CupiCupcake
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- Posted: Mon, 08 Sep 2014 19:30:42 +0000
Hello, I'm an social anxiety ridden nerdy person. I know some people here are super cool, party hardy types, and I guess I kinda wanted less, what should I do, and more, please help me comprehend my roommate because I'm too much of a huge sissy pants to talk to her, and pretty much all my hypothetical talks with her include yelling.
Anyway, I hate my roommate. On the first night I got here, she had received a bong. I attended a party and left immediately to the horrific smell of weed. Now almost every night I have to deal with that smell and her giggly friends when I'm trying to do homework. She invites people over without confirming it with me first, so random people come over constantly. I'm not sure if that is actually a problem or I'm just overreacting to that. It also includes boys, which makes me uncomfortable, because the bathroom sink is in the main living area, so I can't take my shirt off to shave without being afraid a guy is going to burst through the door.
She also thinks everything in the main living space belongs to her, I will put mail, like new papers, magazines, and other free stuff on the kitchen counter walk away, and she will take off with it. She will also take furniture into her room without asking my permission first.
At night she always has people over, while I can work perfectly fine with music playing, what I can't do is work over loud talking, and this happens almost every night. Last night she was cooking at 1 in the morning? Which I found weird, but not really offensive. This morning she was smoking weed in the dorm with a guy friend. I always assumed that alcohol and weed were the same when like, you don't really do it in the morning. So not only at night, but during the day am I being assaulted by the foul smell of marijuana. We aren't even aloud to have it in the dorm, and we are both under 21, which is the legal smoking age here.
I usually shut myself in my room when she's here, I hate having to go out when she's here, I really hate her and everything she does.
Anyway that's my rant. What I'm looking for:
Not necessarily advice per say(ya'know, the old'just talk to her') But more, maybe someone could calmly(or violently shake me while screaming) provide me insight on whether or not, I'm being a huge stick in the mud, or what my roommate reasons for everything is so I could understand. I'm sick of my family telling me, no I'm right, because they're my dumb family and they have to.
Not checking for typos because I don't have the time right now, just ask me to clarify if need be.
Anyway, I hate my roommate. On the first night I got here, she had received a bong. I attended a party and left immediately to the horrific smell of weed. Now almost every night I have to deal with that smell and her giggly friends when I'm trying to do homework. She invites people over without confirming it with me first, so random people come over constantly. I'm not sure if that is actually a problem or I'm just overreacting to that. It also includes boys, which makes me uncomfortable, because the bathroom sink is in the main living area, so I can't take my shirt off to shave without being afraid a guy is going to burst through the door.
She also thinks everything in the main living space belongs to her, I will put mail, like new papers, magazines, and other free stuff on the kitchen counter walk away, and she will take off with it. She will also take furniture into her room without asking my permission first.
At night she always has people over, while I can work perfectly fine with music playing, what I can't do is work over loud talking, and this happens almost every night. Last night she was cooking at 1 in the morning? Which I found weird, but not really offensive. This morning she was smoking weed in the dorm with a guy friend. I always assumed that alcohol and weed were the same when like, you don't really do it in the morning. So not only at night, but during the day am I being assaulted by the foul smell of marijuana. We aren't even aloud to have it in the dorm, and we are both under 21, which is the legal smoking age here.
I usually shut myself in my room when she's here, I hate having to go out when she's here, I really hate her and everything she does.
Anyway that's my rant. What I'm looking for:
Not necessarily advice per say(ya'know, the old'just talk to her') But more, maybe someone could calmly(or violently shake me while screaming) provide me insight on whether or not, I'm being a huge stick in the mud, or what my roommate reasons for everything is so I could understand. I'm sick of my family telling me, no I'm right, because they're my dumb family and they have to.
Not checking for typos because I don't have the time right now, just ask me to clarify if need be.