MistressOfTheShadows
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- Posted: Tue, 02 Sep 2014 19:19:43 +0000
I wonder that sometimes, because I'm a very "open" person with everyone I meet irl. I make no effort to hide my thoughts or opinions, I just say things as they pop into my head, I wear my heart on my sleeve and freely express my emotions as I feel them and to the extent I feel them, and I'm unafraid and unashamed to just be myself and show them the real me. I don't see any reason to hide my personality or anything I think and feel because I believe as long as you're not doing any thing wrong, why should you be quiet or sneaky or act like you have something to hide? Generally I'll tell my life story to anyone, and if I think someone doesn't understand me I'll explain myself as many times and ways as I need to make it make sense to them and use as many details as I can. I do this because I wanna make sure they understand me. Generally I 1st explain myself in an average straightforward way that's not too detailed or too complex, if they seem lost I'll go into more detail, if they still don't get it I try to use metaphors and similes to paint pictures with my words, then if I think that's going over their head I'll explain myself very simply like I'm talking to a young child or someone with a very low IQ. I don't know why, but most people usefully get mad at me and stomp off in a huff if they don't get it by then. I really don't get why, because I'm actually a really nice, friendly, generous, thoughtful person who loves helping people and goes out of her way to understand other peoples thoughts and feelings. I'm the kind who would always be a very true and loyal friend to the end, I'm genuine and real and not a pretender, what I show them is the real me and what they get, they they don't want to except me as a reality instead of just a poser or someone who's too good to be true!
Why do you think people fear me? Is it because I'm like a gift or a compliment in walking talking human form that they don't feel they deserve to have and hate the thought of being obligated to return that favor to by paying me the same kindness, respect, thoughtfulness, generosity, trust, openness and understanding I show them? I think some people might also recognize that I'm too easy to like once they get to know me and fear that they may have to change the opinion they formed on 1st impression or based on what someone else said and don't want to admit to themselves they were wrong... which is dumb in my opinion because often times they didn't even share that opinion with me that they are afraid to change so I couldn't judge them for it. That and I'm very forgiving, I can't help but give people as many chances as they need. I think that's another expectation they fear having put upon them. I think everyone is just scared off by do unto others as you would want done onto you because they think, if she's treating me this way she expects me to treat her this way. Truthfully, not "necessarily" it would be nice, and it's something I "hope for" but not something I expect, I learned years ago not to do that... Truthfully I'm perfectly content and satisfied with someone being my friend even if they can never repay my kindness, thoughtfulness, trust, generosity, forgiveness, understand, and respect on the same level.
Why do you think people fear me? Is it because I'm like a gift or a compliment in walking talking human form that they don't feel they deserve to have and hate the thought of being obligated to return that favor to by paying me the same kindness, respect, thoughtfulness, generosity, trust, openness and understanding I show them? I think some people might also recognize that I'm too easy to like once they get to know me and fear that they may have to change the opinion they formed on 1st impression or based on what someone else said and don't want to admit to themselves they were wrong... which is dumb in my opinion because often times they didn't even share that opinion with me that they are afraid to change so I couldn't judge them for it. That and I'm very forgiving, I can't help but give people as many chances as they need. I think that's another expectation they fear having put upon them. I think everyone is just scared off by do unto others as you would want done onto you because they think, if she's treating me this way she expects me to treat her this way. Truthfully, not "necessarily" it would be nice, and it's something I "hope for" but not something I expect, I learned years ago not to do that... Truthfully I'm perfectly content and satisfied with someone being my friend even if they can never repay my kindness, thoughtfulness, trust, generosity, forgiveness, understand, and respect on the same level.