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 Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 3:08 am
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 7:27 am
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 7:31 am
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 7:38 am
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I thought that once, but I had the same weird period two times in a row, and yeah, I was super stressed out for months during that time for various reasons not related to it. You can find weird not-bloody chunks in there without it being a miscarriage, if that's what you're seeing. It could mean your uterus lining was just extra thick that month. You can randomly have extra bad cramps without it being one too. If you are particularly worried, you could always head into the doctor and ask them what they think, too.
Another thing to note is that women can miscarry before a pregnancy would even be detectable by a test. Your body can just naturally do it on it own, and not because of some kind of dysfunction.
You could always bank sperm if he does decide to get a vascetomy, too, if you ever changed your mind but wanted to have a birth in the future.
You shouldn't have to feel bad or guilty on the extremely low chance it is, or about your not having children, or what have you. I think it goes without saying that we care about you. <3
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 10:30 am
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 11:57 am
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 1:54 pm
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 2:16 pm
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When I was with Mario was the first time I openly realized I had issues with the idea of having children myself. As of today, I want children, but I know that I'm not emotionally or financially ready for them, and that's okay.
But earlier in my life I'd just kind of mindlessly assumed I'd do it someday and was glad that someday hadn't come, and didn't want to look any further into the matter.
When I started to think in my mid-twenties that I might not want kids of my own, ever, I went through the same feelings you are going through. I felt guilty, I felt selfish, I felt like I was going against something that I couldn't quite explain but that I knew was wrong. All I was going against was emotions and an established order of things, though.
You have very realistic reasons why you don't want biological children, and while it may be hard to know that your mom will be sad about it, it's not for her to decide your future that way, even indirectly. You've already said that you are open to the idea of adoption in the future if you wish, and that's commendable, because there are so many children out there in need and if you don't feel biologically up to having your own, you shouldn't try to fit a mold that wasn't made for you.
Either way, I do agree that you should look into how expensive it might be to save some of his sperm just in case you change your mind. But that's not something that you necessarily need to do, just that you should consider it before you don't have the option to. Good luck, dear.
You recently posted some other things that I'd like to say I'm open if you need someone to talk to. About not being able to deal with your own things because his thing is sort of taking the bigger slot. Good luck there, as well. It must be hard.
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 7:11 pm
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noramine When I was with Mario was the first time I openly realized I had issues with the idea of having children myself. As of today, I want children, but I know that I'm not emotionally or financially ready for them, and that's okay. But earlier in my life I'd just kind of mindlessly assumed I'd do it someday and was glad that someday hadn't come, and didn't want to look any further into the matter. When I started to think in my mid-twenties that I might not want kids of my own, ever, I went through the same feelings you are going through. I felt guilty, I felt selfish, I felt like I was going against something that I couldn't quite explain but that I knew was wrong. All I was going against was emotions and an established order of things, though. You have very realistic reasons why you don't want biological children, and while it may be hard to know that your mom will be sad about it, it's not for her to decide your future that way, even indirectly. You've already said that you are open to the idea of adoption in the future if you wish, and that's commendable, because there are so many children out there in need and if you don't feel biologically up to having your own, you shouldn't try to fit a mold that wasn't made for you. Either way, I do agree that you should look into how expensive it might be to save some of his sperm just in case you change your mind. But that's not something that you necessarily need to do, just that you should consider it before you don't have the option to. Good luck, dear. You recently posted some other things that I'd like to say I'm open if you need someone to talk to. About not being able to deal with your own things because his thing is sort of taking the bigger slot. Good luck there, as well. It must be hard.
It's way too expensive to get his sperm frozen or we would. We're pretty in the hole right now otherwise I'd consider it. Luckily his insurance is paying 100% for the vasectomy.
As for the other stuff, it's too difficult to really discuss right now. I'm just very frustrated and overwhelmed with everything right now.
Then I feel like a complete b***h for even saying that, life is just really sucking right now. I'm trying my best to make him feel better about everything. He's pretty happy right now so I don't want to ruin things for him...especially around this time of year.
I wish that I had some friends around. Everyone has moved, died, or just disappeared. |
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Posted: Wed Dec 14, 2011 9:28 pm
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Posted: Sat Dec 17, 2011 3:53 am
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Posted: Sat Dec 17, 2011 3:19 pm
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Posted: Sat Dec 17, 2011 4:07 pm
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Posted: Sat Dec 17, 2011 4:15 pm
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breedney Tenacious Travis Quote: You can find weird not-bloody chunks in there without it being a miscarriage, if that's what you're seeing. i don't have this problem wtf is wrong with you guys
Lol it's normal if they shed a lot of skin. We all shed skin from the lining when we have our period, that's part of the point of it, lol. |
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Posted: Sat Dec 17, 2011 4:16 pm
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