Love or Sex?

[Sseureoji Sin]

So, questions are simple, Which do you prefer?
I prefer love, growing up with a little sister who is a complete romantic, she not only affected me, but our little brother. Between her and our mother, we both ended up becoming this different male ideal for her or so it would seem. I, the serious, somewhat deeply emotional male lead; our little brother the funny, kind of dorky, sweet, other type of male lead. Both, complete gentlemen toward women, or men.

Do you like a relationship moving slow or fast? meaning to wait a little before the first sexual encounter or to move right away to it.
I prefer a little slower, I like to be able to feel where I'm going, but my first relationship ended up throwing me right into a tidal wave. I came out swimming at least.

Wha could you tell us from your personal expirience?
Love exists, it just takes a good amount of time to find sometimes. s**t, took me 28 years, and I'm still young. Some people don't find their love until they're old. Be patient, is the only thing that I can say. As a rather strong closet romantic, I believe that everyone will find who they're meant to be with eventually. It's having patience until that eventually though.

Do you think Gay Romance is dead?
I don't think that any romance is dead except in the hearts of those who allow it to die. It's rather like, insecure people allow people to control them and their feelings by allowing them to make them feel bad. Bad experiences command, control, and dominate many people who have had them, forcing them under this weight. It's much easier to listen to that master than to fight and say, "No!"

Despite some very rocky roads in my relationship, I still can recite Invictus with conviction, even in my love life, it pertains.

"Out of the night that covers me,
Black as the Pit from pole to pole,
I thank whatever gods may be
For my unconquerable soul.

In the fell clutch of circumstance
I have not winced nor cried aloud.
Under the bludgeoning of chance
My head is bloody, but unbowed.

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds, and shall find me, unafraid.

It matters not how straight the gate,
How charged with punishments the scroll
I am the master of my fate:
I am the captain of my soul."

I am the master of my fate and captain of my soul, I am the only one who shall allow anyone, anything, or any situation to have any control over me.

If gay people like romance, let them find it, practice it. If they want only sex, let them have that. It is their choice. I think that the idea of romance in any sexuality is dying. I will not explain my reasoning, simply because it would make me seem like a sexist. -shrugs-  

[-Saint Ayame-]

i prefer romance...and i dont like when people says that love doesnt exist it makes me sad .__.  

[Treehugger1999]

Hmmm. I have this to say. Romance to me is very importnat. Because with sex its like, oh yay, i here. now what do i do. With a romantic relationship it is like youget to appreciate every moment, and you always have some place to go. i dunno. I don't believe that anything good could come out of a just pure sex relationship.  

[His Supreme Excellency]

both! love and sex! all the time!  

[Bob_The_Chupacabra]

I don't like sex if theres no love, so I'm up for love all the way.  

[SonuvaAngel]

I'm a bit of a mix.

At first, I want every bit of my uke NOW. That's the first few weeks in one sentence.

Then I eventually cool it, focusing then more on making my uke happy instead of making myself happy. Sex goes into 'when we're bored' area.

I just have this annoying remnant of a weird a** childhood (or so I've been told by shrinks in every country and lanuage I've been in) where sometimes sex=love and spoiling the $h!t out of my bf=love.

yes, I know. it weirds me out too.  

[EmperorTsu]

Lust and love both have their points. I prefer both. I think romance is what makes a relationship last, and sex can be passionate, healing bond between two people.

I hate it when people say they want love, and don't really mean it. I like seduction, limited teasing, and the like in lust-related things. But I think love is really important too, because what's the point of pursuing someone for sex if it doesn't lead anywhere?

I guess I'm too possessive for one-night stands. I prefer stability more than being entertained. I can be romantic, although usually I'm not unless I feel the other person deserves it.  

[toetalgirfanatik]

I'd rather it go slow and establish a good relationship before doing anything naughty. My friend goes about sexing every female she can get her hands on, and the one time she tried an emotional relationship all those rumors of her sex stories came back and bit her on the a** hard. I don't see a problem with sex itself, but I don't think I could have that kind of relationship with a complete stranger.