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Sound Advice for "Bi-Curious" Girls ------------------------------------- Okay, first off, if you want to get laid, avoid using the term "bi-curious." It is a flat-out turn off to anyone who has spent any time in the queer community. It sounds dumb, and it makes you sound dumb. Now you know. Secondly, leave out the sob story about the long-suppressed fantasy. Heads up, every queer here has a sob story! Yours isn't special, in fact its boring. Thirdly, just describe the woman you want. Skip the sexual history and don't worry about coming up with a label for yourself. Saying (and showing) you're into girls is usually proof enough. If she cares about the rest, she'll ask. Fourthly, go to gay bars. If you don't know where one is, do your homework. Make some phone calls, surf the internet, walk around the Mission. Meet people. Treat everyone you meet as a potential friend, not a potential ********. Friends are good. You can be honest with them and ask them for advice. Queer friendships can support you through the coming-out process. Fifthly, lower your expectations (can't say it enough). Not all girls are cute, but some of them are smart and funny as hell. Sixthly, leave your boyfriend out of it and at home. If he wants a threesome, tell him to take it up the a** from another man while you watch. Lastly, confidence is the number one sexiest quality in any woman. If you sound ambivalent or unsure of yourself, how can you expect anyone else to take you seriously? Take heart, be brave, and seize the day.



something someone I know said:

bi sexual girls are cool
only if u can get 2 at once
but other wise
they lose my respect.. i mean, how can u RESPECT a girl that's basically half homosexual.. not wife material
that said
i like girls that like girls
still dosent mean they get respected
and word @ urban
alot of girls pretend to be bi for attention, which is stupid as hell

What I said to my friend about that:

The thing is, it's not a choice, it just is. I'm actually grateful that I have double the options for partners as normal people do. I don't really care if you don't respect me, or any others like me. It's rather stupid to lose respect for someone over something that person can't control.
Also, it's not that easy being bi. The girls that do it for attention learn soon enough.