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- Posted: Mon, 04 Mar 2013 13:28:07 +0000
Hey everyone, this is something that has been bugging me for a while and I could use some impartial advice on.
So there are two guys that I have feelings for but I don't know how to handle that or act on it in any way.
Guy A I met during my first couple weeks of college and we struck up a sort of friends with benefits situation. I was a virgin when I met him, although giving my virginity to him wasn't a big deal and not something I want to be a major factor in where I go from here. I got emotionally attached and freaked because he said he didn't want a girlfriend which is where Guy B comes in.
So I went out drinking with a few of my friends, got the drunkest I've ever been (not blackout) and since he said he (Guy A) didn't want a girlfriend, I went back to Guy B's place. Some clothing was removed but we mostly just made out and then we both fell asleep so I stayed over.
I thought that was the end of it, but then he messaged me the day after and seemed to want to see if things could go anywhere. Long story short we met up a few times and made out sober.
Even though I wasn't dating Guy A I felt guilty and that he had a right to know, so I told him about Guy B. He responded with "I was going to ask you out, but now I don't know if I can trust you" etc etc. So I told Guy B that I needed to sort my s**t out, and he said if things didn't work out I should let him know because he felt potential between us.
So that's where I am now. Additional information is that I've already become integrated in Guy A's friend group and they all say we're dating, and that I really like all his friends but that he can be kind of a jerk sometimes. In contrast Guy B is nothing but sweet, but we've gotten weird in person ever since I told him I was trying to figure things out. I don't know if that means he's really interested or really not interested.
I apologize for the wall and thank anyone who took the time to read this mess.
So there are two guys that I have feelings for but I don't know how to handle that or act on it in any way.
Guy A I met during my first couple weeks of college and we struck up a sort of friends with benefits situation. I was a virgin when I met him, although giving my virginity to him wasn't a big deal and not something I want to be a major factor in where I go from here. I got emotionally attached and freaked because he said he didn't want a girlfriend which is where Guy B comes in.
So I went out drinking with a few of my friends, got the drunkest I've ever been (not blackout) and since he said he (Guy A) didn't want a girlfriend, I went back to Guy B's place. Some clothing was removed but we mostly just made out and then we both fell asleep so I stayed over.
I thought that was the end of it, but then he messaged me the day after and seemed to want to see if things could go anywhere. Long story short we met up a few times and made out sober.
Even though I wasn't dating Guy A I felt guilty and that he had a right to know, so I told him about Guy B. He responded with "I was going to ask you out, but now I don't know if I can trust you" etc etc. So I told Guy B that I needed to sort my s**t out, and he said if things didn't work out I should let him know because he felt potential between us.
So that's where I am now. Additional information is that I've already become integrated in Guy A's friend group and they all say we're dating, and that I really like all his friends but that he can be kind of a jerk sometimes. In contrast Guy B is nothing but sweet, but we've gotten weird in person ever since I told him I was trying to figure things out. I don't know if that means he's really interested or really not interested.
I apologize for the wall and thank anyone who took the time to read this mess.