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 Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 9:56 am
My guild's main healer keeps asking me to go out with him. At least once a day. When I say no, because he lives so far away, he says he is saving up money to move to New Jersey. I heard him talking on vent to some of his RL friends that he loves me like he hasn't loved anyone since his fiance cheated on him and he left her.
Anyone else have similar experiences?
the sad thing is, if he was someone I had met irl, I would actually be willing to go out with him, because he seems nice. But the whole met-over-WoW thing..... no. just no. irl is irl. video game is video game. irl != video game.
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 10:30 am
meeting on the internet isn't such a bad thing I met my wife over the internet years ago when it was more taboo than it is now
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:13 pm
Yeah I met my boyfriend on an mmorpg as well. There really isnt anything wrong with it. We've lived together for the last like 4 years now.
You may think wow is only a game, but there are real people behind those pixels.
(Im not sure exactly what your relationship is like with this guy though, but if you've told him no and hes professing his love for you to his friends, thats kind of strange. That would be strange irl or online regardless)
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 3:48 pm
i have seen that happen in my guild all the time but never had it hapen to me
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 4:30 pm
My boyfriend whom I have been living with happily for almost 3 years now is someone I met in SW.
What's the big deal? Is he just a creep or does he just not have a chance because it's WoW? I mean it is kinda weird that he seems obsessed over someone who he's never met, but I dunno.
Me and my bf never e-dated, that's for the RPers. But he was rad so we hung out a couple times, then I didn't want to go home anymore, hah.
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 5:30 pm
he's someone who is quite cool, but at the same time very creepy. If I had met him IRL before meeting him online, perhaps we could be good friends irl, but the problem is that the creepiness makes me very wary of ever meeting him now that I've met him online.
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 6:21 pm
Ask him if he can prove you're actually a chick.
...Assuming that's what he thinks you are, that is.
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 6:24 pm
I don't think it would be a bad idea to meet him, but if you do, then meet him in a group, which is common sense lol. If you like him, then you should go for it, but only if he'll actually come your way; long distance relationships tend to fail epically.
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 6:37 pm
Annimated Tay I don't think it would be a bad idea to meet him, but if you do, then meet him in a group, which is common sense lol. If you like him, then you should go for it, but only if he'll actually come your way; long distance relationships tend to fail epically. i agree with the group idea and make sure it is as much both of your friends as just one of y'alls everybody looks bad when they are out of place
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Posted: Tue Dec 15, 2009 10:56 pm
Yeah, that's just a little bit creepy, saying he loves you. <_<
My last relationship started online and lasted over a year. Of course we didn't live too far apart, and I was actually able to drive out to visit. We would also talk on the phone or with webcams.
So if anything, I would say you've got the right feeling but for the wrong reasons. It wouldn't matter to me that you met him on WoW, but the whole obsessive thing is what would kill it.
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Void Dragoon Vice Captain
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Posted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 1:53 am
[ "私は永遠に、あなたを待っている残るよ..."]
Well I met my boyfriend of three years on here...
Nothing wrong with that I always say. Long Distance relationships
are hard work, but pay off BIG time in the end. Thats how I see it at least. 3nodding
Not saying you should do it, but its just positive reinforcement that meeting over the interwebz is not so bad.
If you like him back, go for it!
If not, its all good in the neighborhood - just be friends and let him know.
Like someone said above me, if he's creepy obsessed with you - i'd watch your back.
I had someone super obsessive over me on my family server...
So I xfered with my boyfriend back to our old server.... Never heard from him
again.
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Posted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 7:00 am
I met my boyfriend online, and my brother met his wife online. It's a new age of romance... i guess. Anyway, if YOU dont feel that way about him, you need to n** this in the bud. If he keeps asking, hes obviously not mature enough to take no for an answer. it also shows obsessiveness and jealousy tendencies. I wouldn't date him anyway.
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Posted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 1:11 pm
I agree with the others. I met my partner online. We've been living together for over three years now. The GM of one of my former guilds met her husband online. So I don't think you should rule the guy out just because of how you met him.
But he probably shouldn't plan on making a full move out there before having at least one in person meeting because sometimes things are really different in person. So if you're interested, ask him if he can come out for a visit sometime soon. Maybe he could come out for a week or so. While he is there, meet in public or with a group, at least for the first time. If all goes well, then maybe he can think about making the full move.
But if you're really not feeling it and are not interested, be clear about it and let him know it is not just the distance.
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Posted: Wed Dec 16, 2009 2:07 pm
Met my husband online too, just wanted to say if you think his behavior is creepy, follow your gut. Be safe. Don't give him any more info than he may already have, and talk to him about how what he's saying makes you feel. Have you told him that he's making you uncomfortable? He might think its mutual if you haven't said anything. Silence isn't a denial of affection. Let him know where he really stands and maybe he'll back off. If he doesn't then you know he's definitely not someone you want to meet offline.
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Posted: Thu Dec 17, 2009 2:41 am
Miss-Mishi Met my husband online too, just wanted to say if you think his behavior is creepy, follow your gut. Be safe. Don't give him any more info than he may already have, and talk to him about how what he's saying makes you feel. Have you told him that he's making you uncomfortable? He might think its mutual if you haven't said anything. Silence isn't a denial of affection. Let him know where he really stands and maybe he'll back off. If he doesn't then you know he's definitely not someone you want to meet offline. hah, I tell him "no" several times a day. He is persistent. At least I'm aided by the fact that flights from Australia to the US are expensive.
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