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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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 Posted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 4:47 pm
You know what, it's bad enough at work, that the lil teenage boys call me tree hugging hippy cause I bring organic food for lunch and don't buy fastfood all the time. I'm "weird" cause I don't like artificial colors and preservatives. I'm the oddball because I don't want food with pesticides and hormones.
I get picked at about my weight constantly, it's infuriating. I probably eat more than any of them. It's just the right food and I live an active life. I was trying on the new uniform and the shorts I ordered were too big and two people in the same day told me I need to eat more. stressed I don't say anything about their weight, even though their fat. It's completely unnacceptable to tell someone with an unhealthy weight they should eat less but totally acceptable to joke around with someone who actually cares about their health that she is too skinny.
I'm not even skinny. I have a gut, and love handles, and cellulite just like most girls I know. I'm self conscious enough without people teasing me about the way I look.
So it certainly doesn't help that I come home and my mother sends me out to pick up white bread cause GOD FORBID, they would eat bread without bleach in it. So I run out to do this, knowing full well if we were out of brown bread or anything I eat it would be tough s**t for me. Then I find them all eating hot dogs without me. Didn't even invite me to the table, nothing. I haven't had a meal with my family at all this week. Last night I had an ice cream bar for dinner because I came home late, there was no leftovers and I didn't want to cook.
We never eat fish when my brother is home, cause he doesn't like fish, or my mother will cook him a separate meal. We never eat liver or lamb because my mother doesn't like that. We never have anything spicy cause my dad's stomach can't handle it. However, anything I don't like is a common occurence, and I'm not picky like them. I will eat most things, even if I don't like them. But I don't like pork, and I don't like most junky foods. I'm sorry that I care about my health, apparently that makes me the black sheep of the family. My mother is obese, and she will lecture me about how I'm too strict with it. I eat plenty of fatty foods, the fat and calorie content is not what I care about cause I can burn that off. I already eat a lot of stuff I would rather not. But the only things ever in my fridge are pogo's, hot dogs, fries and chicken nuggets. I use to buy all my own groceries, my brother never paid for anything when he was my age. I pay for all the pets expenses and I use to buy my groceries when I wasn't broke. My mother never even acknoledged the money she saved having to buy less food. I even brought it up and she specifically said it didn't help that much. She even use to give my brother 200 bucks a year for his parking. And she still does his laundry for him.
Sorry for the vent, but, with everything else I have to deal with, it would be nice to come home to a family that actually supported me. Or even tolerated me.
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Posted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 5:13 pm
why are you sorry? everyone needs to vent or they'll risk doing something realy bad for their health. the way you eat sounds like a friend of mine and he is skinny. my mom jokes him needing more meat on his bones because of how skinny he looks, but he passes physical training with ease and he is healthy. he knows my mom respects his decesion about how he eats and jokes with her about it.
I agree about your family should support your choice on what you eat and do aslong as it won't get you killed for some stupid reason or get you imprisoned. after that they should support you, i know financially it is more expensive to eat healthier but it is worth it in the end. you have my support on how you live, which does not say much sence i support alot of people in things they do even if i dub it stupid. but sence i eat only breakfist and a few cookies aday normally, and sit in my room right after i get home, you live away better life and i'm proud of you person i never meet before.
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Posted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 6:38 pm
I know how you feel. It finally kicked into my mom's head that I dont want to eat fried food. Im the type that rather eat Veggies over fruit since I been a toddler.
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Posted: Sun Jun 06, 2010 8:47 pm
Lemme guess? Oldest of the Family?
I have something of the same problem, just not as bad. As clíche as this sounds... could you sit down and drill it into their heads for a while?
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Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2010 6:37 am
i wish my family could show a little support when i try to eat healthy. all my friends and family tell me i dont need to lose weight so i dont need to eat healthy. im 155lbs for crying out loud.
my dad is always buying really fatty foods for us to eat and he gets angry when i eat somehting else
eating healthy is one of the most diufficult things only because people get on yyour back for it
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Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2010 8:19 am
I really don't get some people when it comes to eating habits. At first it's wrong to eat fatty junk foods than all of a sudden it's soooo weird if you actually try to eat healthy and not go overboard with fastfood.
