
Personally, my main concern would only be to not feel pressured to have sex for the wrong reasons. It doesn't mean that you can't have sex in a non-committed situation, but it does mean that you have to understand and communicate your own expectations and also match those up with any potential partners. That being said, I think a lot of people do underestimate the emotional vulnerability and connection that can happen with a sexual relationship - so for that reason I would personally recommend waiting until you can do it with someone you are committed to and that you trust a lot, although what that means exactly can vary from person to person. I think as long as sex is always based on mutual trust and respect, it will be a success on some level.
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Posted: Tue Mar 19, 2013 8:59 am
i waited until i met my husband, it was before we were engaged. i think i was 20 or 19, i cant even remember anymore. im happy i waited and have no regrets, but at the same time sex and virginity is not a huge deal like alot of people made it out to be.
the right time is whenever you feel ready. and preferably when you are at least able to fully understand all that can go wrong.
and dont ever assume that someone will stay with you just because you put out or that they will leave you if you arent ready yet. if they leave you because of that then they are an a** and you really dont need them in your life
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Posted: Wed Mar 20, 2013 3:00 pm
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Posted: Thu Apr 04, 2013 10:06 pm
iMarimba When is the right time? And is it ever too soon? I told myself, and others, that I wanted to wait until marriage to lose my virginity. When I met my now fiance we were together 3 weeks before I lost my virginity. I was 19 and most of my friends lost theirs when they were 14-15. I don't regret waiting and I don't regret not waiting until marriage. Everyone always just told me "you'll know when the right time is" and I thought that was just because no one really wanted to talk about it. But really, you'll know. If you're unsure I suggest telling yourself, and your future partners, that you're waiting for marriage. Because if they really love you they won't pressure you and you won't feel any pressure yourself. This way when the right time comes, you'll really know it.
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Posted: Fri Apr 05, 2013 6:53 am
caaaaaath iMarimba When is the right time? And is it ever too soon? I told myself, and others, that I wanted to wait until marriage to lose my virginity. When I met my now fiance we were together 3 weeks before I lost my virginity. I was 19 and most of my friends lost theirs when they were 14-15. I don't regret waiting and I don't regret not waiting until marriage. Everyone always just told me "you'll know when the right time is" and I thought that was just because no one really wanted to talk about it. But really, you'll know. If you're unsure I suggest telling yourself, and your future partners, that you're waiting for marriage. Because if they really love you they won't pressure you and you won't feel any pressure yourself. This way when the right time comes, you'll really know it. same exact story high five! i waited till 5 months i think though, i cant remember too well had sex then went and played videogames
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Posted: Fri Apr 05, 2013 9:27 am
angelfromdown-under I dont think there is anything wrong with waiting. You want it to feel right, natural and unforced. You want to be comfortable otherwise it can end very badly. Hell im 22 and still a virgin xP same! I will continue to be until I find the right one and I would prefer to be married to them first if I'm not at least engaged or been together at least 3 years so there is a better outcome of us staying together
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Intellectual Elocutionist
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Posted: Fri Apr 05, 2013 12:28 pm
inu_fan77777 same! I will continue to be until I find the right one and I would prefer to be married to them first if I'm not at least engaged or been together at least 3 years so there is a better outcome of us staying together
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Posted: Fri Apr 05, 2013 12:32 pm
Shanna66 caaaaaath iMarimba When is the right time? And is it ever too soon? I told myself, and others, that I wanted to wait until marriage to lose my virginity. When I met my now fiance we were together 3 weeks before I lost my virginity. I was 19 and most of my friends lost theirs when they were 14-15. I don't regret waiting and I don't regret not waiting until marriage. Everyone always just told me "you'll know when the right time is" and I thought that was just because no one really wanted to talk about it. But really, you'll know. If you're unsure I suggest telling yourself, and your future partners, that you're waiting for marriage. Because if they really love you they won't pressure you and you won't feel any pressure yourself. This way when the right time comes, you'll really know it. same exact story high five! i waited till 5 months i think though, i cant remember too well had sex then went and played videogames No lie, sex then video games. That's exactly what happened to me too!!!
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Posted: Tue Apr 09, 2013 8:18 am
caaaaaath Shanna66 caaaaaath iMarimba When is the right time? And is it ever too soon? I told myself, and others, that I wanted to wait until marriage to lose my virginity. When I met my now fiance we were together 3 weeks before I lost my virginity. I was 19 and most of my friends lost theirs when they were 14-15. I don't regret waiting and I don't regret not waiting until marriage. Everyone always just told me "you'll know when the right time is" and I thought that was just because no one really wanted to talk about it. But really, you'll know. If you're unsure I suggest telling yourself, and your future partners, that you're waiting for marriage. Because if they really love you they won't pressure you and you won't feel any pressure yourself. This way when the right time comes, you'll really know it. same exact story high five! i waited till 5 months i think though, i cant remember too well had sex then went and played videogames No lie, sex then video games. That's exactly what happened to me too!!! lol thats amazing. what game did you play afterwards? sorry, at this point i just have to know if it was also city of heros like what we played
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Posted: Tue Apr 09, 2013 8:36 am
Shanna66 caaaaaath Shanna66 caaaaaath iMarimba When is the right time? And is it ever too soon? I told myself, and others, that I wanted to wait until marriage to lose my virginity. When I met my now fiance we were together 3 weeks before I lost my virginity. I was 19 and most of my friends lost theirs when they were 14-15. I don't regret waiting and I don't regret not waiting until marriage. Everyone always just told me "you'll know when the right time is" and I thought that was just because no one really wanted to talk about it. But really, you'll know. If you're unsure I suggest telling yourself, and your future partners, that you're waiting for marriage. Because if they really love you they won't pressure you and you won't feel any pressure yourself. This way when the right time comes, you'll really know it. same exact story high five! i waited till 5 months i think though, i cant remember too well had sex then went and played videogames No lie, sex then video games. That's exactly what happened to me too!!! lol thats amazing. what game did you play afterwards? sorry, at this point i just have to know if it was also city of heros like what we played Haha, no it was Halo!
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Posted: Tue Apr 09, 2013 9:59 am
I'm 21 and still a virgin. And as a psychology major I have to say there definitely is a to soon. Statistically people who wait to have sex until after they're 19 are more successful in both their jobs and relationships. And I've known people who have regreted giving it away to early but never anyone who has regretted waiting.
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