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Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2011 12:02 pm

I'm not much of a social person but I'm really angry at myself right now and I'd like some advice...

So I've always known I've liked girls and I never had a problem acceping it or anything and eventually realized (after certain experiences) that I'm not attracted to guys at all. So I came out as lesbian about a year ago. Here's the problem: a few months ago I figured out that I liked this guy so we started dating. He knew I was lesbian... or at least I thought I was.... and now im really ticked at myself. I'm seriously not into "boy parts" but I cant figure out why I still have occasional crushes on boys. What's wrong with me? crying

Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2011 12:36 pm

nothings wrong with you i had this same problem a year ago ((im gay so it was reversed)) so if you like them both you might be bi not lesbian

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Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2011 12:55 pm

Nothing is wrong with you actually.
Had this same problem myself.

I now realize that I'm actually bisexual and not a lesbian.
Don't worry.
It's perfectly fine.
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Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2011 12:58 pm

xXbelovedXxx

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, I think that you're just emotionally attracted to him. I've had that problem too, but reversed; no physical attraction at all.
I think that's kinda sweet. 'Cuz if he knows that you're a lesbian, then he's probably emotionally attracted to you too and not really expecting much in return.

If not, then you should let him know that your relationship won't likely reach the bedroom.

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Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2011 1:02 pm

This totally reminds me of the movie I was watching on netfilx last night.

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Posted: Sun Nov 20, 2011 1:22 pm

Gresley Toombs

xXbelovedXxx

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, I think that you're just emotionally attracted to him. I've had that problem too, but reversed; no physical attraction at all.
I think that's kinda sweet. 'Cuz if he knows that you're a lesbian, then he's probably emotionally attracted to you too and not really expecting much in return.

If not, then you should let him know that your relationship won't likely reach the bedroom.

ah thank you that made me feel much better and im sure the bedroom isnt an issue due to religious beliefs

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Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 4:09 am

I'm actually going through the same problem. I've been physically attracted to girls all of my life, but lately, I've been experiencing nonsexual attraction to men.

My advice is: Don't worry about it. Be attracted to whoever you're attracted to, and let the emotions work themselves out. There's a number of possibilities.
You could be bisexual, biromantic, merely misinterpreting a platonic attraction, or something else entirely. Don't be too quick to label yourself.

But for the sake of communication, just make sure you clarify boundaries and expectations for the relationship.

Posted: Mon Nov 21, 2011 12:35 pm

don't worry about it--women's sexuality often shifts slightly or alters throughout their lives. women often aren't perfectly straight or lesbian, or even equally bisexual. Some straight women are attracted only to men their entire lives, until they meet one woman, with whom they spend the rest of their lives or vise versa (i know someone like this). so don't worry about changes, it's perfectly normal. just go with the flow.

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Posted: Tue Nov 29, 2011 7:38 pm

Gresley Toombs

xXbelovedXxx

I don't think there's anything wrong with you, I think that you're just emotionally attracted to him. I've had that problem too, but reversed; no physical attraction at all.
I think that's kinda sweet. 'Cuz if he knows that you're a lesbian, then he's probably emotionally attracted to you too and not really expecting much in return.

If not, then you should let him know that your relationship won't likely reach the bedroom.

I wouldn't be so sure. Sexuality can be much more dynamic than you think. When I met the woman that I married, she identified as a lesbian, and at first there was little physical attraction on her part but after she got acclimated she came around to the initially more troubling aspects of male anatomy in a big way.

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