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 Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 7:43 am
Yea, not to long ago I was going out with this chick, Jeanette Hallett. She was everything that I could ask for, though she has a lot of depression like me. You see, her mother abandonded he when she was five, just so she could live the life of a crack fiend and she felt this pain ALL THE TIME. Though I also has a similar backround, so instantly I hitched on to her heart when I found out.
...Well, I'm a freshmen this year (supposed to be sophmore), and the second week, I find out that she slept with a junior that is 6foot7 in the back seat of his shitty car, while I was at one of my soccer games! I don't know if it was me because I couldn't care for her, or maybe she was cheating on me the whole time. You see, I'm a loving kind of guy, but once you cross my path I get "Focused". Most people don't know about my "focused" attitude because I just moved here...plus I didn't want them to tell I was also a gangbanger, (I'm not anymore).
Anyway, I approach this guy and asked him all about this ordeal. First he denied it, then he told her that she would be pregnant! I was totally apalled. Then I grabbed him by his shirt and lifted him in the air, and threating him..."You better hope to God that she isn't pregnant, or I will come over to your house, drag your a** to her's, take out your wallett, and start paying for child support!" (I had a lot more curses)...He just clam chut.
After that, I found out that she was Pregnant, but she is now on the pill and I wouldn't have to worry, but then she dumped me to be with that scum bag...
THough, the thing that hurts the most, it because I promised her, but also her family that I would hold her close, but now she prolly is pregnant, smoking, and partyin...and I can't do jach-s**t! I just feel like I was responsible for not seeing this coming. I mean, I can't tell her who she has to be with, but this guy wasn't exactly "father of the year"...Could some one help me, even I don't know what to ask for help? Please?
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 12:47 pm
Well, first off, she's damanged goods, so you're most likely better off without her. I don't doubt that she slept with another guy, as she'll most likely create chaos (i.e. cheat) in every relationship that she'll be in. She's used to chaos, so when things start going good, she'll sabotage it. You just wait and see.
Now, I understand that you're trying to act like Lancelot, trying to "save" her. But realize that she'll have to choose to be saved, and you can't just force your will upon hers. Sure, you might have good intentions, but until she chooses to accept the help, just leave her be. It's hard to at times, but she needs to learn from her own mistakes.
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Posted: Tue Oct 04, 2005 3:16 pm
Soleq Well, first off, she's damanged goods, so you're most likely better off without her. I don't doubt that she slept with another guy, as she'll most likely create chaos (i.e. cheat) in every relationship that she'll be in. She's used to chaos, so when things start going good, she'll sabotage it. You just wait and see. Now, I understand that you're trying to act like Lancelot, trying to "save" her. But realize that she'll have to choose to be saved, and you can't just force your will upon hers. Sure, you might have good intentions, but until she chooses to accept the help, just leave her be. It's hard to at times, but she needs to learn from her own mistakes. Damn! Took the words right out of my mouth 3nodding
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Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2005 12:18 am
I basically have to agree with Soleq, here. While you have similar pasts, I don't think that alone is a strong enough bond to keep the two of you together - obviously. You're better off finding a girl that will treat you with the respect you deserve, for example: not screwing some random guy in his car during one of your soccer games. eek So... is she pregnant, but on the pill? That's a dangerous combination... if she IS pregnant, she needs to stop the pill right away or that baby of hers is going to turn out all sorts of messed up. The hormones in most birth control make it so the uterus stops producing the necessary nutrients to sustain a child - if at all - which actually prevents the pregnancy, in combination with other factors. If you promised her family you would take care of her, the least you could do is to clue them into what she's doing. She might not even know how dangerous her actions are. If it was just the girl in the situation, I would say to sever all ties and move on while you can - but with the possiblity of a baby involved here, you NEED to let her family know. If not her family, then someone like a counselor at your school. I know if she did end up being pregnant, and she had that baby, I wouldn't want to take responsibility for not doing anything though I knew - I mean, all the smoking, partying, and the birth control pills... that will not be a healthy baby, possibly deformed... I'm seriously creeped out thinking of the possibilities... what sickens me here is that even though her birth and early years were like that, she doesn't even have the respect for herself or for this possible baby to not repeat the past. Disgusting. Also, as far as this goes: Soleq I don't doubt that she slept with another guy, as she'll most likely create chaos (i.e. cheat) in every relationship that she'll be in. She's used to chaos, so when things start going good, she'll sabotage it. You just wait and see. You might want to look up "borderline personality disorder". You may better understand this girl by getting into the type of psyche she has.
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Posted: Wed Oct 05, 2005 8:17 am
I am not sure if she is still on the pill, because when I call her all she does is pick up the phone and drop it back down on the reciever. Though, I know that she is pregnant and I'm gonna do what ever I can to support her and "jr." I don't care if people say that I need to leave her alone, but I promised her and her family. I've already lose my mom and a brother...I can't loose her! You know, she holds my down to this Earth, and I needed to do that to her. Though, there has been complications, I am not backin down. I remember the night my brother was shot in 2003...I promised all of my loved ones I would hold us tight, and she is a loved one.
So many tears I cry from this happening so much anger towards her, but she is already lost and I don't want to drown her from what she has now, I need to show she the light....
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Posted: Sat Oct 08, 2005 3:56 pm
If there's one thing I know, its that once a person has deleted you out of their life, not listened to your help, not tried for your sake even if you beg them to, you just have to let them go and hope for the best.
What can you do about it? She has taken you out of her life, and has found this guy to be with.. maybe because its his baby, and she wants to see it through? I really cant say for sure at all.
All I can say is keep focusing on your life and your needs. because as painful as this sounds [as painful as it is to fully comprehend] in the end, thats what she will do.
crying issues make mavole cry.. U_U;
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Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2005 12:05 pm
I'm not positive if this is great advice but, obviously there is someone out there who is going to care about you more and appreciate you more. She is completely stupid to of given up a caring guy like you (as it seems). Your just going to have to give up on her. If she or when she realizes you were great then maybe she'll come back. Otherwise, you have to move on. She has to do her thing and you have to do yours. You will find someone better trust me. You will. and I honestly I wish i could prove to you that you will, but I can't since I can't actually phsyically see you and talk to you more in depth with some similar experiences i've had.
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Posted: Sat Oct 15, 2005 5:54 pm
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