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 Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 12:51 pm
Ok. I found this guy i REALLY like. And he feels the same way about me. The problem is i met him online and we dont know if dating over the internet is a good idea or not. Please give me your views on internet dating and any suggestions you have about what i should do.
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 1:01 pm
My experience with internet dating turned out to be really bad. I thought I knew who this girl was... after actually meeting her and spending time with her... after dating her online for a year and a half... I couldn't STAND her. I tried to like her but I couldn't.
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 1:07 pm
Really? So she acted differently online than offline. Like personality wise or?
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 2:35 pm
It's that you can't really tell a persons mannerisms or tone or attitude online. IRL she turned out to be monotonous and bratty and threw fits all the time, ended up being few french fries short of a happymeal...
But that's just my experience. I know of some that have worked out... well heard of some...
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Posted: Mon Aug 06, 2007 3:00 pm
The other side to that is that online, you get to see a whole different side of someone than in real life, free of physical bias besides. That's why I like making friends online, but not dates. wink
Love and Vale,
-LD
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Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 11:34 am
Thank you for your input/comments ^^ It is very appreciated
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Posted: Tue Aug 07, 2007 3:57 pm
there are multiple upsides and downsides to online dating.
first off what are you goals with the person:
do you seek a friend or an actual date to possible hit a relationship futuristicaly?
if you are then 1) do they live in you're area? because only 1% of long distance relationships last. same thing with high school relationship, 1% only make it out of high school.
2)are they close to you're age? trust me on this one, if theres one big mistake is age difference and heres why.
the goal of dating someone is to find someone in the same "life stage" and heres what i mean. to use myself as an example when i dated Lee, i was 19 at the time he was 23. what he was already done with i hadn't even finished yet. he was seeking someone who's either finishing college or already out of college. he was ready to settle down and move out with someone. i was in senior year or highschool and there was no way i was even ready to move out of any kind, neither did i have the income.
his maturity level was much higher than mine, and he felt more like a brother than an actual bf.
so try to keep these things in mind when you're looking for serious dating. again not sure what you're goal is, just throwing some SOUND ADVICE out there from experiences IVE had. trust me you don't want to learn the hard way.
now to get more straight....lol no pun intended wink
Advantages to Online:
You DON'T have to worry about body, language, tone of voice, bad breath, body odor....yes all the stupid little things that you usualy worry about when on a date. Nothing embarrassing.
Its convenient to get to know someone cuz most likely a person is more OPEN online then offline. However this is not always true because it depends on the person.
Disadvantages to Online:
as was mentioned, some people are a lot different online then offline. And you know how easy it is to lie to someone with just typed words on a screen? Because that's all you see. Some people are gullible or naive so be careful. As I mentioned above, some people, not in all cases, tend to be LESS open online then offline. My friend Tyler is a perfect example because he was fun and extroverted to hang around in person, but online it was like impossible to talk to him. Either he'd go idle in the middle of a conversation without saying anything, or his words came off offensively.
That's another thing you have to be careful with is how you place you're words. Because you DON'T have body langauge or tone of voice etc etc, and if you don't know the person well, you have to be careful how you place you're words because they could come off in ANY way depending on how they interpret it.
In a nutshell, its better to know them in person because you get to see the REAL person....not just words on a screen.
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Posted: Thu Aug 23, 2007 8:36 am
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Posted: Tue Sep 11, 2007 8:54 pm
My personal experience with it has effected me in more ways than I'm comfortable telling about right now.
But it's different for everyone. My mother met her current husband over the internet and they're going on four years strong. It is possible to meet good people over the internet--I have many friends who I talk to in real life who I met online. It just recquires a certain level of trust and also putting yourself out there.
Either way, I wish you the best of luck whatever you decide.
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Posted: Mon Oct 01, 2007 9:09 pm
Its not that online dating is bad, but its hard. You can try it but always be careful not to jump into anything too quickly.
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Posted: Thu May 22, 2008 5:10 pm
Yeah. I hate this dilemma. I have a good friend on Gaia who lives in NC, and I've never met him IRL. He's really nice, and I wish I could meet him. Maybe someday. It's frustrating, though. I personally don't do internet dating because of all the aforementioned, but I know there's definitely examples of it working out in the end.
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