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 Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2012 6:07 pm
I think we've all been in this situation before, crushing on an individual who is the epitome of heterosexuality, but in all honest, what should one do in this situation?
Dilemma:
So there is a boy in one of my classes and I'm hardcore crushing on him. As to the extent of my knowledge and understanding he is 100% heterosexual. My friends encourage me to open up and express my feelings for him but I don't have any guy friends simply because I'm really uncomfortable around, you know the whole not wanting to make them feel like you're going to molest them deal. Anywhoozle, this kid and I get along fairly well, we're friends but not the sort of necessarily hangout outside of class. We sit right next to each other in our Accounting class and work together exclusively and while he knows of my sexuality I don't know if I should just be all like "hey, I like you" which is my awkward way of expressing my feelings towards others.
Mehh, I don't want to put him off because I enjoy being his friend and I'm quite content with just that. I honestly don't believe that anything could come of me expressing my feelings towards him that would be in anyway beneficial to he and I's relationship.
I seriously hate this stuff, my life in nutshell, always the straight ones.
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2012 6:30 pm
*Giggles*
I love your timing hun, it's just funny your the exact opposite of me right now.
"It's always the gay ones."
But here's the advice, as pessimistic as it gets. If you'd rather have him stay your friend and not potentially "freak out" or worse, you might wanna bottle those feelings untill you get to know each others better, longer, etc.
You say your not close, so you really have nothing to lose. I'm just trying to help so you don't get hurt.... ^ ^;;;
But if it's really those kind of feelings, I want you to be honest!! he already knows your sexuality...thats harder coming out then your heart guts!!
So yeah, I tryed. And I'm wishing you luck~ Gambate o 3 o
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2012 8:06 pm
This is exactly my life at this very moment... (._.'')
I've been planning on telling my crush how I felt for the longest, but then I chicken out at the last second (thanks, social awkwardness). I'll probably end up keeping quiet about the whole thing, since I don't even think he knows my sexual orientation...
Anyways, as was stated before, there's not much to lose. Might as well get it out, and even if it bombs, you'll most likely feel better in the long run.
I apologize if this "advice" seems bad, Battlestar Galactica has me quite distracted at the moment... sweatdrop
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Posted: Tue Apr 10, 2012 8:50 pm
I say don't. You're fully aware of his sexuality and it seems you have a good friendship; I say find somebody else and maintain that friendship (which is hard to find these days).
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The Bodacious Soul Reaper
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2012 10:54 pm
Before I begin my ramble, with your Anywhoozle, man I died xD That's so freakin' awesome.
Anyways, I hate this situation. I agree with you it is truly horrible. It's extremely difficult in this situation as there are only 3 results. 1 Tell them and they get creeped out and possibly never speak with you again. 2. They simply acknowledge that and continue to live their normal lives. And then 3. They end up feeling the same way (man I wish that was the most likely).
I truly don't know what to say with this situation. If you enjoy his company, and fear he might be creeped out, then stay the way you are, and possibly give hints? But you say he knows of your sexuality then maybe you should try telling him? The main issue is, is that if he is straight he probably will stay that way :/ He may be curious though. Who knows.
I apologize as I was of no help practically, and wish you luck : )
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Posted: Wed Apr 11, 2012 11:47 pm
i say tell him, otherwise you might end up like me, living in the aftermath of finally getting the courage to tell him and going online only to have the first thing pop up in my face is that he's in a relationship with some girl i don't even know and feeling horrible for the next few days.
and to be honest, unless they're horrible people on the inside with paranoia of other people and either a super-boosted ego where they think you're not gonna get over them or insecurities that make them think that you'll hate them for an answer, they'll be honest, and whether the answer is something you want or not, at least it's very likely you two can still be friends. for all you know, it'll be one simple awkward moment at its worst and be like normal again, or there just might be enough of a connection to spark something smile
there's always hesitancy when you like someone, but sometimes the best feeling isn't even in telling them, it's in knowing that it'll no longer be a thought weighing on your mind
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Posted: Thu Apr 12, 2012 12:15 pm
Aww, I appreciate all of your comments and am thankful that you all took time to give me thoughtful replies, tis heartwarming :'D
I have yet to tell him or make a final decision but I'm leaning more and more towards telling him because as of more recently he seems to take part in conversations with me and isn't afraid to ask questions that many other people are too fearful to. As I am a very blunt person I tend to just spew things out of my mouth with little filtering and he doesn't seem to find anything I say repulsive, instead he finds me rather humorous (I think) which hell, I'll be honest, my only goal in life is to make people laugh.
So as I said, I am leaning more towards telling him but I'm still like eh, eh, because, well I don't even know but hopefully soon I'll have an exciting update for you all C:
Thank you again, everyone!
