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 Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 7:26 pm
So i was set up on this blind date, by my mom of all people, and things ended up working out really well and we've been together for about a month and a half now. my mom obviously has no problem with the guy but my aunt is having a crap attack and a half because hes so much older then i am. I'm 20 right now, going on 21 in december, and hes 31 going to be 32 in about a week. my question is would such an age gap be a problem for you or would it not matter? what is the opinion of the mighty lovely PJs? ninja heart
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Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 7:36 pm
First and foremost I apologize for anything that I may say. I mean no offense.
Anways. OMFG!!!! Holy s**t!
Okay, now that the shock factor is over...umm, yes, for me that would be a big deal. I could barely conceive myself being with someone that much older. Age, to a degree, doesn't matter. But when he was 10 years old, you were barely a concept. How gross is that? Lmao. xd
Personally I stick with the 3 years over, 3 years younger rule. Though personally it doesn't seem me and older women get along relationship wise. For girls it's different though I suppose. An older man does equate to closer maturity to a younger girl (generally speaking, not always true).
But still! When he was 16 there was no grass on the field to play ball (let's not ask anymore. If you don't get that statement PM me).
Umm...ya. I really can't give you much more. That's my opinion. However, whatever you do is fine by me, none of my business. If you're happy, we're (PJs that is) happy.
I dunno if I could be satisfied with my significant other kicking the bucket way before me though, lol. xp
Sorry if I don't seem too serious about this but I am. But jokes are the best way for me to convey my messages. Crude? Yes. Funny? To me, yes. Anywho, moving on.
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Dirteh Old Man Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 7:44 pm
Myojin Omni First and foremost I apologize for anything that I may say. I mean no offense. Anways. OMFG!!!! Holy s**t! Okay, now that the shock factor is over...umm, yes, for me that would be a big deal. I could barely conceive myself being with someone that much older. Age, to a degree, doesn't matter. But when he was 10 years old, you were barely a concept. How gross is that? Lmao. xd Personally I stick with the 3 years over, 3 years younger rule. Though personally it doesn't seem me and older women get along relationship wise. For girls it's different though I suppose. An older man does equate to closer maturity to a younger girl (generally speaking, not always true). But still! When he was 16 there was no grass on the field to play ball (let's not ask anymore. If you don't get that statement PM me). Umm...ya. I really can't give you much more. That's my opinion. However, whatever you do is fine by me, none of my business. If you're happy, we're (PJs that is) happy. I dunno if I could be satisfied with my significant other kicking the bucket way before me though, lol. xp Sorry if I don't seem too serious about this but I am. But jokes are the best way for me to convey my messages. Crude? Yes. Funny? To me, yes. Anywho, moving on.
i do that to him all the time, he hates it:
"hey babe guess what? when i was 5 you were 17" and he gets grossed out its great. xd thank you omners. heart
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Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 8:36 pm
Age really doesn't matter to me. I'm 3 years older than my boyfriend and some of my friends say that they will never date young guys younger than them, but the men that they're with are much older than them. Personality plays a huge factor for me. Your mom is ok with it since she did set you up but your isn't. I think it's ok as long as she doesn't interfere with you two.
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Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 9:06 pm
Personally, I don't think that 10 years, at your age, is a big deal. I do know one coked out 25 year old chick in a motel room that thinks even 5 years is a really really big deal, though. So I guess opinions will vary, but if you're happy with your relationship it'll be worth it to learn to live with the disapproval of some. Probably like being gay or something. 3nodding
....don't ask me about relationship stuff sweatdrop
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Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 9:19 pm
Fantasy_Magick777 rofl yes i understand you omni. xd
i do that to him all the time, he hates it:
"hey babe guess what? when i was 5 you were 17" and he gets grossed out its great. xd thank you omners. heart Glad to know we are on the same page here. xd But any time, I got an opinion for everything. xp whee
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Dirteh Old Man Vice Captain
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Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 11:12 pm
I missed yewwwwwww! heart (Isabelle this is btw)
Anywho, I believe it can work out. It probably just really depends if the people in the relationship are okay with the difference. I know a couple where the girl is dating someone who is pretty well her father's age, and they are awesome together. That and how much does the opinion of family/friends (and maybe even other randoms) play a part in it? I guess really for myself, I wouldn't date that much older because I'd get my arse kicked...plus I'm happy with my bf. xd hehe.
