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Report | 05/21/2013 4:03 am

Ar-Pharazon-En-Numenor

That's pretty cool. ^-^

Report | 05/18/2013 3:26 pm

Ar-Pharazon-En-Numenor

It's been a very long time. I have been good, how about you? :] Oh and your welcome. lol

Report | 05/18/2013 7:49 am

Ar-Pharazon-En-Numenor

Nice avi. :]

Report | 02/02/2012 10:28 am

JapanUnderground

It's not something you need too thing about too much.
You just let them know in the most level-headed and sincere way possible.
It doesn't need to be force and all.
Just apologize for what you've done on your end is all and let them know why it got to that point.
And, so that a problem doesn't arise with you again, let them know you feel uncomfortable being around the smoke, and not them, and that you will respect their time to do it, by excusing yourself and going else where.
It's something you can't deal with and you don't want that to cloud you like it is.
Tell them you don't have a good experience witht that type of stuff at all.
And, if they ask what, tell them the smoking.

But, you let them apologize on their own part.
You just mean what you say is all.
I know you might like one, but don't go in expecting one.
To settle the situation a little more, you get your apology in to make yourself feel better, with the possibility of making them feel better as well.

Report | 02/01/2012 12:57 pm

JapanUnderground

Well, you are sorta.

Let me explain though.
I have a few friends who smoke it, too.
You might not like them smoking it, but they are right.
They can smoke it anywhere they please.
Though it's understandable you wanna be around you friends, you should keep yourself around something you hate just to do so.
If they can't respect the fact that you don't smoke it and pull it out in front of you to do so, then respect your choice to not be there at the time a be else where.
If anyone has a problem with you walking away, then you let them know "I don't smoke that and it bothers me. I'm walking away to respect both our choices."
I don't know your friends well, but when it comes to things like smoking and stuff, it merely the addiction that does all the talking, which is probably happeneing.

Your differences of how you and they think about smoking on clashing.
That is what brings about your ongong debate about the arguement you had.
In a way, they feel disrespected, but at the same time, they aren't thinking how they disrespected you as well.
Even if you have to walk away everyday, you do that because you're doing it for the better of yourself.
Because in a way, they are peer pressuring you, so don't fall for it.
You let them decide what kinda of friends they are by their actions.
I know it's hard to think about, but it seems like they are your friends when not smoking and aren't your friends when they are.
I'm not gonna suggest you not be friends with them.
But, you have a question to answer for yourself: "Are these people worth the stress they are causing?"
Friends or not, you do what you're doing and if they are to imatture to understand that or can't agree with it, then it's their problem.
Don't let them badger you about it.
Even if you have to distance yourself for a long time, there is time for them to realize the mistakes they made.
If not, then you have to decide if you even wanna be around them anymore, for this time being.

The only thing you did wrong, according to their standards, is telling them what to do, which is not to smoke it in front of you.
Also, that you lashed out in front of them all like you did.
The best option would have been to excuse yourself from them all and take yourself from the problem, instead.
If they can't respect that you don't wanna be around it, it's not your problem to deal with.
Everything else is their own fault.
You don't have to deal with it at all, if you don't want to.
And, keep it in your head: "Are these people really worth the stress they are causing me?"

Report | 12/06/2011 10:17 am

starr-slayer

no bf so new name lol

Report | 09/07/2011 2:07 pm

Hyourin Kishi

Yeah I'm back at college. Plus don't get on Gaia much anymore. Been playing Fiesta lately. xd

Report | 08/07/2011 12:45 pm

nero-blackheart

you have probably heard from shine about her as well, its her mom.

Report | 08/07/2011 12:40 pm

nero-blackheart

aside from the constantly nagging mother in law pretty good lol.

Report | 08/07/2011 12:35 pm

nero-blackheart

hi long time no talk. im getting back in contact with all of the cool people i have met here on gaia. so how are you?

Report | 06/08/2011 11:14 am

starr-slayer

same old s**t diff day here lol and u know u got me if u ever need to vent smile

Report | 06/07/2011 12:29 pm

starr-slayer

*huggles* whats up sweetie?

Report | 02/04/2011 3:53 pm

JapanUnderground

You don't have to thank me.
Giving advice is what I do, I guess.
A person in need of some help is a person that I sometimes can't bring myself to ignore.
Good or bad.

Report | 02/03/2011 2:18 pm

JapanUnderground

[size=9][align=center]I see what.

It seems that you kinda rushed on in at first, without knowing how you felt.

Listen here... I know that sometimes you might feel like you're in love with a person so badly, that you'd want them by your side.

It's nice that at some point when you did like him, that he returned your admiration and you two were in a relationship.

But, you HAVE to know how YOU feel about things like that BEFORE you go in.

Because if you don't know how you feel about it, but he is taking it seriously, then you're gonna have a problem on your hand when you start second guessing your own emotions.

Plus, if you broke up with him and didn't make it clear as to why, then he's gonna thing whatever he wants and it's gonna eat at him for a while.

It's a phase that we all go through when things like this happen and really does take a while to recover.

Some may not even do that and just find it easier to hold a grudge.

But, I see the reason he is doing what he is doing.

Your confusion of your own emotions towards him wasn't made clear enough, so it also confused him, too.

