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 Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 10:03 am
I mean they're all nice, but I don't see them as the kind of guys I'd go spending the rest of my life with... They usually eat meat and are politically more towards apathy than activity. And even though I have these crushes I'm pretty sure I've friend-zoned myself so well that they'd never have any romantic feelings towards me.
I never get to meet nice guys who are like me, so that must be one factor that causes this...
I don't know if I'm just needy or what is this... Just kind of strange.
yum_cupcake
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 12:50 pm
I think it's not uncommon, I have similar difficulties
We're just too picky or something
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 1:01 pm
I understand you not wanting to date a non-vegan since you're one for moral reasons, but is it such a bad thing to not be an activist (as long as their views are similar to yours)? Just curious. Personally, I have some strong views but I'm a pretty shy person so I don't like participating in a lot of political activities.
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Posted: Tue Nov 22, 2011 8:30 pm
why not just date and have fun no matter what they eat or their political beliefs? honestly, you don't have to go looking for "the one". just have fun with life because it's the only time you've got.
i used to refuse dating anyone remotely religious.
and guess what.
i'm dating an LDS mormon now and it is lovely.
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Posted: Wed Nov 23, 2011 1:39 pm
Yeah, I'm gonna disagree with some advice here in the thread and tell you not to compromise important things to you. If you do, you're just going to end up resenting that person anyway. How I do it is I have some things I don't compromise on, somethings I can put up with, and stuff I straight up don't give a s**t about. The people who meet the first category, I would seriously date. The people who don't won't ever have a substantial relationship with me 'cause I don't deserve to put up with a bunch of s**t I don't want to. It's really as simple as that. Sure, you get less dates, but quantity isn't quality. I would rather meet one nice person I like than 10 I don't get along with. Also this hilarious blog post on "elitism" in dating. Quote: I grew up promising myself that one day, when I was grown up, I would never have to watch, discuss, or think about football, ever again. You might be an amazing person, Imaginary Football-Loving Date, and perhaps I would be missing out on a great love by dumping you because you talked about the Colts. (Are the Colts a thing? The Colts are probably a thing.) But also, I would not have to hear you talk about football. For me, this is a fair bargain.
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2011 1:08 pm
Well they don't have to be all super active, 'cause then they wouldn't have time to hang out with me, but certain activity on certain issues is highly desirable. The things don't have to match 100% with mine, but it would be cool to go to demonstrations together or leafleting or something.
And I got friend-zoned today, again "You're really nice, as a friend"... I'm seriously thinking is there something wrong with me... Am I too open, too rakish or something... Too unfeminine or something... If I am, then just ******** this whole system... But it will suck to be alone for the rest of my life...
yum_cupcake
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2011 4:06 pm
WELL I OBVIOUSLY DON'T KNOW YOU IRL but there's nothing wrong with you! You just haven't meant the right person yet. Focus on yourself and don't worry about relationships.
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Posted: Thu Nov 24, 2011 4:18 pm
lesbianism
But no, really, I actually agree with Fathy on this. I don't waste my time trying to build a good relationship with someone that doesn't agree on issues I think are important, because we will clash heads and it'll go down the drain.
Just hold out, mama, you'll find a guy eventually.
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Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2011 10:50 pm
My husband and I are very different people, if he was just like me, I don't know...
Honestly, I think your standards are kinda unreasonable.
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Posted: Fri Nov 25, 2011 11:28 pm
Lass Kyon My husband and I are very different people, if he was just like me, I don't know... Honestly, I think your standards are kinda unreasonable. I have to agree.
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2011 1:39 pm
Xahmen Lass Kyon My husband and I are very different people, if he was just like me, I don't know... Honestly, I think your standards are kinda unreasonable. I have to agree. I don't know, it sounds fair to me The only two points I see mentioned are non meat-eating and politically active While I don't personally, and you probably don't see them as deal-breakers or even important factors, everyone's allowed to want and value entirely different things
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2011 5:16 pm
Stereo Heathen Xahmen Lass Kyon My husband and I are very different people, if he was just like me, I don't know... Honestly, I think your standards are kinda unreasonable. I have to agree. I don't know, it sounds fair to me The only two points I see mentioned are non meat-eating and politically active While I don't personally, and you probably don't see them as deal-breakers or even important factors, everyone's allowed to want and value entirely different things Yeah but how many people out there are going to not eat meat and want to go out giving activist fliers to people? I'm not saying that you shouldn't have standards, but when you can't find anyone willing to fit your standards, they are clearly too much. An alternative, I suppose, would be to go where vegans/vegetarians and activists congregate, but a very large majority of people are not going to be into both of those things, so finding one who is also looking for a relationship is (obviously) going to be very difficult.
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Posted: Sat Nov 26, 2011 7:56 pm
Usually if you're one of those, you're likely to either BE the other, or supportive of the other, though.
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2011 1:15 am
Lass Kyon Stereo Heathen I don't know, it sounds fair to me The only two points I see mentioned are non meat-eating and politically active While I don't personally, and you probably don't see them as deal-breakers or even important factors, everyone's allowed to want and value entirely different things Yeah but how many people out there are going to not eat meat and want to go out giving activist fliers to people? Have you ever been to the west coast?
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Posted: Sun Nov 27, 2011 1:42 am
Stereo Heathen Lass Kyon Stereo Heathen I don't know, it sounds fair to me The only two points I see mentioned are non meat-eating and politically active While I don't personally, and you probably don't see them as deal-breakers or even important factors, everyone's allowed to want and value entirely different things Yeah but how many people out there are going to not eat meat and want to go out giving activist fliers to people? Have you ever been to the west coast? I live in Portland, Oregon, lol.
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