About thirty years ago, I read about a study that revealed men fall in love after just one date, as opposed to women's reports that it took 3-6 dates before women reported feeling love. While I can't recall the details of that study, similar results have been found more recently in studies conducted in the U.K. and by Match.com (reported by MarieClaire.) The online dating site's study even showed that 35% of purely random hookups turn into long-term relationships!
Well, no wonder! Men, especially younger ones, have a strong sex drive that peaks while they're in their 20s. (Women don't reach their peak sexual years until much later.) When a woman is receptive to his sexual advances, it tells him he's desirable and masculine.
Women, on the other hand, have frequently discovered a man's interest can vanish after they've had sex with him. Another piece of "common" wisdom says that it's because men have just one thing on their minds - sex - and aren't really interested in commitment. This false anecdote ignores the obvious: if a man disappears after sex, it's usually because he didn't think she was great in bed.
The way to someone's heart is to be interested in them and attracted to them. If my guy makes me feel beautiful, I'll like him more than someone whose eyes are darting find ********] around the room at other women. If a woman says YES! to sex, she's showing the kind of interest that makes him feel like a man's man - a feeling that's as intoxicating to him as roses and champagne are to her.
