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I was helping my mom by dropping off a UPS package for her at the local CVS.

The pretty girl at the counter took the package and in the middle of talking to me, she winked at me.

I didn't ask her out on the spot because I was worried I might have gotten the wrong idea.

Most people told me it means she likes me.

1. Do you guys agree with most people?
And 2., do you think there's any harm in me asking her out next time I see her, rather than having done it on the spot today?

I'll tip you like it's Starbucks with all the chemicals involved in the advice drink.

Thank you in advance for your help.
Girl who did time in customer service here.

A wink is a good sign. Asking is ok IF IT'S NOT BUSY. But maybe ask for her social media to follow instead or fb friend, it's just less aggressive and ya'll can talk first.

If she says no (even a soft no like "ooh idk I don't really friend ppl I don't know" be chill, upbeat and friendly. "Oh sure! Just thought I'd ask. I hope you have a great day!". It will go a long way towards making it a positive experience instead of another 'men are miserable to girls just doing their jobs' experience.

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AChocolateMouse
Girl who did time in customer service here.

A wink is a good sign. Asking is ok IF IT'S NOT BUSY. But maybe ask for her social media to follow instead or fb friend, it's just less aggressive and ya'll can talk first.

If she says no (even a soft no like "ooh idk I don't really friend ppl I don't know" be chill, upbeat and friendly. "Oh sure! Just thought I'd ask. I hope you have a great day!". It will go a long way towards making it a positive experience instead of another 'men are miserable to girls just doing their jobs' experience.


I don't actually have any social media. I used to, but I don't like it. I tend to use the phone or email to talk to people.

Is it weird to ask her out to lunch/dinner or something?
wink could mean she liked you but also could mean she was being friendly.

No harm in asking for her socials next time. Feels like a softer way instead of directly asking out on a date?

The worst thing that could happen is she says no and you are uncomfy for a moment in time.

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Girl who did time in customer service here.

A wink is a good sign. Asking is ok IF IT'S NOT BUSY. But maybe ask for her social media to follow instead or fb friend, it's just less aggressive and ya'll can talk first.

If she says no (even a soft no like "ooh idk I don't really friend ppl I don't know" be chill, upbeat and friendly. "Oh sure! Just thought I'd ask. I hope you have a great day!". It will go a long way towards making it a positive experience instead of another 'men are miserable to girls just doing their jobs' experience.


I don't actually have any social media. I used to, but I don't like it. I tend to use the phone or email to talk to people.

Is it weird to ask her out to lunch/dinner or something?


It's weird-er. Every girl is different but I would be happier to have conversations with someone before going out? But I also know I'm terminally online.

Asking out to a public low pressure space near where she works (so you know she can get there) is better than asking for a phone # imo tho. Lunch or a coffee?

But it's the latter bit that's really important. The be chill/friendly if she says no. Usually nobody is mad about someone just asking. They get mad about the *pressure*. The "Why not? You got plans? a bf? I can pick you up. Can I get your number then? No? wow what a b***h. No you just lead me on, smiling at me. Being friendly. I though I saw you wink. ******** you. It was a compliment, why are you looking at me like that? You should be flattered. I'm telling your manager about this. c**t.".

If you want girls to be chill about getting asked out, the askers gotta be chill with hearing no. No manipulation, no pressure, no pissy mood, just move on. If everyone did that and didn't ask when it was busy almost nobody would be mad about getting asked out at work.

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AChocolateMouse
Girl who did time in customer service here.

A wink is a good sign. Asking is ok IF IT'S NOT BUSY. But maybe ask for her social media to follow instead or fb friend, it's just less aggressive and ya'll can talk first.

If she says no (even a soft no like "ooh idk I don't really friend ppl I don't know" be chill, upbeat and friendly. "Oh sure! Just thought I'd ask. I hope you have a great day!". It will go a long way towards making it a positive experience instead of another 'men are miserable to girls just doing their jobs' experience.


I don't actually have any social media. I used to, but I don't like it. I tend to use the phone or email to talk to people.

