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 Posted: Sun Apr 29, 2007 7:26 pm
I don't get it. I'm really worried / pissed off at one of my closest friends. I'm not going to tell her story, but I can say that based on past events, I'm worried about her and suicide. Honestly, it pisses me off to no end when she...
A.) Says, "If it weren't for you, I'd have blown my brains out by now."
B.) Says, "If you ever died, they might as well make it a double funeral."
C.) Posts things on LiveJournal just because I'm "not on there that often" and uses my name, and specifically says that there's things she's not telling me, along with "I can't picture myself making it past my 19th birthday.
I honestly feel like I can't have any problems and talk to her about it, because either she'll get upset, or she'll just compare it to what she's been through. She tells me that I can tell her anything, but if I say something that she doesn't agree with even a little, she goes freaking insane over it, and calls me a b***h when all I'm doing is trying to explain something.
I know she's been through a lot, but I can't help getting severely pissed when she makes it clear that she thinks the world and I owe her something.
Like letting her move into my house isn't enough.
Just that much should let her know that she's got something going for her in the future.
I guess I'm asking you how I can deal with her without triggering something that'll make her do something stupid.
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Posted: Sun Apr 29, 2007 9:07 pm
Your friend feeds off of guilt and pity. Incredibly unhealthy. Unfortunately, there's very little that you specifically can do to help her grow out of this, so I suggest recommending that she seek professional counseling.
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Posted: Thu May 03, 2007 5:24 pm
She needs professional help. To a point it's good to be supportive of your friends and help them through hard times. However it sounds like she is trying to use you as her sole support system, and that's really not healthy for you. You have a right to your own life and it's time to step in and get her some outside help.
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Posted: Sun Jun 24, 2007 2:00 am
grow the ******** up.
take some responsibility, she is dependent of you so you need to be strong. for her. understand?
your relationship with her isn't fair, you're the giver and she's the taker. it should stay like that because she may die.
you know, i feel bad for talking to you like an a*****e, because you're a girl, but that doesn't matter. it doesn't make a difference.
she needs someone to lean on and you have to be there for her. if you want to tell someone how sad you are, how depressed you are, how much stress you're under, then it can't be her.
be supportive.
and... try not to take my words too personally.
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