For me it's completely normal to try eating healthy because in our lifestyle most people don't have the time to actually burn the calories from all the food they've eaten. And we're always in such a big hurry that we don't have enough time in the morning to make a sandwich and bring it to work in a lunchbox instead of buying food that is unhealthy and full of fats. It's ridiculous.
I'm the person to which most of my friends say "OMG you're so skinny, eat more." I feel underestimated because people start judging by weight. The logic goes, if you're skinny you're weak. And that also gives the impression that you can just push the person around just because deep inside their head some people think "Ha, I'm bigger if you is being bitchy to be I'll be easily be able to kick her a**" I am by no means saying that everyone thinks like that but a lot of my classmates think that they can push me around because you see she's skinny and weak.
I don't post a lot here, I lurk mostly, but I just wanted to voice my opinion on the topic. (I saw a topic about puppies, I'm going to read that now xD)
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Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2010 1:54 pm
There is nothing wrong with maintaining a healthy diet. It boggles my mind that some people don't want to support someone being healthy. Why WOULDN'T you support someone close to you feeling good, looking good, and being physically fit? I just don't understand it, but I know that being healthy is nothing one should feel sorry or ashamed about. I'm sorry that your family chooses to support each other and excludes you. It hurts. I definitely know how much it hurts. In my house, it always felt like everyone else got their way but I was an afterthought. My mother would spend money on everyone else first, and then tell me that she had no money for the things I needed like clothes and school supplies. When we moved, I was the one who had to throw my things away if it couldn't fit. No one else had to except by choice. It isn't fair at all for them to do that to you. I don't know how viable this is, because some parents are really stubborn and defensive no matter what, but maybe you can explain how left out you feel. Maybe they can explain their side of the story, and you can explain yours. You should probably come up with really specific examples of times where they didn't support you, because it's harder to outright deny things that have happened. I hope things get better for you. sad It's tough to feel like the black sheep of the family, and a family member should not be made to feel that way. It just isn't right. Shanna66 i wish my family could show a little support when i try to eat healthy. all my friends and family tell me i dont need to lose weight so i dont need to eat healthy. im 155lbs for crying out loud. my dad is always buying really fatty foods for us to eat and he gets angry when i eat somehting else eating healthy is one of the most diufficult things only because people get on yyour back for it I know exactly how that feels. I was 170-190 at 5'3, and my family and friends were like, "LOL U DUN NEED 2 LOSE WEIT!!!1" I was like, "Are you freaking kidding me? Do you SEE this giant tire around my stomach?? I'm almost considered obese!" I appreciate their desire to not hurt my feelings, but hurting my health is not the way to go either. Whenever I said I wanted to change how I ate, it always felt like my mom went out of her way to push ice cream, snacks, soda, and fast food on me. She would ask me 10 times, over and over, if I was sure that I didn't want it, and then start a fight with me asking if I was saying no because I was mad at her. Sometimes, she would get it anyways, and a lot of times she just got it without asking. She'd guilt trip me for wasting her money when she's the one who went and got it despite knowing that I'm trying to stop. The kicker is that when she took me to the doctor for my checkup, the doctor would explain that I needed to lose weight, and my mom would lecture me about it. rolleyes
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Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2010 2:29 pm
well my dad is pretty big so he cant get on my back about being overweight. at the moment im too thin to shop at the plus size store but im too fat to shop and the rest of the stores xp
my dad is always buying junk food and fatty red meat in gravy and sauces and the fiance is always taking me to fast food places and gets offended when i dont want to eat with him because of it. its an uphill battle my friend
yet somehow or other my sister is losing weight without trying. she is 16 so thats probably the reason but its so unfair that i work my butt off and cant lose a thing and she can eat some fries and keep getting thinner
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2010 3:43 pm
red 14 the sniper you live away better life and i'm proud of you person i never meet before. That made me LOL but also felt kinna good confused I don't think anyone's ever said that to me before...