Is it weird to ask her out to lunch/dinner or something?


It's weird-er. Every girl is different but I would be happier to have conversations with someone before going out? But I also know I'm terminally online.

Asking out to a public low pressure space near where she works (so you know she can get there) is better than asking for a phone # imo tho. Lunch or a coffee?

But it's the latter bit that's really important. The be chill/friendly if she says no. Usually nobody is mad about someone just asking. They get mad about the *pressure*. The "Why not? You got plans? a bf? I can pick you up. Can I get your number then? No? wow what a b***h. No you just lead me on, smiling at me. Being friendly. I though I saw you wink. ******** you. It was a compliment, why are you looking at me like that? You should be flattered. I'm telling your manager about this. c**t.".

If you want girls to be chill about getting asked out, the askers gotta be chill with hearing no. No manipulation, no pressure, no pissy mood, just move on. If everyone did that and didn't ask when it was busy almost nobody would be mad about getting asked out at work.


So maybe a coffee near her place of work? That sounds pretty low-pressure.

At the same time, shouldn't I get her number just in case? If there's any issue with either of us being late/not getting there for a substantive reason, without a text or something it would seem like being stood up when it was not like that.
Oh! Another option would be GIVING her your number on napkin or something instead of asking for hers. Then if she doesn't want to text you she won't. SO much safer for her than her giving you hers.
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AChocolateMouse
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AChocolateMouse
Girl who did time in customer service here.

A wink is a good sign. Asking is ok IF IT'S NOT BUSY. But maybe ask for her social media to follow instead or fb friend, it's just less aggressive and ya'll can talk first.

If she says no (even a soft no like "ooh idk I don't really friend ppl I don't know" be chill, upbeat and friendly. "Oh sure! Just thought I'd ask. I hope you have a great day!". It will go a long way towards making it a positive experience instead of another 'men are miserable to girls just doing their jobs' experience.


I don't actually have any social media. I used to, but I don't like it. I tend to use the phone or email to talk to people.

Is it weird to ask her out to lunch/dinner or something?


It's weird-er. Every girl is different but I would be happier to have conversations with someone before going out? But I also know I'm terminally online.

Asking out to a public low pressure space near where she works (so you know she can get there) is better than asking for a phone # imo tho. Lunch or a coffee?

But it's the latter bit that's really important. The be chill/friendly if she says no. Usually nobody is mad about someone just asking. They get mad about the *pressure*. The "Why not? You got plans? a bf? I can pick you up. Can I get your number then? No? wow what a b***h. No you just lead me on, smiling at me. Being friendly. I though I saw you wink. ******** you. It was a compliment, why are you looking at me like that? You should be flattered. I'm telling your manager about this. c**t.".

If you want girls to be chill about getting asked out, the askers gotta be chill with hearing no. No manipulation, no pressure, no pissy mood, just move on. If everyone did that and didn't ask when it was busy almost nobody would be mad about getting asked out at work.


So maybe a coffee near her place of work? That sounds pretty low-pressure.

At the same time, shouldn't I get her number just in case? If there's any issue with either of us being late/not getting there for a substantive reason, without a text or something it would seem like being stood up when it was not like that.


Coffee good imo. See above :3

green_piano_girl's Adversary

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Immediately report her to her boss for making you feel uncomfortable and for her being a creep.

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rizz lord here. let's keep it simple!

just visit again and compliment her hair "hey! I like your hair! It's so pretty", then see how she reacts. If she compliments you back, you're probably in. After that, ask her how long she's been working there. Then be like "I remembered our last interaction! You gave me a good vibe". Then "what's your favorite food?", and if she answers, you say "well, I'm looking to meet more people and you're so cool so I was wondering if you'd like to go get that with me!"

doesn't have to be a date. if y'all are compatible, it'll show. also, they can decline if they have a partner by saying they're too busy. just say "I understand! either way, good to see you and have a good day!

getting to know each other is one of the best things you can do tho"

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