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Posted: Tue Apr 24, 2012 7:32 pm
Der Fluch des Pharao I think we've all been in this situation before, crushing on an individual who is the epitome of heterosexuality, but in all honest, what should one do in this situation? Dilemma: So there is a boy in one of my classes and I'm hardcore crushing on him. As to the extent of my knowledge and understanding he is 100% heterosexual. My friends encourage me to open up and express my feelings for him but I don't have any guy friends simply because I'm really uncomfortable around, you know the whole not wanting to make them feel like you're going to molest them deal. Anywhoozle, this kid and I get along fairly well, we're friends but not the sort of necessarily hangout outside of class. We sit right next to each other in our Accounting class and work together exclusively and while he knows of my sexuality I don't know if I should just be all like "hey, I like you" which is my awkward way of expressing my feelings towards others. Mehh, I don't want to put him off because I enjoy being his friend and I'm quite content with just that. I honestly don't believe that anything could come of me expressing my feelings towards him that would be in anyway beneficial to he and I's relationship. I seriously hate this stuff, my life in nutshell, always the straight ones. Just one day come out and tell him and see what happens. He just might be gay u never know. And most guys like that all ready know u like them.
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Posted: Tue Apr 24, 2012 9:17 pm
aww. It's good that you two work on projects together and sit next to each other. I mean, even if he doesn't like you back in the same way, you guys are still friends. Btw, it seems like he would be cool if you told him you were gay. But don't take my word for it. whee
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 3:11 pm
Don't do it. Bottle those feelings up. I've heard from a few guys that they don't mind dudes crushing on other dudes or any of the gay stuff. BUT if a guy ends up crushing on them, well.... The straight guy says he'd end it with a punch in the face.
Thats about the time when I end up walking away from that conversation. I know when these conversations get heated and I really don't want to deal with their crap.
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Posted: Wed Apr 25, 2012 3:58 pm
I wish you the best of luck in what ever you do dear!!! i know the situation and to be honest its a 50 50 shot either way if you don't say it you'll never know but if you do then things could go from bad to worse.
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Posted: Tue May 08, 2012 9:32 pm
Gaaaaaa!!! scream I'm in love with my best friend, we've been together since we were 4 and were very close but comman sense did taught that he is probably 99.9 percent straight,I wish I could tell him but I don't wanna risk ruining our freibdship
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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 1:05 am
You could always disguise your confession as past-tense.
Say that you had a crush on him rather than have. Or just confess you feelings. The latter might be a better choice.
But remember to give him all your reasons why you do have a crush on him. Go far into detail with your reasons, like mentioning something you experienced together that a normal friend wouldn't bother remembering. Reasons sprinkled heavily with compliments.
After that, gauge his reaction. Be observant with body language; answers aren't always in words or expressions.
I wish I said something to my straight crush.
His name was Bobby, and he was a friend of mine's boyfriend; I met him through her. During sophomore year of highschool, we would wait together for our rides. We'd usually be the last ones there. We'd talk about stuff, like current school drama, college, driving, and how women are too confusing.
On the last day of school, as we were waiting for our rides, he told me how his friends are convinced that he's gay because of how he likes to wrestle them to the ground. There was an awkward pause after that. He was looking at his feet while I looked down at him from my perch atop a retaining wall.
I was just about to ask, "well, are you?" when my dad drove up. crying
Looking back, that may have been his way of letting me know that he knows I'm gay.
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Posted: Wed May 09, 2012 5:02 pm
Gresley Toombs You could always disguise your confession as past-tense. Say that you had a crush on him rather than have. Or just confess you feelings. The latter might be a better choice. But remember to give him all your reasons why you do have a crush on him. Go far into detail with your reasons, like mentioning something you experienced together that a normal friend wouldn't bother remembering. Reasons sprinkled heavily with compliments. After that, gauge his reaction. Be observant with body language; answers aren't always in words or expressions. I wish I said something to my straight crush. His name was Bobby, and he was a friend of mine's boyfriend; I met him through her. During sophomore year of highschool, we would wait together for our rides. We'd usually be the last ones there. We'd talk about stuff, like current school drama, college, driving, and how women are too confusing. On the last day of school, as we were waiting for our rides, he told me how his friends are convinced that he's gay because of how he likes to wrestle them to the ground. There was an awkward pause after that. He was looking at his feet while I looked down at him from my perch atop a retaining wall. I was just about to ask, "well, are you?" when my dad drove up. crying Looking back, that may have been his way of letting me know that he knows I'm gay. that suz ._. I told my best free d that I was 'bi' wen we wre downtown for his kungfu performance (he was in that School For 7years ira a long story) anywayyy after his performance I asked if I could tell him something,so we went far to a bank were there we're no people caus there was some festival or whatever .it took me forever to say it straight out.afterthe whole scene we accepted with no question (everyone I told usually freaks out or replies with the words "really?" or "you are?" but he just said ok) anyway I regret telling him the lie that I was bi but Im really just gay.and now we don't see each other often caus were split up to different schools and I still regret not telling him
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Posted: Sun May 20, 2012 11:43 am
Invite him over for a sleep over and then rape him.
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