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 Posted: Mon Sep 01, 2008 11:14 am
Do you think that teenagers having sex is ethical/safe?
Please comment on all parts of this issue:
Health
Peer pressure
Ethics
Pregnancy/ Birth control
I personally believe that teenage sex is O.K. in the right situations.
Okay, health:
STD's are bad!!! I believe that safe sex, in any dedicated, long-lasting, serious relationship, is good!! Condoms, unfortunately, are difficult for young teenagers to get nowadays. If they became more readily available, less teens would have STD's.
Peer pressure:
In the end, it's YOUR call!!! If your friends are pressuring you to have sex, they're not friends! If your boy/girlfriend is pressuring you and you're not ready, tell them!! If they really love you, they'll understand.
Ethics:
I know I'm going to get attacked about this, but pre-marital sex is O.K. as long as the relationship is REAL, SERIOUS, AND SAFE!!! Isn't that what marriage is anyways? If you love someone, and see a real future with them, and are safe about it, and are open to them about when to stop, its okay!!!
Pregnancy/ Birth Control:
As I said before, condoms are hard to get, and so are birth control pills, but its better than the alternative! Birth control SHOULD NOT be given to young teenagers because it affects their hormones and can leave a female infertile or worse. However, after the body has gone through its cycle (you know which one I mean) the first few times, Birth control pills are safe!! Too much Bull is shoved down girls throats nowadays, such as that pills can affect your fertility, that condoms limit pleasure, that pills can work right before/after sex. If you do take the pill, start taking it AT LEAST three months before you start having sex. Otherwise, it might not work, or you might have side-effects. And birth control DOES NOT WORK AFTER SEX. Don't even think this could possibly work, it doesn't even make sense!!!!!
Okay, now you may talk ^^
sorry for ranting, just wanted to say my 2 cents worth. Actually, thats more like 2 dollars. Just enough for some ice cream..yum...
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Posted: Mon Sep 01, 2008 2:28 pm
I am not sure what you mean about condoms are hard to get and so is birth control - if you are not old enough to get those surly you are not old enough to have sex or understand the outcome of it. I would say if you are younger than 15 - you should be doing something else with your time. Screwing at 12 and 13 will only label you as a slut when you get in high school and will be more porblems that it is worth. I enjoy sex and I am not married but I was not screwing at 12 and 13 and I don't sleep with everyone plus I am over the age of 18 - rule of thumb if you can't buy teh products you have no business using them - to each his own but to me after that statement of they are to hard to get tells me you are way to young to be doing it.
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Angel of Forgotten Souls Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Sep 01, 2008 3:15 pm
Actually, I am too young, but I choose not to do that. I'm just saying that there are some 15 and 16 year olds that I know that are choosing to do that with very mature, serious, and safe relationships who cannot get a hold of those things because their parents won't sign for it/ they can't afford it.
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Posted: Mon Sep 01, 2008 9:09 pm
Remember that we have to give thought to the other countries who do not have such laws as the United States. On that note, the United States is one of, if not the, prudest country in the world. Anything on the human body that could be/is related to sex is taboo.
Healthwise, as long as one has been educated, then it's okay. Unfortunately, we have a stupid population that doesn't teach its children about the birds and the bees. I have heard of some teenagers living happily and healthy after being married at 16. Only some, mind you. Most of them are paying the price through STD's, sicknesses, and malnutrition. Why? No one taught them anything. Their parents didn't teach them, and they clearly didn't pay attention to what little sex ed we have in our schools.
Peer pressure is one of the chief causes of kids acting out. The guys are always bragging about it; don't tell me you don't hear them. It's starting to happen to the girls, too. Not so much, because women can be very judgmental of each other, but it's still there.
Ethically, I don't approve of pre-marital sex. That's how I was raised. I don't even think I'll act out with my fiance before we're married. However, there is a line to be drawn. In my opinion, most young teens and tweens don't fully understand what love is. Especially young ladies. They think they've fallen, then sometime later, they're pregnant and their "love" dumped them for someone else or what have you. Even I probably don't understand what love truly is, and I'm 18, almost 19, and in a good relationship that's almost three years old. What started as an experiment in relationships grew out into something so much more, but that's for another time.
