well murr
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- Posted: Mon, 12 Jan 2015 03:31:04 +0000
I know you are asking for responses from trans people, but I have a friend that I knew for two years before he transitioned. I knew him by his birth name, gender, and lifestyle. I saw him struggle to keep close to people that had a hard time adjusting to who he was and the entire transition process. It's been over 7 years since then and he has fully transitioned and moved forward with his life. He still has several of his childhood friends, as well as a few friends, myself included, that he met before transitioning. I think that the most important thing to keep in mind is that sometimes people around you need time to adjust to the situation. Even if they don't understand or full accept it right away it doesn't mean that they aren't willing to. I've seen a lot of people expect instant acceptance or instant understanding. It is important for them to respect your wishes and allow you to be who you really are, but it still takes them time to fully understand the process. They haven't lived with the problem of being in the wrong body and they don't always know how to react to it. Just be mindful that struggling with the process doesn't mean that they don't or won't accept you fully.