Rath Roiben Ryee
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- Posted: Mon, 14 Apr 2014 05:39:09 +0000
i have a very hard time getting emotions out, expressing them, or even talking about how i feel. i mainly have a blank face and have a very hard time getting along with people who can express emotions like nothing because i make it seem like i don't care at all or appear annoyed, then they get upset because unfortunately i mainly just sit there or accidentally sound rude to them and upset them more.
my girlfriend is one that can easily express her emotions to me and tell me what is wrong - while i just hide everything that i feel and things that bother me. i know it's bad for me to probably do that, but i really can't help it. now this issue of mine seems to be troubling our relationship. because, honestly, i will just not talk to her if i am angered or upset or anything. or if i get mad or annoyed i'll shut myself up and not speak and pay attention to something else. i know that is awful and i have no excuse for it; i'm just very independent and prefer to be left alone during that time. she knows this but still gets upset with me so i tend to lash out then.
she also wants me to talk to her about things that are bothering me, but i'd prefer to do things on my own. then she gets upset when i don't, then that angers me and it's just a cycle of anger and annoyance if something troubling comes up or something stressful is happening.
she is trying to get me to express my problems and how i feel to her, but it never works. i have tried to...express myself but it never worked - the people seemed to brush it aside or believe that i was lying so why bother to try with that anymore?
i'm just not too sure about this whole thing. i have explained to her how i am and even if it's not good or healthy or whatever it just happens.
i don't know if there is any way to help with this whole emotional/expressing issue or what. but i was just hoping if someone could help me with how to deal with this for relationship wise. i would like if i not made her feel bad for my problems, but i'm just not sure how. this whole thing is rather ridiculous though...
my girlfriend is one that can easily express her emotions to me and tell me what is wrong - while i just hide everything that i feel and things that bother me. i know it's bad for me to probably do that, but i really can't help it. now this issue of mine seems to be troubling our relationship. because, honestly, i will just not talk to her if i am angered or upset or anything. or if i get mad or annoyed i'll shut myself up and not speak and pay attention to something else. i know that is awful and i have no excuse for it; i'm just very independent and prefer to be left alone during that time. she knows this but still gets upset with me so i tend to lash out then.
she also wants me to talk to her about things that are bothering me, but i'd prefer to do things on my own. then she gets upset when i don't, then that angers me and it's just a cycle of anger and annoyance if something troubling comes up or something stressful is happening.
she is trying to get me to express my problems and how i feel to her, but it never works. i have tried to...express myself but it never worked - the people seemed to brush it aside or believe that i was lying so why bother to try with that anymore?
i'm just not too sure about this whole thing. i have explained to her how i am and even if it's not good or healthy or whatever it just happens.
i don't know if there is any way to help with this whole emotional/expressing issue or what. but i was just hoping if someone could help me with how to deal with this for relationship wise. i would like if i not made her feel bad for my problems, but i'm just not sure how. this whole thing is rather ridiculous though...