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 Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 12:45 am
so I have this problem.
Well it's not really my problem, but by association it is.
Rob can't finish. >__>
like
never
I came TWICE tonight. And I'm usually not the one having orgasms.
We've only had sex three times but I mean he was a virgin and that s**t normally happens fast.
I feel so bad, like he says it's okay and that he still counts it as a success if I finish but I just...it feels like I'm not satisfying my man and that sucks.
He said it always feels like he's right there and just nothing happens. He was literally biting into my shoulder to stop making noise and I thought that this was the time but it just wasn't.
Do any of you have advice or experience with this seriously it makes me feel like s**t.
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 2:31 am
Does he just randomly go soft or he's hard but can't c**?
It might be a psychological thing... Like maybe there's something holding him back, or maybe he's too nervous?
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 3:43 am
Maybe he's got a fetish he doesn't feel like he can tell you about yet.
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 4:44 am
Do you ever randomly just not orgasm? Like I've had occasions where I'm literally right there on the edge and it's just not happening for some reason. Yeah that happens to guys as well.
There could be a whole bunch of reasons why.
It could be a mental thing. Nerves for example.
It could be a mechanical thing. Hands and mouth can go faster/harder than vaginal sex. On the odd occasion Tom can't finish inside me, and usually by this point I'm in pain over how long it's been. So we'll stop and I'll help him finish in other ways.
And I think I saw this on reddit or something but it could be to do with whether he masturbates? If he masturbates a lot, or with a really hard grip, it can make it difficult to come during sex.
Was it the position? Did you try different positions?
I mean for me, it just seems really random when it does and doesn't happen. Sometimes he finishes in like less than a minute and other times it takes like 30. idk. I think it's probably just unfortunate that it's happened 3x in a row.
It kinda feels sucky but I think as girls, whose orgasms aren't as guaranteed, we understand it better. When I don't orgasm, it's never been Tom's fault. So hopefully you don't blame yourself so much.
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 5:03 am
I'm honestly the same way most of the time.
If he says it's no big deal it probably isn't.
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 11:14 am
Lots of experience with that.
It is lame but if he is actually okay with it, go with it. More orgasms for you? Don't blame yourself for it though. Sometimes I can't get off and agonizing over it doesn't help at all.
Also ditto on what VC said.
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 11:50 am
Yep, I've had that problem with guys and I felt very annoyed because I typically want to stop after I finish, not lay there pretending to enjoy it still while he struggles.
It probably isn't your fault at all. Circumsized guys can often get off WAY faster than uncirc and the reason this guy couldn't get off (he was uncirc) was because he needed like turbo speed which is kinda hard to get to during intercouse.
He told me it was nerves or that he wasn't in a comfortable position/would get a leg cramp/would get tired or something. Real annoying.
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 12:34 pm
Lass Kyon Does he just randomly go soft or he's hard but can't c**? It might be a psychological thing... Like maybe there's something holding him back, or maybe he's too nervous? he's hard but can't orgasm. He thinks it's a psychological thing too but like idk Thanks everyone for your input though, it's nice to know this is actually kind of normal :C <3
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Posted: Mon Mar 05, 2012 8:55 pm
I have this issue with oral and handjobs.
Like, I like them don't get me wrong, but I just won't c** from them.
Sex can take a long time for me to c**; in the "hour+" category sometimes.
Sometimes I'll stay hard and just won't finish, sometimes my d**k will be like "Oh you stopped paying attention to me for a minute cool I'm going to sleep now" and just like, go flacid while I'm taking a momentary break to get some water, sneeze (lol) or like, throw an animal out of the room.
It isn't always just nerves or something, sometimes your body chemistry just isn't aligned that day and it just isn't happening.
Something that always helps me though is soft, warm dirty talk whispered right into the ear.
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Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2012 1:31 am
so i allowed him to smoke a bowl before sex and
a) oh my god oh my god oh mY GOD IT WAS SO GOOD I DIDN'T EVEN SMOKE
b) he finished! yay!
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Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2012 4:08 am
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Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2012 9:41 am
rofl rofl omg yeah no that actually concerns me though like you can't finish unless you're stoned? >___> lame
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Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2012 10:11 am
he was probably more relaxed and s**t :<
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Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2012 10:35 am
Alexaandraa he was probably more relaxed and s**t :< he literally cannot do things without being stoned, he has ADD and refuses to take his medicine because he's all CANNABIS IS MY MEDICINE!!!!!!!! about it and it works for him so cool
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Posted: Tue Mar 06, 2012 1:59 pm
breedney Alexaandraa he was probably more relaxed and s**t :< he literally cannot do things without being stoned, he has ADD and refuses to take his medicine because he's all CANNABIS IS MY MEDICINE!!!!!!!! about it and it works for him so cool Nice! I'm glad that worked, hahaha.
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