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my aunt (the one that had guardianship of me), has always tried to get me to dress up, since high school, and has tried to make me dress as one of the popular kids. It wasn't me.

Now in college (21, and a 4th year), she still tries to get me to change how i look and dress up and wear make up. I wear make up when I feel like it and my normal garb is a pair of blue jeans and one of the many school shirts I have since they were free.

I can kind of see what your mom is getting at with wanting you to dress up since it is the frist day somewhere new, and truly college a place to re invent yourself (if it isn't CC).

Just ignore your mother, if you are old enough to go to college then I'm going to guess you are old enough to be your own woman. ^_^

My mother used to try that with me...trying to get me to dress more girly, not really the make up thing. it NEVER worked though and she gave up a LONG time ago. I almost never wear make up, I have my hair cut "like a boy" and I usually wear jeans & t-shirts/sweatshirts. Whats funny about it is that even back when I was single and dating I dressed this way (although I had long hair, but I really don't think it would have made a difference) and I never had problems getting a date. It's pure and utter nonsense that you can't "attract a partner" or whatever if you don't conform to societies gender roles & expectations of "femininity" BLAH razz You mentioned a self esteem issues. if deep down you WANT to wear make-up, by all means DO! It CAN be a way of self expression. But if you DON'T want it, then do not let her push you. the important thing is to find a way to be comfortable in your own skin! And THAT is what is truly attractive to others, in my experience.

But if it was ME, and my mother was acting that way..lol... I would tell her "OK! you buy me the clothes & the makeup!!!" and then with her money I would buy all the nastiest, streetwalker looking clothes (2 sizes too small) that i knew would piss her off, tease my hair up (if I had hair, HA!) and put on more make-up than a circus clown! lol that would be the last time my mother would try that haha! twisted

Feel ya pain, believe me. When I was really little my mum used to dress me up in all sorts of frilly pink and white dresses...and then I discovered overalls and gumboots and dirt...lol.

No more overalls for me as I find them too much of a hassle but I do still send her into fits as I have been known to run traps in my pajamas and gumboots. And if I'm not in scungy 'bush' clothes I am dressed in black. Not hardcore 'goth' but darn close enough.

Ultimately, you need to do whatever the hell it is that makes you feel comfortable and true to yourself. I'm quite serious about that. Bow to pressure on this one and you will likely regret it for a long time.

@Skeksis;
Luckily I didn't really do anything. I went to college comfortably. xD

@Vanilla eXee
lol
Why does she get mad when you wear makeup? o:

Hmm guess i'm lucky. My mum doesn't care how I dress or what I wear. Though I think she's pretty happy with the way I don't care about make up. I hate that stuff lol.

My friends always want to do my hair and make up though. Personally, I like the way I look with a simple pair of jeans, a nice shirt, and a clearm natural face. Not the ordinary expectation of a girl in the "popular' school group, but it's me.

Just something else to complain about I guess.

@Shanna: yay, monster makeup!!! I made the most awesome homemade blood once. The perfect consistency and as it dried it turned crumbly and brown like real blood. It also tasted like chocolate.