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- Posted: Sat, 17 Jan 2015 17:43:55 +0000
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In a shocking interview in New York Magazine’s “Science Of Us” column, an anonymous 18-year-old woman talks openly about her romantic relationship with her biological father — whom she met after years of being estranged.
We know this as adult incest — an illegal activity in all U.S. states with the exception of Rhode Island and New Jersey — but there’s a more scientific term for the““intense romantic and sexual feelings” felt between estranged family members. It’s called Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA).
Scientists who have studied the phenomenon explain it as “including a primordial feeling of always having ‘belonged’ to the estranged relative, a sense of wanting to experience the bonding missed out on during childhood, or simply an overwhelming closeness based on similarities.”
While the interview with the woman is riveting in its entirety, below are a few choice quotes that will answer your most, uh, pressing questions about the matter:
On her romantic/sexual history:
In fifth grade I dated a boy for two years. But one night he got drunk and had sex with a girl who ended up pregnant. It f**ked everything up. I told him he had to go and be with this girl and take care of the kid…I had a girlfriend in middle school and that was the most major sexual experience I’d ever had. But she was very religious and every time we were intimate she would sob and read me verses out of the Bible. It made me feel like I’d hurt her.
On reconnecting with her dad:
We chitchatted online for a few days and found out we were similar. We shared the same favorite TV shows — The Simpsons and The Big Bang Theory — and we both love to draw. He came to see me about a week later. You wouldn’t have believed we hadn’t been around each other for 12 years. The idea of “getting to know him” seemed strange because we are so much alike. He came and hung out all day and then I asked to come spend a week with him — he lived in a small town about 30 minutes away. I think my mom knew I was going to move out and it really was getting to the point where I needed to escape, she was so controlling.
On feeling an instant attraction to her father:
It was so weird and confusing. I was seeing my dad for the first time in forever but it was also like, He’s so good-looking! And then I was like,What the hell are you thinking? What is wrong with you? I saw him as my dad but then also part of me was like, I’m meeting this guy who I have been talking to over the internet and really connecting with and I find him attractive.
On how the relationship turned sexual:
[We] were play-wrestling in the room I was going to sleep in and I bit him. He was wearing a pair of basketball shorts and a tank top and after I bit him I could see goose bumps pop up from his toes to his shoulders. Then he pinched my inner thigh and I got goose bumps. We stopped and said that we didn’t know what was going on but admitted that we had strong feelings for each other. We discussed whether it was wrong and then we kissed. And then we made out, and then we made love for the first time. That was when I lost my virginity.
On their first sexual experience:
It was insanely sensual. It lasted for about an hour and there was a lot of foreplay. We both had orgasms. We are so similar, so it’s so easy to sexually please each other. For example, we both love neck-biting. I’ve never been in a more passionate, loving, fulfilling situation.
On whether or not the father/daughter dynamic affects their sex life:
[It] has come up a couple of times when one of us blurts out “baby girl” or “daddy” or something. Last time it happened, we both stood up and stopped doing what we were doing. It caught us off guard.
On their unusual living arrangements:
[He] was with a woman for eight years and she’s now our roommate. Talk about awkward for the first three months! She found out [about us] when she heard us making love. I guess we didn’t realize how thin the bedroom floor was. She really didn’t mind. Now we’re like a little family. She calls me her daughter.
On when she just needs a dad:
When I need my dad I say, “Hey, Dad, I need you.” And then he’s not going to be my fiancé or my boyfriend, but my father.
On their wedding plans:
[We] aren’t doing a white wedding. The color scheme is black and purple, and we are both going to wear Converse tennis shoes. He’s wearing jeans and a nice dress shirt. He says he’s not wearing a bow tie, but it’s my wedding and I am saying that he is. My best friend will be my maid of honor and she’ll be dressed in purple. My grandmother and grandfather — my fiancé’s parents — are going to attend and my grandpa will give me away. The tables will have bouquets of trees without leaves to represent our marriage, which will be like a growing tree. My dress will be black…We plan to move to New Jersey where we can be safe under the law, since adult incest isn’t illegal there, and once I’m there I’ll tell everyone. I’ll call my mom and let her know that we are in love and we are having children.
On their plans to start a family:
We’ll have kids together. We’ve decided that most likely we won’t [tell them we are father and daughter]. I don’t want to give them any problems…I wouldn’t risk having a kid if I thought it would be harmful. I’ve done my research. Everybody thinks that kids born in incestuous relationships will definitely have genetic problems, but that’s not true.