For me, my bf is two years older than me and most of the time it's not a big deal, but there are times when I feel like we are at different stages. I was a late bloomer in terms of rocking out and drinking/partying (pretty well waited till being legal) and he's got his rambunciousness out of the way (a bit... haha). So there are times when I want to be social, go out to bars or whatever, and he just won't be into it.
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Posted: Mon Apr 21, 2008 11:14 pm
Him...no bars?! What kind of guy did you find Isa?! Not a keeper. Bars, clubs, and pubs are a must! xd
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Dirteh Old Man Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 2:13 am
Haha, fantasy - 10 years is no biggie.
I have two friends who are about 20 years apart. So the guy is just about her father's age. It's no big deal. They're PERFECT for each other, and are getting married the summer of next year. You really don't notice the age difference when they're together, there's so much love there. 3nodding
And MY parents, are 7 years apart, and their 25th wedding anniversary is this the first weekend of May.
So seriously, 10 years, no biggie! heart 3nodding If you're in love, you're in love! And I'm SOOOO happy for you fantasy! biggrin heart
Do we get any pictures of the two of yeah? wink
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Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 7:18 am
20 years?!?! Omg. *dies* gonk
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Dirteh Old Man Vice Captain
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Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 10:13 am
Age bugs me as my sister is 7 years younger than me, so I'm not comfortable with dating anyone that could date her. I'm also not comfortable dating anyone that could date my mom. I have dated 2 years older and 2 years younger than me. Maturity is the big indicator for me, age doesn't determine that trust me wink . My fiancee is the same age as me, though I call him 'old man' for the month and 9 days he is older than me blaugh .
For some people age is a massive issue, for others it's not. The couple that Naito and I know, you don't notice the age because of how awesome they are together. In the end that's what counts. While having our families support or relationships, there is no way to please everyone. Make sure you're happy first, then worry about your family.
The only major issues I have with age is when I see 19-year old grade 12's dating 13-year old grade 8's. Not only do I have an issue with it, it's statutory rape. When you are under the age of consent there are legal issues, but you're 20, so all's good biggrin
I wish you both the best of luck, enjoy who each other is, afterall, age is just a number heart
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Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 12:22 pm
Personally, I feel age is pretty much irrelevant to determining if someone is an eligible partner. If you both enjoy each other's company, and neither of you have a problem with the age difference, then there is no problem with it. Sure, other people may not like it, but there's plenty of people out there who still can't accept different racial couples. And of course the same gender issue. So really, age doesn't really make a difference. If the love is real, that's what matters. Best of luck!
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Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 4:35 pm
Arlyana The only major issues I have with age is when I see 19-year old grade 12's dating 13-year old grade 8's. Not only do I have an issue with it, it's statutory rape. When you are under the age of consent there are legal issues, but you're 20, so all's good biggrin Yeah, I'll admit when you're younger there are some issues. But once you hit 18/19 I think you're set. I mean, my parents started dating when my mom was 18, which would have made my dad 25. I don't see a problem with that. And when that other couple we know started dating, she was ... 20? 21? and he was 40 or so. Again, no big deal. But I mean, I wouldn't -right now- want to start dating someone who was 27 rofl But I don't really want to date anyone right now, so it's all good rofl But I mean, hell - in Canada after 19 age means nothing, until you're 65. Seriously, ask either of my parents how old they are, and they'll have to stop and think about it - because they're old enough to do whatever they want, but not quite old enough to get discounts yet. rofl And in the states it'd be 21 (right?). I have no idea when your senior things kick in though. sweatdrop So yeah - after 19 (or 21 in the states) - Huh? Age? What's that? rofl
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Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 8:57 pm
consider this:
would you date a 10 year old?
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Posted: Tue Apr 22, 2008 9:20 pm
Teddy Super Nova consider this: would you date a 10 year old? ...What's that have to do with anything? o.O *is confused*
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