He probably thought you were breaking up with him for ANY reason, or NO reason at all since you didn't make your emotions clear to him as to why you two were breaking up in the first place.

Since you two were broken up, you had time alone to sit and think about things while you wee going through the break up phase.

And, after sitting and thinking, you came to the conclusion that you really did love him.

After realizing that, you know blame yourself for not realizing it any sooner and blame yourself for what happened.

As for him, you never exactly told him why.

So, as I said before, he could think that you're leaving him for ANY reason, such as: another guy, you were just using him to get what you want, you never liked him in the first place, but you dealt with him anyway, he probably did something REALLY bad, but you just don't wanna tell him, ect.

In his head could be a LOT of mind boggling reason as to why you broke up and he just can't figure it out.

That probably hurt him more than ever, which is why he just let you walk out.

People are often stunned about things like that.

You think things are going well, then all of a sudden, something come from out of nowhere and crashed down on you.

That's probably how he felt.

And, of course he would be a little upset, because things just broke off like they did.

So, the result of him treating you the way he does could be from a lot of feelings he had about the break up held inside of him for a while.

Jealousy, anger, confusion, sadness, ect.

Any one of those could be pushing him bully you and he doesn't wanna feel that way.

He is using you as a "release" to make himself feel better when he can and to make you feel down about what you did.

It's cruel, but it's common after things go down the way they just did with you and him.

The guy just needs to feel better and there is nothing more that makes him feel better than to make you feel down.

Don't mind these game of his, if you can find the courage to stand against it.

The one thing you have to remember, no matter what we say or do, is: We are all human.

You don't have to feel bad about breaking up with him because you were taking in consideration of your own feelings.

It's good that we look after ourselves, because if we don't, we can't really do it for others.

But, while you were taking your feelings into your own interest, you have to remember that you hurt his as well.

The ONLY thing that you can probably do with him to set things right is to do something that you two never really did when you were in a relationship: Just talk it out.

Talk to him.

Whether is seems like you can get it out or not, tell him the reason(s) for your break up and that reason is:

1.) [b]That you just didn't think things through, before you two hooked up.[/b]

2.) [b]That you started to become a little confused about it after things were not

Report | 02/03/2011 1:14 pm

JapanUnderground

Did you two talk things out much?
What reason did you tell him that you wanted to break up with him?

Report | 02/03/2011 12:16 pm

JapanUnderground

What do you mean by not knowing how you felt?
What is that you you didn't know what you felt towards?
And, what do you mean by you wanting to do things?

Also, try to use a bit more grammer and spelling, I just need to read it right.
I'm just not use to seeing things like this and I need all the letters all words or I don't know what's a typo or not or how to even make it out.
' ';;

And, if you'd like to talk on a private matter about this, you cam PM it, so others won't see.
But, in order for me to help you out or give advice, I need you to be in as much detail as possible about what is going on.
If there is something you DON'T want me to know, than you don't have to say it.
But, if you ARE going to tell me something, then try not to sugarcoat it.
:3

Report | 02/02/2011 1:19 pm

JapanUnderground

Guess the guy just feels really unforgiving about what you did.
Listen, I can't tell you about who you can love and not, but if there is someone that is making you feel bad, on purpose, and you're hurting and blaming yourself because of that, then you either gotta REALLY step up and let the guy know, or just forget him.
I'm sure you don't like the guy because he's making you feel bad.
What exactly did you do or say to the guy to make him act so cold?
Because if you want him back, then it sounds like you have to do some serious work.
No one likes having to break up, so he still might be affected by it and just can't seem to forgive you for probably making him feel bad.
What was the reason for your break up?

Report | 02/02/2011 1:05 pm

JapanUnderground

Do you at least talk to him?
Like by phone or email?
If you can talk to him, you should try to arrange a meet up, but don't tell him what it's for, unless you have to.

Report | 02/02/2011 12:36 pm

JapanUnderground

I can understand how you feel sorta.
I guess you can say I'm in the same boat... There is someone I can't get over as well.
But, if you got your heart set on him, then take your time and think about what you wanna say.
There is REALLY much to think about when it comes to your feeling, but remember this: The past doesn't matter all that much.
You look into the past to correct your mistakes, but you don't have to bring them up out loud.
You were the one that broke up with him and you said you tried to hurt him, so don't mind it if he isn't as forgiving about it, than you think he might be or still holds a grudge and wants to make you feel bad.
One of the hardest things in the world is telling someone the truth and one of the greatest things in the world is overcoming hardships.
So, if you be honest about how you feel and get it out, regardless of how you feel, then you can never go wrong.
Just give it your best shot.

Also... I know It's not my business of WHERE you tell him, but I'd like to suggest you do this somewhere that isn't in a bar.
If any one of you are drinkers, than you don't want your feelings influenced by drinks.
^^;;
Try going to like an eating place with tables, and maybe make a very small order, so that you have time to talk.
Or might I suggest one of your houses?
A beach, if your close to one?
Talk to him ANYWHERE where one of you won't be distracted, something is more likely to happen, and someplace you both are comfortable at.
I'd feel bad for you, if you were talking to him in a bar and a bar brawl broke out or one of you is drunk.
XD;;
Unless you feel comfortable in a bar, then go ahead and do so.

Report | 02/02/2011 12:20 pm

starr-slayer

well i wanted to lol an ur welcome smile

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