Stephnananana
âš“ This should be a serious red flag in your relationship.
He's trying to guilt trip you into moving out with him asap under no reasoning.
It doesn't sound like you have a bad home life, neither of you have jobs, you have college aspirations, whats the rush?
I suggest breaking up with him because if he's trying to guilt trip you on this you can bet he'll be doing it for a lot of other things as well.
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my parents are just really unreasonable sometimes
idk sometimes he's just really childish and bad about his emotions
sometimes he threatens to break up with me and this causes me a lot of distress and i originally let it go because, well, perhaps he has his reasons but later on he confessed to me he only did it to get a rise out of me and for attention and this really blew my gasket as this is the exact same behavior he complained of his ex doing
it was also confirmed recently when he broke up with me and my parents cut off my phone and internet as punishment for something, and i didn't reply to any texts/calls/IMS/etc. within a day of his proclamation of breaking up with me he was asking me to come back :/
he has a lot of bad habits and things that cause me emotional turmoil. as a child of abuse, i try to understand that sometimes i can be more sensitive than other people but some things just arent acceptable. whenever i bring them up he tells me he'll be better if i was there all the time to work on them and idk that doesn't sit right with me
i care about him a lot but he seems really emotionally unstable and just. i guess im beginning to get a little bitter. in his 'break-up' message i never read until a day or so later, he called me unhealthy and i dont really see that as fair to me. and the reason we 'broke up' is because i didn't want to go move out. and it was an entire s**t sauce with him saying stuff like 'i need a real woman' and im getting angry now lol. idk i don't even consider myself a woman, i'm still a kid who just turned 18
i mean i love him but im EIGHTEEN you know what i mean?? ive known him since i was 15 and a half and a part of me may also just be confusing love with attachment. i feel like moving in with someone ive been with for 2 years is rushing things a lot. like a lot a lot and im just beginning my life as a semi-adult.
i could try explaining this to him but i dont think he'd understand. we both suffer from depression though his is how mine used to be. he has this grand idea that me being there would alleviate it and thats also something that bothers me a lot cuz i dont wanna be with someone just cuz it'll make them not depressed if that makes sense? again, i tried bringing that up and he just goes 'well i dont have a lot to be happy about' and idk neither do i?? i don't have any friends (not 'i have fake friends', i literally have NO friends or fake ones), and my family is very dysfunctional. so i tried drawing and honestly it makes me a little happy i really love improving. i suggested a hobby of some sort and he just threw it out like 'some hobby isn't going to make me feel better' but i honestly don't think anything will make him feel better sometimes :/ he always feels like things have to go his way, even if other people tell him it's not a good idea, he'll keep railing for what he thinks is right.
idk he's really involved with me and when i was like 15 that was cool cuz i needed attention but i really want him to be active in things that DONT have to do with me and whenever i do that he takes it as like a slight or something. like, my drawing, he thought i took up drawing because i wanted to do anything other than look at him.
??????????
that makes ZERO sense and i told him that.
i think i might just suffer from really bad attachment because i dont get attention from anyone else. like, my parents will be nice to me sometimes but they're also really mean to me a lot of the time too, and i think i just found someone else to do that :/
im sorry if im unloading a lot on you lol i just really started to think about it