brainzgoo
I get what you mean, but for me, fandoms are just as important as the show/book/game/etc. often, they'tr even more important to me, since i tend toward series that are already finished.
It's kind of an asperger's thing, too. When i'm excited by something, i NEED to talk to people about it. (Its called infodumping)
So if a fandom seems hostile or uncomfortable, I won't get into the source work. It's just not worth it for me.
Fair enough, if it's the fandom that's as important for you, then it's a darn shame.
I guess you really just need to find your own little group or nice place to get excited
and not go on tumblr. It's just unfortunate that for a show that's so progressive to have certain fans take it too far.