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Beatus Sine Nomine


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PostPosted: Sat Jun 25, 2011 12:25 pm


Well, let me start with the fact that I am a closet eclectic and beginning to work in witchcraft, and have been pagan for about three years. I say in the closet because I live with my Christian family, and they are wonderful but I feel that I should not tell them just yet because I do not want my personal choices to cause them stress. Now, on to the issue.
My grandmother died in 2000 after five years of fighting cancer, and my grandfather was a broken man after that. He lived to work on his farm (that has been in the family for generations), and for his three children (the middle child being my mother). We were very close with him, and even though we live three hours away by car we still used to visit often. He was very healthy, but always lonely...to the point of being desperate. He met, and soon after married, a woman his age who from the very start I, and the rest of my family, got a very bad feeling from. It started out that we just couldn't stand her because she never listened to a word anyone said and was worse at keeping a coherant conversation than our relative with Alzheimer's disease (note that this woman is health-wise perfectly normal, mentally and physically). I'm beginning to think that was just an act to get our guard down though.
As soon as she married my grandfather everything began changing for the worse on the farm. She forced my grandfather to take up her hours of going to bed at 7 in the evening and getting up at 2 in the morning, and take naps in between. He hardly gets work done, or gets to see anyone because of this schedual (mind you this is a man who has lived for about ten years just for work and his family). We barely got to see him anymore, and she got progressively more and more rude with us each time we visit. My grandfather, who before would have at least said something in defense of his only daughter, does nothing. His health is deteriorating quicker the more he time he spends around her, and now he is prone to anxiety, which he never has had a problem with in his life. He turned into a mindless drone basically overnight, and now has more heath issues than he ever had.
Recently I have found evidence that whenever my mother calls to try to talk to her father her calls, which used to always get answered, now are almost never returned (even if that woman picks up the phone she rarely ever gives him the message). Whenever my mother is on the line, this woman is more than likely eavesdropping, as she has been found doing on multiple occasions. We are never alone with my grandfather anymore. The most recent outrage was her destroying my uncle's entire corn field, which he needed to have food throughout the winter, because he unknowingly cut the tail off her favorite lamb (which is actually needed so the tail doesn't get dirty and attract flies, which will lay eggs that turn into maggots and eat the lamb alive).
She has done more things, but I don't want to make this any longer of a rant than it is. I am concerned for my relative's well being, and especially my grandfather's. A spell or ritual may be my last resort, as I believe that this woman has truly bad intentions. Even the nicest family members can no longer find any excuse for her actions other than that she is just a very selfish person. I do not want to use a curse or summon something I cannot control, but I need something that can help. If you believe in demons and the like, I'd say that there is a good chance she is a succubus (minus the looks). I need someone's honest, in depth advice on what to do, or at least a spell I can use that doesn't require much.
PostPosted: Sat Jun 25, 2011 6:17 pm


I'm sorry your family is having such a difficult time.
First a couple of practical solutions: See if your mother and her siblings can get together as a group and go over and perhaps talk to her and your grandfather to address these issues? Maybe even bringing in an outside mediator of to help facilitate the discussion. Or could you possibly write your grandfather a letter simply stating that you miss spending time with him and that his new wife has created an environment where you no longer feel comfortable or welcome in his life?
It is possible that this woman is just one of those people who drains those around her then gets all mean and paranoid thinking everyone is against her, never realizing that it was her own actions that created the unfriendly environment in the first place. So it would be worth while to at least attempt to tackle the problem in a direct and up front manner to see if honest communication can clear up the troubles.
If you would like a simple spell to guard against negative intentions you can use rosemary, blue and purple candles, there are also a few different symbols meant for this purpose as well. These are just elements you can employ I would advocate writing the actual spell yourself that way it can be tailored to your style and exact purpose which helps maximize the effects.

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Beatus Sine Nomine


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PostPosted: Sat Jun 25, 2011 8:10 pm


MercyWild
I'm sorry your family is having such a difficult time.
First a couple of practical solutions: See if your mother and her siblings can get together as a group and go over and perhaps talk to her and your grandfather to address these issues? Maybe even bringing in an outside mediator of to help facilitate the discussion. Or could you possibly write your grandfather a letter simply stating that you miss spending time with him and that his new wife has created an environment where you no longer feel comfortable or welcome in his life?
It is possible that this woman is just one of those people who drains those around her then gets all mean and paranoid thinking everyone is against her, never realizing that it was her own actions that created the unfriendly environment in the first place. So it would be worth while to at least attempt to tackle the problem in a direct and up front manner to see if honest communication can clear up the troubles.
If you would like a simple spell to guard against negative intentions you can use rosemary, blue and purple candles, there are also a few different symbols meant for this purpose as well. These are just elements you can employ I would advocate writing the actual spell yourself that way it can be tailored to your style and exact purpose which helps maximize the effects.

We would, but for one we live three hours away, and the youngest child, my uncle, lives even farther away than us and has a very difficult time visiting more than twice a year. My other uncle, the oldest, lives right down the road (and technically is my grandfather's next-door neighbor, it's a very rural area). Other than that this woman is very irrational and I doubt she would listen to us at all. Other than that gods know what she would do to my uncle's family. Now that my grandfather is a mindless zombie he'll do nothing to stop her. As I said our relative with Alzheimer's disease has a better comprehension level than this woman, and I doubt she will even pay attention to a word we say.
I will try using what you have given me, and thank you. I was very tempted to use sort of curse, but I'll try what you told me. I am also somewhat embarrassed to say I haven't written a spell for myself, do you have any tips on how to write one that works?
PostPosted: Sun Jun 26, 2011 6:17 am


You need to stop blaming this woman for all your grandfather's problems. I realize that it may seem rational - because you noticed his changes around the same time that he married her, but the fact is most of them can probably be attributed to the death of his wife. The loss of a loved one is a traumatic event, and while some people are able to handle it pretty well, others aren't. It's fairly common that long time spouses pass on within months of each other, and even though he's remarried, that doesn't necessarily mean that he actually got through the grieving process from losing his wife.

You all say that you had "bad" feelings about her from the start, however my guess is that you probably have never really given her a chance, and she's probably picked up on that which is why she isn't treating you all any better. It's natural that you might feel resentment towards her, especially if you all were very close to your grandmother before she died, but it would probably go a long way to making the situation better if you did something welcoming for her.

If you don't know anything about spell casting, I really wouldn't mess with such things - especially curses. Hatred, only begets more hatred - try for the opposite, kill her with kindness. If she still treats you like crap, then maybe it would be worth looking into other options, but I think you will find that once you make an effort to put more positive energy into the relationship with your new step-grandma, things will start to go better.

As for your grandfather's health, if you are concerned, have your mother call his doctor. If he is depressed, it can cause his health to deteriorate pretty quickly, and he might not even notice or care (mindless zombie state). If the new wife seems cranky, it could be because she's ended up with more on her plate than she bargained for, when she married him.

ncsweet


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PostPosted: Sun Jun 26, 2011 10:21 pm


I think ncsweet raises a good point that a lot of the negative circumstances could be due to your Grandpa's depression, as well as your step-Grandma not feeling like she's part of the family. Maybe she really is crazy, maybe she's just lonely and resentful, maybe both.

In any case, I'd suggest that if you're going to try to use magic to remedy the situation, instead of only using spells to protect against this woman, you could also try one to help alleviate your Grandfather's depression, or a spell to help bring closeness to the family. I haven't tried any spells like this, but I'm sure something like that would be possible and worth a try.
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