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In Indian society, both organized and enjoy marriages take place. I wish to inform you about 2 of my old friends and how they differ in their mindsets and standard thinking - Bharat Ram and Shakil Ahmed.

In 1969, Bharat was 24 years old and Shakil was around 25. They were both working in great positions in the management cadre in the Railways, Government of India. Bharat Ram was calm and cool and constantly had a smiling face no matter what the situations. He was very versatile, ready to adjust to any odd situation, and managed his problems by himself. He looked like an innocent boy. His mannerisms and speech showed that he was a trouble-free person. Considering that he had the obligation of taking care of his household, he never dreamt of getting wed.

Shakil, on the other hand, had no financial issues and no household burden as Bharat. Shakil was really eager to get married but no ideal match was discovered despite the fact that everybody from his big network of relatives and close friends had actually been searching for a bride for him for over one-and-a-half years. He was progressively becoming impatient and getting concerned about not finding a better half. However he never took the effort to search for a match within his own area. He reached the age of 28. He began to fret that no girl wanted to marry him. He became disappointed and depressed.

On the other hand, Bharat Ram had sent out a letter in reply to a matrimonial ad. Within a month his match was finalized and he got married. It took just 3 months to complete all the social rules. That's all!

This implies it is always better to rely upon yourself as opposed to depend totally on others. It helps in any profession. We can not live without other individuals assist and co-operation but we ought to not depend completely on them as in the case of Shakil. The more we depend upon others' aid, the more we lose confidence in ourselves. Less confidence will certainly welcome wariness and therefore tension. Ultimately, we will certainly suffer.

Unhappiness will come into our lives and peace will disappear. And misery will pressurize us to make the wrong choices. In this way, wrong decision will certainly not permit us to live a tranquil life.