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 Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 1:41 pm
my parents, being "jesus freaks", have always told me to save sex until marriage.
i have already told them that when i'm ready and with an extremely trustworthy person, i will have sex whenever i feel up to it.
my parents, knowing that they won't be able to really stop me, agreed on this although they still want me to wait until marriage. (my mom said that if i'm going to have sex to go to her for help, and she won't turn me down the things i need like condoms, birth control etc. she said she wants me to be safe than sorry.)
anyway, my parents still always tell me to not have sex and my friends, most of whom have had sex numerous time, tell me sex stories and how it's always so great and that i should do it too. lately i have been wanting to get it done and over with, just to see what the big thing over sex is. me being really shy, i haven't had much sexual experience at all, the most i've done is mutual masturbation with an ex-boyfriend. but maybe i'll enjoy it, maybe i won't.
i don't want to go out and have sex with a complete stranger, and i'm afraid if i do it with a friend, things will be awkward and i'd regret it. but i'm also not looking for a relationship right now, being that i just got out of a bad one.
so what do you think i should do?
go for it, or wait?
oh, and i'm:
-15 years old
-straight
-attend a public high school
if any of that helps...
thanks~
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Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 4:25 pm
I would suggest waiting. It might not seem like it right now, but 15 is pretty young. Most 15 year olds are not ready for sex. They're either emotionally confused, emotionally immature, not educated about sex and their body, not able to plan for accidental pregnancies, etc.
It sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders though, so that's great that you at least plan on having the birth control and STD protection part covered. However, do you know about lubricant? Fertility? Do you have a plan for accidental pregnancy? Are you willing to get your pap every year? Are you comfortable talking about STDs?
There's a big difference between not waiting for marriage and just rushing into it randomly. You're right that things can get very weird very quickly when sex comes into a friendship.
If your friends are true friends, they won't pressure you or tell you that you should be having sex if you're not ready. And the fact that you're asking our opinion is proof that you're not really ready yet. When you're ready, you'll know, and you won't have to ask other people. So don't rush yourself.
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Posted: Fri Mar 07, 2008 5:40 pm
A lot of people at 15, 16 and even older talk about having sex, even though they haven't had it yet.
If I were you, I would wait. There's no rush to get it done and over with- your first time wont be as fun as all your friends make sex sound. You will probably be a lot more comfortable if you wait until you find someone that you really want to share it with.
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Posted: Sun Mar 09, 2008 4:04 am
you really7 shouldnt rush things (oh yea hi peeps me and my terrible typing are bak xp ) if you dont want dont ignore your friends!!!!
but mainly you need to take it step my step so try oral first and if you can wait till your legal otherwise your bf can get done so be warned
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Posted: Sun Mar 09, 2008 11:46 am
i think you should wait and only do it because you want to, not because other people want you to
if you meet someone in the future that you really really like and you know you want to have sex with them, then do it for you and no one else
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Posted: Wed Mar 12, 2008 10:18 pm
I read through stuff like this thinking the person is like, my age. Then get to the bottom and see that you're only fifteen. gonk You're very young and you shouldn't even be worrying about sex at your age. You have plenty of time for sex. Waiting a few more years won't kill you. You don't have to wait until you're married. But it's a good idea to wait until you find the right person. You're not going to know who that person is until you're older, even if you find them now. And since you're not in a relationship right now, you haven't found them. You really should just wait. Strangers and friends are not good ideas. Like I said, you have plenty of time to find someone, especially if you feel like you're someone who would regret doing it with the wrong person.
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Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 4:51 am
Wait, really. You might think you're ready, but I think 15 is still very very young.
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Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 12:52 pm
You shouldn't be worrying about sex! You're still a baby, relatively speaking, and I say that with affection. Just keep your pants on and wait, you'll be glad you did. And ignore your "friends" when they tell you that you should be having sex too, because they're not your friends if they're pressuring you.
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Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 2:58 pm
wow so many people are freaking out about age
please don't even try to be hypocritical
every teenager thinks about sex from puberty on up
so to tell a teenager to not worry about sex, when you probably did at her age, is quite hypocritical, i think
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Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 7:58 pm
xbookxwormx wow so many people are freaking out about age please don't even try to be hypocritical every teenager thinks about sex from puberty on up so to tell a teenager to not worry about sex, when you probably did at her age, is quite hypocritical, i think
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Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 9:21 pm
xbookxwormx wow so many people are freaking out about age please don't even try to be hypocritical every teenager thinks about sex from puberty on up so to tell a teenager to not worry about sex, when you probably did at her age, is quite hypocritical, i think I thought and knew about sex from my preteens, yet I didn't have sex until I was 17. I wouldn't have considered actually having sex when I was younger because I wasn't ready for it, even though I wanted it. We're not telling her not to think about sex, because there's nothing wrong with that. We're telling her to wait and keep her virginity until she's older, when she'll be better prepared for sex and any risks and consequences. Read what we're saying please, and don't generalize us all.
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Posted: Thu Mar 13, 2008 9:26 pm
I thought about having sex from age 12 up. But I never even considered actually having it until.. Well yeah I'm sixteen so, I fail.
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Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2008 9:18 am
xbookxwormx wow so many people are freaking out about age please don't even try to be hypocritical every teenager thinks about sex from puberty on up so to tell a teenager to not worry about sex, when you probably did at her age, is quite hypocritical, i think As Nikolita said, obviously teens think about sex. We never told her not to think about it. The issue isn't thinking about sex though. The issue is that she wants to actually have it. We just told her not to have it until she is ready. That is something I tell everyone, no matter how old they are. Even if someone is 30 years old, if they don't feel ready, I will tell them to wait. Or if they don't know anything about birth control, I will tell them to wait. It is a simple fact though that most 15 year olds are not ready for sex. Some are, and that's fine, but most are not, and I am not going to advise anyone to have sex before they are prepared for it. Of course I thought about sex at her age, and I did masturbate at her age too. But I was not having sex at her age.
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Posted: Fri Mar 14, 2008 7:31 pm
xbookxwormx wow so many people are freaking out about age please don't even try to be hypocritical every teenager thinks about sex from puberty on up so to tell a teenager to not worry about sex, when you probably did at her age, is quite hypocritical, i think I'm 17 and a 1/2, and I didn't think about having sex until I was 16. (Then again, I didn't know about masturbation until about a year ago, my point being that I was fairly sheltered growing up.) There's a big difference between 15 and 16, in terms of mental development, and there's nothing wrong with thinking about sex. Nothing wrong with it at all. We're just telling her that she's young, and that she should be enjoying what's left of her childhood, not doing one of her guy friends and then regretting it later.
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Posted: Mon May 12, 2008 1:06 pm
I would definately say to wait. I am personally a virgin and proud of it b/c if I had lost it already I know it would not have been with the right guy. Many of my friends who have lost their virginity have told me that they wish they would have waited and they are glad to see that I'm not going to make their mistake.
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