I need to make a statement in here, for my own peace of mind.
In regard to the previous discussion between Sqarr and Syphi, I have this to say... and I do NOT want any argumentative replies from ANYone, or they will be deleted.
I tend to stand aside and say nothing whenever there is some discussion that turns into an argument.
In this particular case it began decently enough. The trouble started when there were misunderstandings, sharp tongues, and Sylphi having a post removed over one of those misunderstandings - something she took entirely the wrong way.
Sqarr, who I of course know very well, is a kind, decent, generous, self-sacrificing, moral man. I have nothing but love and respect for him. He may not be perfect, but he did not deserve what he had to endure in here, in HERE, which is his own home.
Sylphi has always been a friend to me here. When I have had any problem with her, I have messaged her and she was always willing to listen and work things out (it was never anything serious). She has been supportive and helpful as well, both personally and with my efforts to help this forum.
In this case, she stepped over a line, and I said nothing. Then, adding insult to injury, she had a post deleted (because she misunderstood something), reaching into Sqarr's private thoughts and space and thereby deleted a piece of him.
I hate this kind of thing, it is distressing and embarrassing. Now I feel behooved to take a stand, put my own impartiality aside, and stand with the man who I cherish above everything and everyone else in this world. I let him down... and that will haunt me for a long time.
Simply put - Sylphi was rude, did not take the time to read his posts carefully (leading to replies that had little to do with anything he actually said), refused to take any care to be calm and rational, and caused a great deal of unnecessary comotion, which made several people uncomfortable.
I just do not want that kind of thing going on in our wheres, and Sqarr has had all of those posts deleted. I apologize if they contained any pieces of anyone.
Sqarr did his level best, on the other hand, to keep his calm, and to answer with precision, professionalism, and patience. HE was misunderstood. HE was treated with condescention and disrespect. HE went the extra mile, trying time after time to explain, re-explain, and even shared personal information about things which had made an impact on both of our lives. I refrain from saying more about him.
I realize I am stepping in too late, that it is over, and that everyone has moved on, but I am responsible for doing Sqarr a disservice by holding my tongue and not supporting him. It may have not gone as far as it did had I said something from the beginning, saving them both a lot of time, trouble, and emotion.
I want all of this to remain behind us. I want no comments, no answers, and no messages. I will not tolerate this kind of thing again, even though I realize it could be unpleasant, something I bend over backwards to try and avoid, for everyone's sake.
I owe them both an apology. I am sorry Sylphi...
And I am much more sorry to you, Mate. It will not happen again.
I want to underscore a few things before I end this:
-- S`qarr is my Mate, and my first loyalties will always be to him.
-- It is with his permission, support, understanding, generosity, tolerance, and guidance that I remain on Gaia.
With my sincere regards to all of you...
Mahayr
