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 Posted: Wed Nov 21, 2007 11:17 pm
I'm in love, girlies!! <3 Yeah, I'm only fifteen, but I am in love with the greatest guy in the world. His name is Pat, and he's my life. And also... we're engaged. :] He's seventeen, and I'm fifteen, but that doesn't mean we're not in love. Just because we're young doesn't mean we don't know what love is. And what bothers me is that most of my friends don't believe that our love is true. Even my MOTHER. She's like, "Oh. It won't last. He'll find somebody better." But when he's here, she's like, "If you and Sophia get married someday, Pat, you two will be welcome to bring your kids to my house..." and stuff like that. It just pisses me off because I know two people who fell in love when they were thirteen, and have been together ever since and have gotten married and have two kids, but they're like, "You two are young. It won't last." Wtf??
Discuss:
- Young Love
- Who you love
- What makes you mad about people saying that
- Frustration
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 9:20 am
I won't say that you do or don't really love him, because in the end, you're the only one who knows how you feel. And y'know, being engaged is fine and all... It'll be three years until the two of you can be married, though. Which is okay, because if you're that sure that it's real, then the three years should be a pretty good trial period, right?
A 15-year-old and a 17-year-old, though... That's a bit of a leap. Just make sure you know what you're getting yourself into, and be careful, okay? I mean like, don't have sex with him... at least not until you're 16, and even then only if he's 17 at the time. A 16- and 17-year-old having sex is fine, but an 18-year-old can't have sex with anyone under the age of 17-and-six-months, I think.
So... just be careful, and stay realistic about it. Romance is good and all, but it's important to know what's going on. Wish you two the best.
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 9:57 am
 Grin Evilly says: I think they're just basing that off on the fact that in about 95% of teen relationships, the love is not true. It's a statistic. If you keep your relationship going for more than a year, they'll realize, "Omg : D : D : D theyr in luv lol" and they won't be so negative. It was like that with me and my boyfriend. x]
And you two are engaged? ^_^ I'm happy for yooou. If he's a sweetheart, I'll take your word for it. ♥♥♥
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 10:21 am
  I think as long as you have faith in yourself And take things very slowly Things will work out, you know Always be willing to compromise And step back a bit Honestly, with young love In MY opinion It is hard to find And should never be deterred by other opinions And if you truly believe you have found it Don't let go :] I mean, I felt like I knew what love was And I fell seriously hard But i learned from my mistakes And if I had waited A lot of things would be different whoooooooooosh m eye makn n e cents
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 10:39 am
Aw, congrats! 3nodding Parents will always say those things. You just have to put up with it until you can prove them wrong.
I used to like someone (and still do ^_^). Then he transfered to another school, without saying anything to me. If I ever see him again, I'm still not sure if I should strangle him or hug him. domokun
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 1:23 pm
Young love is fine and dandy but you have to take into account how much you change as you grow older. (Or at least, the hope is for change and growth rather than stagnation.) And with two people changing greatly, the possibility of them drifting apart is great. Your friends and mother aren't trying to be negative, just realistic.
When I was 18, I was a completely different person than the person I was when I was 22. And I'm still different now at 25 (Happy Birthday to me!).
I love my boyfriend, Ryan. We've known each other for four years. Not yet engaged but perhaps soon. 4laugh
I don't get frustrated when people talk about young love. It doesn't apply to me.
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 4:39 pm
i wouldn't think that it's not possible for young people to be in love...but, i do think there's more chance of it not working since the people have more time to change
though, i believe it can work 3nodding good luck to you <3
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 5:00 pm
&hearts&spades&diams&clubsEh, it's nice that you're in love and all, but i think you're a little young to be getting engaged. :/ Just don't rush into things. I'm 17, my boyfriend's 19, we've been together for over a year now, and i'm not even THINKING about marriage till i get out of college. Marriage is too serious a commitment to be considering at such a young age, in my mind. But, you're not me, of course.
I'm not saying you don't love him, or he doesn't love you, or it won't work out, i'm just saying you might want to step back and take a logical look at the situation. Things change, and they change fast. But all of this is just my opinion.
Anyway, I hope it DOES work out between you two. Good luck. &hearts&spades&diams&clubs
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Posted: Thu Nov 22, 2007 7:06 pm
Good for you!~ <3
If it doesn't work out, well that's okay because y'all changed as you got older.
But, it might work out, and then, I wish you the best of luck! =]
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Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 2:10 am
Yeah, some people do meet at thirteen and stick together until like, eighty.
It all depends on the person you chose.
If you say he's the one, then so be it.
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Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 2:47 pm
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Posted: Fri Nov 23, 2007 8:50 pm
Congrats!! =3
I know how you feel. My mom's always like ''I'm sure you'll find someone else someday,'' but I can't imagine being with anyone else than my Jeffery. heart I wish everyone would realize that.
I hope it works out for you guys. ^^
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Posted: Sat Nov 24, 2007 6:31 am
I'm so happy for you!
I do think teenagers can truly love someone. :3
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 3:03 pm
thers nothing wrong with being in love with someone at a young love. but you have to be very careful. like when you're married things really change. will you both commit to each other? i know my cousins wanted to be married and made out with guys. days later they were pregant and the guys left them. im not trying to discourage you but you have to be careful
and really plan out your future with the guy.
congratulations for finding a man. i haven't hade a relationship like that so i wouldn't know but still trying to help. hope you two will be happy together
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Posted: Mon Dec 03, 2007 10:28 pm
Well, the reason people generally say that is because it isn't 1950 anymore. D:
In the old days, people dated someone and mated for life. Nowadays, we have more options. Women, for example, get more choice in who we get to pick as our ideal mate and thus marry them. I'm not saying you guys aren't gonna last because it isn't 1950 anymore, but my point is is that people say that because they probably saw from previous experiences what happened when they didn't get to choose who they married. They thought that they were gonna live the perfect life, and ended up having a miserable life and became alcoholics... That's what happened to my grandma (my mom's mom.. she died years ago.. not the grandma who died recently o-x; ) before she died :/
Anyways, I know what it's like for people to think your relationship won't last. That's what everyone thought about my cousin and her husband. They thought he was just "another piece of a**", but then they married, and it shocked the crap out of us XD And they're still together, too!
I have a really good feeling about me and Matt lasting. Sure we have our occasional spats, but it doesn't change the fact that we love each other so intensely and deeply that we couldn't stand to be apart from each other. And I'm sure your relationship with your boyfriend is similar ^o^
But another thing... Sometimes it doesn't work out. People change. I've changed dramatically since my grandma died. I think that Matt would've loved my old self more than the person he loves right now, and I know I could never be that person again no matter how I try. It's nice to be engaged but don't be walking down the aisle right out of highschool. It's too rushy and it ruins relationships :/ I've seen it happen to my friend. She got married 3 days after graduation, and got pregnant o-x;
But again, just be happy that you're with someone who loves you like you love him, okay? :3
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