As far as I'm concerned, abstinence is the best birth/pregnancy control method. But for the sake of argument, it's not all that hard for boys to acquire condoms. Emotions and self-esteem notwithstanding, that is. Do you have any idea how embarrassing it would be to be seen buying condoms? I wouldn't want to be seen buying them, either. I can't really argue the pill point because I have little to no knowledge in that area.
I thought I had more to say, but I think my train of thought was derailed.
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Posted: Tue Sep 02, 2008 1:54 pm
Along the lines of health, there should be nothing wrong if you use protection. After all, the few I know about can be geneticly transmitted. Yes, some people are born with them, but if your partner has any of them but has no family history or other legitimate excuse of it but they have one, please use protection. I beg of you.
Peer pressure gets to everyone about everything. It's never gotten to me on the act of sex. I did it off of free will, really. The people I knew in Middle School were strongly opposed to it, and my current friends gave no pressure. We'd talk about sex and make sex jokes, but that's about it. Peer pressure can get to peple, though. If one of your pals is saying that they had sex, or you happen to be the only virgin in the crowd, then you might feel compelled to do it just to be 'like them'. (Yet again, not my case.)
Ethicly, pre-marital sex with the use of protection is fine. You just have to be mature enough to handle it. At the age of 12, you're still learning about sex, for crying out loud! At the age of 15, it's fine. As long as you're willing to accept the consequences. I wasn't really ready to accept them, so some days I feel like a wh*re.
As for pregnancy and birth control.... my thoughts just died... sweatdrop
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Posted: Wed Sep 03, 2008 1:20 am
In our country... 'Real' Sex Education wasnt introduced until appoximately 15 years ago... and to date we still have a high number of Teenage parents in our country... the youngest I have heard of were a couple that were 12 and 13yrs old.... suffice to say their parents had to look after their grandchild... but in saying that... they claimed ignorance was the main instigator behind the pregnancy...
Today's sex ed is much better and is introduced to kids at 12 onwards.... You may think this is early, but they are giving kids drug and alchol education as early as 10yrs old.... I must say more knowledge on this subject and the more honesty around it .... the less dangerous it is...
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Posted: Thu Sep 04, 2008 3:30 pm
Sex ed does nothing in America, really. It fails on the 10 side of the 'epic fail' scale. After all, you're still going to get pressed to do it or want to do it.
Going back to the topic of pressure to expand off it- Peer pressure or any other kind of pressure on sex is closing in fast. Faster than an angry mob on Frankenstein's Monster. There's what I said about peers, for starters. Then there's the accursed media monster. The media makes sex look cool, or like something that isn't so bad to do. It makes sex a more casual thing than it used to be. It makes sex a thing to brag about. It glamorizes it. And since America is so tech savvy now, it all connects. A ten year old sees a lot of commercials or T.V shows about sex, or sneak a peek at mommy or daddy's 'grown-up magazines' (porno, people), and after a while, it gets to them. They think sex is cool and the next thing you know, ten year olds with no virginity. It's that simple. And some ten year olds still haven't even learned about what their parents do in bed. The ones who have sex at a young age... well, they know pretty darn well, no?
And for something not touched upon. Hormones, people. Those little things that get all riled up during puberty. Why am I saying this? You guys are all older than me. Never mind, back on track. Hormones make you happier, sadder, get acne, and, the most annoying thing in my opinion, make you horny. You know, you want to have sex more than ever. The desire to have sex is what gets some people, really. Sometimes, it just gets so bad... you know where I'm aiming. Since kids, girls especially, are mysteriously starting puberty earlier*, their hormone level is something akin to the kids at my High School. That place reeks of testosterone and PMS sometimes. If children are having those hormones running amok in their bodies at a younger and younger age, and the horniness can sometimes get so bad you get graphic sex dreams that can get you into orgasm, of course they're gonna go off and have sex.
