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Post: 78334911_16 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:01:59 +0000
Posted: Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:01:59 +0000

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Well... Yes, they do.
According to my Social Science professor...
People usually get married around 15 and up... Scary, but that's the way it is. eek

Haha! Oh, I am. 3nodding
I'm half Japanese and American.
Currently live in the Philippines though... sweatdrop

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Post: 78334911_17 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:07:52 +0000
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Hmm... True.
I don't intend to hide from her parents at all.
Nor do I intend to take this any further.

Perhaps waiting for her to reach 18 is wise... sweatdrop

It can't be longer than a year. It's probably quite less than that, unless she just had a birthday.

As a Japanese American immigrant... If you return to the US with her it's also wise to wait until she's 18 at least if you try to do something like that, I have no idea what your goals are really.

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Post: 78334911_18 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:14:04 +0000
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Actually... Yes, she just turned 17... in January I think.
And actually, she's a Filipino/American citizen herself.

Hmm... Perhaps waiting would indeed be best.
Don't plan to take her back to the US or Japan for that matter.
Life in the Philippines has been good thus far.

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Post: 78334911_19 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:15:53 +0000
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Okay so...
I actually met a girl a few months ago. She's 17... I'm 20...
We're friends...
But the thought that we could be more than that keeps nagging at me...

Now... There have been countless cases of age defying relationships.
But what I really want to know is:
Can love truly work despite clear differences in age?
Is it moral for older people to date younger people, or vice versa?

So... I wanna hear your thought Gaians! Discuss!

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Post: 78334911_20 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:32:21 +0000
Posted: Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:32:21 +0000

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Three years isn't that big of a difference.

That being said, I find that I don't have much in common with women who are more than 5 - 8 years younger than me.

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Post: 78334911_21 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:42:59 +0000
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My partner is 5 years older than me, and we've been together longer than you've been alive. He was also one of the younger guys I dated. Age differences don't matter much, even less the longer you are together.

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Post: 78334911_22 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:55:37 +0000
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Hawanja

Hmm... Well, three years still presents a clear gap though.
I dunno... Maybe it's just me. confused

Well, I'm sure you'll find someone who shares common interests. 3nodding

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Post: 78334911_23 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 14:57:42 +0000
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Ah, I see...
Well, if you've managed to work things out...
There may be hope for me yet... Or not. sweatdrop

Congrats by the way! 3nodding

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Post: 78334911_24 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 15:38:49 +0000
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It has and can. This is only one example, but my niece(turned 17 this past December) is dating a 19 yr old (will turn 20 in a couple of months) and their relationship is lovely. Eye-rollingly so, LOL! The thing seems pretty serious. The only thing I have against him, is she drives 2 hrs to get him every weekend, but he doesn't bother getting a ride to come to her. Other than that, they might as well be a married couple!

3 years isn't that much of a difference though. Plus, isn't 17 legal all over US?

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Post: 78334911_25 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 15:50:03 +0000
Posted: Tue, 06 Mar 2012 15:50:03 +0000

Depends if you want the same things or not. Age differences always seem exaggerated when one party is in highschool and the other is not.

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Post: 78334911_26 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 15:51:39 +0000
Posted: Tue, 06 Mar 2012 15:51:39 +0000

Not if it's a sex crime.

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Post: 78334911_27 created on Tue, 06 Mar 2012 15:56:51 +0000
Posted: Tue, 06 Mar 2012 15:56:51 +0000

Yes they can, my mom was 18 my dad was 36 and had a previous marriage.

Thirty years later they are still very happily married and I have never in my life seen a couple more happy and in love.