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 Posted: Sun Nov 04, 2007 7:47 am
I'm really sorry if this was already posted. Know someone who's immature when it comes to homosexual/transgender stuff? Does it annoy you so much? Does it make you want to smack that person in the head?
In my case...that person is MY MOM.
My dad knows that I really hate derogatory terms (he usually says "queer") and how the term "gay" is used ("OMG, my HW is liek, sooo gay!"--hearing that makes me wanna gag), but I think my mom just ignores it.
A few months ago, my family was watching "Cops" while eating dinner. In this one scene, there was a man dressed as a woman--and my mom pointed and laughed, "Psycho!" rofl
Then she was watching "Oprah" a few weeks ago. I saw part of it: it was about homosexuals--mostly men--who had been shunned by the public just because of their sexuality. When there was a really sad documentary about a gay man who was disowned by his family, my mom just laughed.
Then last night when we were watching TV, they mentioned transgender people. My mom wouldn't shut up: she went on and on with random comments. To me, she had a "what's with these people?" attitude while watching it. I got so ticked off that after she said another derogatory comment, I blurted, "So what?!" She got quiet ever since.
A year ago, I told her about my pet peeve since some of my friends were a mix of bisexuals and homosexuals. Her response? "They're just teenagers! They don't even know yet!"
It really bothers me. I wanna talk to her--no, LECTURE her!--about how narrow-minded and immature she is, but she has the Asian tradition to her advantage: she could easily tattle to my dad and have him lecture ME on how I should respect her. As weird as family is, I unknowingly love her, but in a case like this, how can I look up to her as a respectable mother?
scream WHAT DO I DO?!?! scream
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Posted: Sun Nov 04, 2007 5:04 pm
Sounds like it might be a good idea to talk to your mom about it, civilly, before your anger grows sour. Channel it into good connections, use it to give you the strength to counter whatever fears you might have about your mother's reaction; do what is right--what is only fair for both you and your mother--and explain that her thoughtless comments offend you, and that LGBT people are no different from anyone else.
Love and Vale,
-LD
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Posted: Fri Nov 16, 2007 1:21 am
I agree, try to have a calm talk when it's not the forefront of your mind to scream at her to shut the hell up.
Try to find out why she reacts the way she does. She probably just doesn't understand, being a heterosexual woman, and it just seems ridiculous to her because its not something she's familiar with.
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