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 Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 4:07 pm
I would like to share a story with everyone. Yesterday at work(I tutor kids as my current job, by the way) one of the children was running around the class with another student's glasses, ignoring mine and my coworker's verbal reprimands. When he finally tripped and fell, I walked over to him as he rose and gave him a few firm pats on the back to remind him not to do it again. Unfortunately, it turned out I patted him too hard and I ended up harming him slightly(I say slightly because a little later after he went to my boss about it he was back to his old self), and today my boss told me I had been suspended for 3 days from work(though since my service hours are already finished, this is somewhat moot to me). The incident made me wonder though, what does one do when one needs to show a person what they did was wrong? How can someone guide a person away from mischief and other such things without being overt about it?
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Posted: Wed May 14, 2008 7:54 pm
There are a lot of ways that you can discipline children. The thing is that they need structure. They are always looking for a button to push or and envelope to shove! Those children in particular are the ones that have to have the standards set very clearly and as early as possible. The biggest mistake is when people say not to do something to a child, but then have no immediate consequence afterward.
If a child can see that he or she can get away with something, they continue to do the thing that they are not going to do. Why? Because they cannot trust the word of the person who lays down the law.
It's just like God. He says if this, then that. We should be the same way.
As soon as the child begins to misbehave there needs to be direct consequence. Take them out of the environment and seperate them accroding to their offence. Sit them out of a game they really like, or a snack time, or other privelage.
Also positive reinforcement is good too. Award them for good behaior with point systems, or point out model behavior in the children around them matter of factly and with awe. They will want to recieve the same praise and will work towards it.
There are many ways to discipline children. Often, it should be personalized for each child. Discipline should involve sacrifice for the offender. It should hurt them in a way that they develop morals and respect for the other people around and over them!
Unfortunately, today's society is an island unto itself. We don't opperate in the community that God intended. We all need eachother to raise up well rounded respectful children. Now days, this is often unheard of!
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