Teh Grimster
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- Posted: Mon, 07 Jul 2008 16:39:46 +0000
Hi LI. I'm an 18-year-old girl. My boyfriend and I have been dating for roughly 6 months, with a break that lasted all of last month.
My boyfriend works at a Christian summer camp as head lifeguard. He's eating and sleeping there for the rest of the summer to prepare for living away from home in university. He gets paid very well but he barely has any free time. He is usually let off after supper around 6 PM during the weekdays, with an 11 PM curfew. Then he gets Saturday afternoons and Sunday mornings off. Sunday mornings he goes to church. Since he's decided to work there all summer, he wasn't allowed to have the car since his parents would need it.
I've seen my boyfriend 3 times since school ended. 2 of those have been pretty rushed, where he only came over to my house and cuddled with me on the couch for an hour or so. The third, last Thursday, was a proper date and we had time to have dinner as well as get intimate. It was probably the best evening of my life.
The problem is, every time I ask him when I'll see him next as he's getting ready to leave, he shrugs and says "we'll play it by ear." This is because although he is technically free after 6 PM, he still has his friends from the camp and from school to hang out with. I don't mind that at all, and in fact I encourage it. I just wish he could be more concrete about his dates with me. He's never been a good planner (our plans usually always get postponed or cancelled).
So it's been 4 days since I last saw him. He has a cell phone but I'm scared to call or text him because I don't want to come off as clingy. So I'm just sitting here in the dark, waiting for his next visit.
The thing is, tomorrow is my birthday and I am expecting him to drop by. But at the same time, I don't want to get my hopes up because I hate being disappointed by him. I understand that he's busy but we've barely seen each other since summer started and it'd be a little cold-hearted of him to forget about my birthday. It's sad because I can see him doing it.
What can I do to take my mind off these thoughts LI? I don't want to be sitting around waiting for him.
My boyfriend works at a Christian summer camp as head lifeguard. He's eating and sleeping there for the rest of the summer to prepare for living away from home in university. He gets paid very well but he barely has any free time. He is usually let off after supper around 6 PM during the weekdays, with an 11 PM curfew. Then he gets Saturday afternoons and Sunday mornings off. Sunday mornings he goes to church. Since he's decided to work there all summer, he wasn't allowed to have the car since his parents would need it.
I've seen my boyfriend 3 times since school ended. 2 of those have been pretty rushed, where he only came over to my house and cuddled with me on the couch for an hour or so. The third, last Thursday, was a proper date and we had time to have dinner as well as get intimate. It was probably the best evening of my life.
The problem is, every time I ask him when I'll see him next as he's getting ready to leave, he shrugs and says "we'll play it by ear." This is because although he is technically free after 6 PM, he still has his friends from the camp and from school to hang out with. I don't mind that at all, and in fact I encourage it. I just wish he could be more concrete about his dates with me. He's never been a good planner (our plans usually always get postponed or cancelled).
So it's been 4 days since I last saw him. He has a cell phone but I'm scared to call or text him because I don't want to come off as clingy. So I'm just sitting here in the dark, waiting for his next visit.
The thing is, tomorrow is my birthday and I am expecting him to drop by. But at the same time, I don't want to get my hopes up because I hate being disappointed by him. I understand that he's busy but we've barely seen each other since summer started and it'd be a little cold-hearted of him to forget about my birthday. It's sad because I can see him doing it.
What can I do to take my mind off these thoughts LI? I don't want to be sitting around waiting for him.