We know this as adult incest — an illegal activity in all U.S. states with the exception of Rhode Island and New Jersey — but there’s a more scientific term for the““intense romantic and sexual feelings” felt between estranged family members. It’s called Genetic Sexual Attraction (GSA).
Scientists who have studied the phenomenon explain it as “including a primordial feeling of always having ‘belonged’ to the estranged relative, a sense of wanting to experience the bonding missed out on during childhood, or simply an overwhelming closeness based on similarities.”
While the interview with the woman is riveting in its entirety, below are a few choice quotes that will answer your most, uh, pressing questions about the matter:
On her romantic/sexual history:
In fifth grade I dated a boy for two years. But one night he got drunk and had sex with a girl who ended up pregnant. It f**ked everything up. I told him he had to go and be with this girl and take care of the kid…I had a girlfriend in middle school and that was the most major sexual experience I’d ever had. But she was very religious and every time we were intimate she would sob and read me verses out of the Bible. It made me feel like I’d hurt her.
On reconnecting with her dad:
We chitchatted online for a few days and found out we were similar. We shared the same favorite TV shows — The Simpsons and The Big Bang Theory — and we both love to draw. He came to see me about a week later. You wouldn’t have believed we hadn’t been around each other for 12 years. The idea of “getting to know him” seemed strange because we are so much alike. He came and hung out all day and then I asked to come spend a week with him — he lived in a small town about 30 minutes away. I think my mom knew I was going to move out and it really was getting to the point where I needed to escape, she was so controlling.
On feeling an instant attraction to her father:
It was so weird and confusing. I was seeing my dad for the first time in forever but it was also like, He’s so good-looking! And then I was like,What the hell are you thinking? What is wrong with you? I saw him as my dad but then also part of me was like, I’m meeting this guy who I have been talking to over the internet and really connecting with and I find him attractive.
On how the relationship turned sexual:
[We] were play-wrestling in the room I was going to sleep in and I bit him. He was wearing a pair of basketball shorts and a tank top and after I bit him I could see goose bumps pop up from his toes to his shoulders. Then he pinched my inner thigh and I got goose bumps. We stopped and said that we didn’t know what was going on but admitted that we had strong feelings for each other. We discussed whether it was wrong and then we kissed. And then we made out, and then we made love for the first time. That was when I lost my virginity.
On their first sexual experience:
It was insanely sensual. It lasted for about an hour and there was a lot of foreplay. We both had orgasms. We are so similar, so it’s so easy to sexually please each other. For example, we both love neck-biting. I’ve never been in a more passionate, loving, fulfilling situation.
On whether or not the father/daughter dynamic affects their sex life:
[It] has come up a couple of times when one of us blurts out “baby girl” or “daddy” or something. Last time it happened, we both stood up and stopped doing what we were doing. It caught us off guard.
On their unusual living arrangements:
[He] was with a woman for eight years and she’s now our roommate. Talk about awkward for the first three months! She found out [about us] when she heard us making love. I guess we didn’t realize how thin the bedroom floor was. She really didn’t mind. Now we’re like a little family. She calls me her daughter.
On when she just needs a dad:
When I need my dad I say, “Hey, Dad, I need you.” And then he’s not going to be my fiancé or my boyfriend, but my father.
On their wedding plans:
[We] aren’t doing a white wedding. The color scheme is black and purple, and we are both going to wear Converse tennis shoes. He’s wearing jeans and a nice dress shirt. He says he’s not wearing a bow tie, but it’s my wedding and I am saying that he is. My best friend will be my maid of honor and she’ll be dressed in purple. My grandmother and grandfather — my fiancé’s parents — are going to attend and my grandpa will give me away. The tables will have bouquets of trees without leaves to represent our marriage, which will be like a growing tree. My dress will be black…We plan to move to New Jersey where we can be safe under the law, since adult incest isn’t illegal there, and once I’m there I’ll tell everyone. I’ll call my mom and let her know that we are in love and we are having children.
On their plans to start a family:
We’ll have kids together. We’ve decided that most likely we won’t [tell them we are father and daughter]. I don’t want to give them any problems…I wouldn’t risk having a kid if I thought it would be harmful. I’ve done my research. Everybody thinks that kids born in incestuous relationships will definitely have genetic problems, but that’s not true.
Source
Full Interview via NY mag
Love is love! Stop the hatred! Stop the bigotry! rofl