And my thoughts on pregnancy and birth control are back. Pregnancy at a young age just isn't right. At the ages of... I dunno, 17 and beyond don't seem as bad to me. 12 and under..... holy &^@$. That just... it's wrong. Birth control is perfectly fine, really. Or any other contraceptive, really. If we don't want pregnant kids, but children (especially girls) are starting puberty earlier and are exposed to a more glamorized sex, then make these things easier to get. Or just stop glamorizing sex so damn much.
*The government is behind it. I'm sure of it.
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Posted: Thu Sep 11, 2008 8:42 pm
imapumpkinwhee Actually, I am too young, but I choose not to do that. I'm just saying that there are some 15 and 16 year olds that I know that are choosing to do that with very mature, serious, and safe relationships who cannot get a hold of those things because their parents won't sign for it/ they can't afford it. The biggest issue with teen sex, regardless of any other of these factors, is the maturity level required to engage and adequately comprehend and appreciate the sacred art you've chosen to partake in. Every other factor mentioned applies to all ages engages in sexual intercourse.
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Desirable Conversationalist
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Posted: Sat Sep 13, 2008 7:05 pm
I agree with you, as long as it you protect yourself then go for it! But I have a question, do lesbians need to use contraception when making love?
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Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 2:40 pm
randa15 I agree with you, as long as it you protect yourself then go for it! But I have a question, do lesbians need to use contraception when making love? Ah, memories of an embaressing trip to the doctor's come forth.....To answer the question: No. The ony one that you might want to use is a dental dam if you're doing oral, unless you want to swallow.... (sorry for the vauge disturbingness here, but it's true)
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Posted: Tue Sep 16, 2008 4:27 pm
It's True that using safe sex would be good for the relateionship, but In my views about this; it would be wise if people would just wait after getting married or something along the lines. That's just my view on the matter.
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Posted: Mon Sep 22, 2008 2:39 pm
First off, I'd like to say that I personally believe that there would be less sex among young teens and tweens (12-15 or so) if the culture didn't insist on sexing these kids up in the media. Turn on the Disney Channel: most of the shows on there have teenagers at some point of another getting into relationships. That's all fine and dandy, but these shows aren't being watched by children the same age as the actors: they are typically being watched by kids who are much, much younger. My niece is constantly acting in a manner that I consider pretty inappropriate for her age (she's eleven now but she's been having maturity issues since she was about eight), and when we get onto her about it (IT being things like hiking her shirt up, "freak" dancing, talking a little too explicitly about the boys in her class and in the neighborhood), the excuse is always, "But that's what Raven does, that's what Miley would say." Raven and Miley are years older, but because they are "cool" kids look to them as role models. Okay, I went off on a rant there, but it's elsewhere too: kids do cute, sexy poses in department store catalogues, there are those "Bratz" dolls that reinforce skimpy dressing, et cetera et cetera. Kids have been given a dilemma: on the one hand we try to force them to act like little adults in school and never play around, and on the other we try to keep them as pure as children should be while bombarding them with these images of pretty girls getting with guys. We're telling them to grow up, and by golly they are: just not the way we wanted them to.
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Posted: Sun Oct 05, 2008 3:46 am
Darkie The Fighter It's True that using safe sex would be good for the relateionship, but In my views about this; it would be wise if people would just wait after getting married or something along the lines. That's just my view on the matter. Why? Marriage (and no, I'm not talking of religious marriage) is a legal contract acknowledged by the government. A couple's relationship is really not much different before and after then, it is just harder to walk out on the other (well, apparently not that hard, 50% of them do). When talking about teenagers, it will be the same as above if they are married. Then there is the matter of abortion, but about 40% of abortions are from married women. Just because you are married doesn't mean you will want a child. The last thing I can think of as to why you would think this is that it is a religious thing, and you are talking about a religious marriage. If that is what it is, fine and dandy. People aren't going to care about your opinion if it is based off of your religion if they aren't of that religion, simple as that. I'm personally okay with teenage sex, I hope they use protection. One thing we need is better sex education.
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Posted: Mon May 04, 2009 10:15 am
Uhhh this may be off topic but where do people get the birds and the bees from what does that have to do with sex and I think that anything younger than 15 or 16 means your just a slut
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