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Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2010 4:12 pm
Mia_MaxRide Lemme guess? Oldest of the Family? I have something of the same problem, just not as bad. As clíche as this sounds... could you sit down and drill it into their heads for a while? actually youngest. Yup yup, my parents tend to "forget" all the stuff they gave my brother. Like 200 bucks for his parking every year. I don't pay for parking. I just park a few blocks away where it's free. But then I was at a different college by the time I got my car. He was given lunch money, my mother still does his laundry for him. They bought him a car for his 18th, I got a laptop. He had all his school expenses paid. I buy my books and pay my fees although my dad is suppose to pay me back for the school fees. My brother didn't contribute squat to the house when he was my age. Now he pays rent so my parents turn around and expect something from me as well but when my brother was my age he didn't pay for anything. I have been living in my brother's shadow my whole life. I have an amazing ski story to tell, and my brother is driven home in an ambulance cause he is just that much crazier than me. My brother works at both my mother's company and my father's, so I always leave the table first once they start talking about work. It's frustrating to say the least. I feel invisible.
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Gabrielle_AnimalLuver Crew
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Posted: Mon Jun 07, 2010 4:49 pm
Crazy Cat Reincarnated Mia_MaxRide Lemme guess? Oldest of the Family? I have something of the same problem, just not as bad. As clíche as this sounds... could you sit down and drill it into their heads for a while? actually youngest. Yup yup, my parents tend to "forget" all the stuff they gave my brother. Like 200 bucks for his parking every year. I don't pay for parking. I just park a few blocks away where it's free. But then I was at a different college by the time I got my car. He was given lunch money, my mother still does his laundry for him. They bought him a car for his 18th, I got a laptop. He had all his school expenses paid. I buy my books and pay my fees although my dad is suppose to pay me back for the school fees. My brother didn't contribute squat to the house when he was my age. Now he pays rent so my parents turn around and expect something from me as well but when my brother was my age he didn't pay for anything. I have been living in my brother's shadow my whole life. I have an amazing ski story to tell, and my brother is driven home in an ambulance cause he is just that much crazier than me. My brother works at both my mother's company and my father's, so I always leave the table first once they start talking about work. It's frustrating to say the least. I feel invisible. REALLY! 'Cause... it's pretty much the same thing except that I'm the oldest. See, I should be able to take care of myself, so that means my parents can dote on the kids they planned to have sweatdrop Aw well, different families.
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Posted: Fri Jul 30, 2010 1:42 pm
Your family should support you maintaining a healthy diet, I used to 160lbs in intermediate but I lost 30lbs after giving up fast food and fried food, even though it took two years ( I used a exercise bike)to lose the weight it was worth it because I feel healthier now. I still exercise and watch what I eat to this day. I actually am trying to lose ten more pounds because people still call me fat but most of the fat is in my thighs. The only person that doesn't think I need to lose weight is my s.o. but his family has told me that I need to lose weight before. My family has been really supportive though.
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Posted: Fri Jul 30, 2010 5:10 pm
Thats terrible. And I know how your feeling. It sucks...
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Posted: Fri Jul 30, 2010 6:05 pm
I so know the feeling. D;
I worked at Mc.Donalds for like three years and after about a year I decided to quit eating the food and start eating healthy.
I'm a really skinny person though so when I'd eat a salad without dressing and grilled chicken or something people would tell me I need to eat a burger.
I'd tell them I'm eating healthy and I'd get the whole "you don't need to lose weight thing".. like srsly.. since when did eating healthy mean losing weight?
I know I'm skinny... my metabolism is super high I can pretty much eat anything and not gain weight.. but that doesn't mean that I'm HEALTHY.
Gah it was so annoying. -__-;
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Posted: Fri Jul 30, 2010 10:10 pm
Must be hard. Atleast both my parents agree that we need to cut junk out of our diet. And my mother just about hyperventilates if somebody sprays pesticide near her, or at the though of something packed with chemicals. But just hang in there. At least you know how to take care of your body properly? I'm seeing a lot of people taking more interest in organic food around me, hopefully everyone will catch on in time.
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